What's the stigma: Colleges with a high number of kids from your HS

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Anonymous wrote:Help me understand "13th grade"

Just saw this recently in one of the threads.

Why is it seen as a bad thing here at DCUM?

(I grew up overseas where this isn't a bad thing.. in fact, it was seen as a good thing)

It is exactly why most area kids do not want to attend state schools (UVA, VT, WM, UMD) - they want to feel they have lived someone else, and had varying experiences (other than say, spending summer vacations with their grandparents).

couldn't they do that by looking for a job out of the area?

Yep. My VA state school grad is currently interviewing on the west coast. The assumptions here are so absurd, as usual.

What % of VA state school graduates end up working in VA or the DC area?

Your "logic" is really amusing. Think for a minute about all those CA students who attend CA schools. Many probably wind up working in CA after graduation. You're really not making whatever point you think you are.

[Anonymous]

Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Help me understand "13th grade"

Just saw this recently in one of the threads.

Why is it seen as a bad thing here at DCUM?

(I grew up overseas where this isn't a bad thing.. in fact, it was seen as a good thing)

It is exactly why most area kids do not want to attend state schools (UVA, VT, WM, UMD) - they want to feel they have lived someone else, and had varying experiences (other than say, spending summer vacations with their grandparents).

couldn't they do that by looking for a job out of the area?

Yep. My VA state school grad is currently interviewing on the west coast. The assumptions here are so absurd, as usual.

What % of VA state school graduates end up working in VA or the DC area?

Your "logic" is really amusing. Think for a minute about all those CA students who attend CA schools. Many probably wind up working in CA after graduation. You're really not making whatever point you think you are.

That was my point. Most people tend to find jobs in the region of their college/university. I don't assume everyone who goes to a VA state school will end up in VA/DC area but most will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

OP, there is no stigma, its just bored, negative people on DCUM. Filter out the noise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

lol. It's not that at all. The provincial state school is quite literally the easiest school for average overachievers to get into. And it's cheap, so any middle class family can afford it. Hence hundreds of kids funnel there each year from the same towns. The rich overachievers can casually blow money going to an out of state state school if they want. Or a random private college. Or USC, NYU or SMU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

No, it's because they have a fully funded 529 or trusts from the rich grandparents and your jealous broke small-minded behind can't afford to send your kid anywhere but a local state school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

No, it's because they have a fully funded 529 or trusts from the rich grandparents and your jealous broke small-minded behind can't afford to send your kid anywhere but a local state school.

I think I touched a nerve!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

This is it exactly. Same people. Same dramas. Different school.

I can understand this being the case at a small school, but at a large state univ? There are so many people there, you aren't going to only see/interact with people from your own HS.

I’m in Texas and it’s certainly a thing at the public universities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

yea, I know of a few kids who are looking to go as far away as possible to get away from their parents.

The kids I know who are close to their family want to be at least within 3 hours.

Also, coming home for the holidays will be a major PITA for those kids who go really far away. Could be why they go that far, though, so they have an excuse to not come home for the holidays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

This is it exactly. Same people. Same dramas. Different school.

I can understand this being the case at a small school, but at a large state univ? There are so many people there, you aren't going to only see/interact with people from your own HS.

I’m in Texas and it’s certainly a thing at the public universities

So, in the large TX public university that has thousands of kids from all over TX, people are bumping into and interacting with most of the peers from their HS?

I went to a large public college in CA, and I think I bumped into two people I knew from my HS the entire four years I was there.

Maybe those kids in TX seek certain types of groups out that those peers are also a part of. So, in that way, it's like 13th yr of HS. I didn't seek the same group out, hence, I rarely saw those people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

yea, I know of a few kids who are looking to go as far away as possible to get away from their parents.

The kids I know who are close to their family want to be at least within 3 hours.

Also, coming home for the holidays will be a major PITA for those kids who go really far away. Could be why they go that far, though, so they have an excuse to not come home for the holidays.

My college roommate and I were very close with our families.

I wound up 8 hour drive from home and she was a 4 hour flight.

Granted, she was quite well off and I was more middle to upper middle class.

I just wound up there. My mom had wanted me to go away to college because she was not allowed to in the 60s.

I enjoyed being able to have a little freedom during those years. I grew as a person while remaining tight with my family.

And this was before cell phones and zoom and all that tech that connects us even more

[Anonymous]

The DC area really is not a bad place to go to school. There’s a lot to do and lots of internship opportunities. A kid should not rule it out just because it’s close to home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

This is it exactly. Same people. Same dramas. Different school.

I can understand this being the case at a small school, but at a large state univ? There are so many people there, you aren't going to only see/interact with people from your own HS.

I’m in Texas and it’s certainly a thing at the public universities

So, in the large TX public university that has thousands of kids from all over TX, people are bumping into and interacting with most of the peers from their HS?

I went to a large public college in CA, and I think I bumped into two people I knew from my HS the entire four years I was there.

Maybe those kids in TX seek certain types of groups out that those peers are also a part of. So, in that way, it's like 13th yr of HS. I didn't seek the same group out, hence, I rarely saw those people.

I think you guys are reading way too far into this. Yes there are some colleges here that people call "13th grade" because dozens of kids from x high school/town go there every year. And yes they live with/hang with/pledge with/date/etc these high school friends. Of course they also branch out - to other groups of high school friends. Then they all marry each other and move to the same neighborhoods. Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

yea, I know of a few kids who are looking to go as far away as possible to get away from their parents.

The kids I know who are close to their family want to be at least within 3 hours.

Also, coming home for the holidays will be a major PITA for those kids who go really far away. Could be why they go that far, though, so they have an excuse to not come home for the holidays.

My college roommate and I were very close with our families.

I wound up 8 hour drive from home and she was a 4 hour flight.

Granted, she was quite well off and I was more middle to upper middle class.

I just wound up there. My mom had wanted me to go away to college because she was not allowed to in the 60s.

I enjoyed being able to have a little freedom during those years. I grew as a person while remaining tight with my family.

And this was before cell phones and zoom and all that tech that connects us even more

Why couldn't you have that freedom going to a college three hours away? If your parents wanted you to have some freedom, you could have that living an hour away just as easily as 8 hours away. It just depends on how much *you* were wiling to use how close your parents are as a crutch.

My kid is going to instate close by, but they are on their own. We have zero expectations of them coming home on the weekends or us visiting them often.