What's the stigma: Colleges with a high number of kids from your HS

[Anonymous]

Help me understand "13th grade"

Just saw this recently in one of the threads.

Why is it seen as a bad thing here at DCUM?

(I grew up overseas where this isn't a bad thing.. in fact, it was seen as a good thing)

[Anonymous]

It actually signals that someone went to an affluent high school that produces a lot of collegegoers.

[Anonymous]

Kids want a fresh start but keep running into their past.

[Anonymous]

I think what people mean is that there is value in attending college in a different area of the country than one attended high school. The point of college is ultimately to mature and grow and some equate that with being exposed to different people, cultures, traditions, etc.
The "13th year", I believe, refers to how a student who remains in say VA is for the most part living among the same parameters that they had when in high school.

[Anonymous]

2/3 of cohort landed at UMD. Its going splendidly.

[Anonymous]

"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

Sure, but there is also geographic diversity (among other types) within the state universities. You could send your kid to Michigan, or UCLA, or what have you, and they'd still be among basically the same types of kids. And there's always grad school and/or jobs to experience living elsewhere. Where you go to college doesn't determine where you'll live for the rest of your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids want a fresh start but keep running into their past.

and new experiences for growth. Let them go out of the pond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Probably not much overlap between people making these comments and people whose kids didn’t get in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Not true. Mine had full rides to their 13th grade option.

[Anonymous]

I respect kids who choose to attend college in a completely different part of the country than where they grew up.
Years ago I didn't have the courage to do so but now wish I had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

Sure, but there is also geographic diversity (among other types) within the state universities. You could send your kid to Michigan, or UCLA, or what have you, and they'd still be among basically the same types of kids. And there's always grad school and/or jobs to experience living elsewhere. Where you go to college doesn't determine where you'll live for the rest of your life.

Actually, a lot of times it does!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what people mean is that there is value in attending college in a different area of the country than one attended high school. The point of college is ultimately to mature and grow and some equate that with being exposed to different people, cultures, traditions, etc.
The "13th year", I believe, refers to how a student who remains in say VA is for the most part living among the same parameters that they had when in high school.

This^. There is more to college than a degree and GPA. You grow by facing learning how to face new challenges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

Sure, but there is also geographic diversity (among other types) within the state universities. You could send your kid to Michigan, or UCLA, or what have you, and they'd still be among basically the same types of kids. And there's always grad school and/or jobs to experience living elsewhere. Where you go to college doesn't determine where you'll live for the rest of your life.

Maybe. But 50% of them wouldn’t have grown up within 30 miles of you.

I hope my kids choose another region for college.