What's the stigma: Colleges with a high number of kids from your HS

[Anonymous]

I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

+1

Seems terribly selfish, otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Why were pages of this thread deleted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Gosh, I wonder... think think think...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:"13th grade/year" is an expression used by people who want to disparage state schools that are popular among students. They usually use that term because their kids didn't get in and they have a huge chip on their shoulder that they just can't shake. No matter that these schools are all large and there is next to zero chance of randomly running into someone from high school.

In other words, it's a form of face-saving. Disparaging the school(s) that didn't accept your kids. Very typical for DCUM.

Maybe this but it could also be a way to poke at those that seem to remain within the same bubble that they grew up in. All this talk about diversity but there is something to geographic diversity as well.

Posts keep commenting on friend groups when it really is not that at all. It is about experiencing different areas of the country beyond the immediate one grew up in and how those new experiences shape you as you grow.

That's all nice, but for the large majority of the college-going minority, spending an extra $30,000+ to go OOS versus in-state just to get "new experiences" is not affordable. Few people can afford to send their kids somewhere significantly more expensive "to broaden their horizons."

Cost is the number one determinant for most people when picking a college to attend. So, not surprisingly, there's a tendency for similarly-situation high school seniors to end up at similar schools.

Anyway, what stigma was the OP talking about? Who actually cares about this?

+100
The whole "argument" is ridiculous and entirely personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Gosh, I wonder... think think think...

Controlling mothers want to control the thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

I mean, it still says something that you only wanted to come home on breaks. Never for a sibling’s birthday, a grandparent visiting, etc.? Our kids and their cousins are very close and these kinds of get-togethers have continued into the college years. The kids who are an hour or two away come home for them. I’m not saying it’s the only way for a family to be, but it’s a priority for some families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Very odd. Most of the posts that were deleted were about peoples' personal experiences at college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

I mean, it still says something that you only wanted to come home on breaks. Never for a sibling’s birthday, a grandparent visiting, etc.? Our kids and their cousins are very close and these kinds of get-togethers have continued into the college years. The kids who are an hour or two away come home for them. I’m not saying it’s the only way for a family to be, but it’s a priority for some families.

I was waiting for the controlling mom to post. There it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Very odd. Most of the posts that were deleted were about peoples' personal experiences at college.

No wire hangers!

And no more discussing your decision to go to college far away vs. close to home (and therefore with more kids from HS)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids often go to school OOS when they can’t wait to get away from family.

That’s called being 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

I mean, it still says something that you only wanted to come home on breaks. Never for a sibling’s birthday, a grandparent visiting, etc.? Our kids and their cousins are very close and these kinds of get-togethers have continued into the college years. The kids who are an hour or two away come home for them. I’m not saying it’s the only way for a family to be, but it’s a priority for some families.

+1 It’s really messed up that these folks do not care to instill the value of family in their children. They are the same ones who want to put grandma in a nursing home at 65.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Gosh, I wonder... think think think...

Controlling mothers want to control the thread?

Bossy trolls want to judge others. Pretty easy to figure out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Very odd. Most of the posts that were deleted were about peoples' personal experiences at college.

No, the posts that were deleted were the obnoxious ones from the same person, interrogating anyone who dared to make decisions s/he didn’t approve of.
DP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

I mean, it still says something that you only wanted to come home on breaks. Never for a sibling’s birthday, a grandparent visiting, etc.? Our kids and their cousins are very close and these kinds of get-togethers have continued into the college years. The kids who are an hour or two away come home for them. I’m not saying it’s the only way for a family to be, but it’s a priority for some families.

I was waiting for the controlling mom to post. There it is.

DP. You have issues. The PP is merely relating her own experiences and you can’t stand it. And you’re calling *others* controlling? Such projection.