I don’t like my daughter. I know this won’t ever change-

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am at this place with my now 17 year old. I don't hate her OC but can't wait for her to leave for college. For her sake. She isn't pleasant to me, to others in our home, sometimes lies, gets away with doing very little, isn't helpful to the family, makes hurtful remarks under her breathe, and basically does nothing to make herself be pleasant to be around. Like if I met her at work on my first day there, I would make a mental note never to walk by her cubicle again! But I do think people here are quick to encourage therapy and instead forget that at this age kids are pushing naturally boundaries and sometimes even blowing up relationships with those closest to them to maybe make it easier to eventually leave the nest. So what to do? Well, I keep on going. I don't stoop to her level, mind you. I keep my comments to myself, I help her very little to allow for maximum independence, I focus on my younger child, and I smile as much as I can. I try to show compassion even though she shows little to me, because I know her hormones are raging and she doesn't know what the heck is going on with her most of the time. And I hope that in 5-10 years this is all a distant memory.

This! Best reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am at this place with my now 17 year old. I don't hate her OC but can't wait for her to leave for college. For her sake. She isn't pleasant to me, to others in our home, sometimes lies, gets away with doing very little, isn't helpful to the family, makes hurtful remarks under her breathe, and basically does nothing to make herself be pleasant to be around. Like if I met her at work on my first day there, I would make a mental note never to walk by her cubicle again! But I do think people here are quick to encourage therapy and instead forget that at this age kids are pushing naturally boundaries and sometimes even blowing up relationships with those closest to them to maybe make it easier to eventually leave the nest. So what to do? Well, I keep on going. I don't stoop to her level, mind you. I keep my comments to myself, I help her very little to allow for maximum independence, I focus on my younger child, and I smile as much as I can. I try to show compassion even though she shows little to me, because I know her hormones are raging and she doesn't know what the heck is going on with her most of the time. And I hope that in 5-10 years this is all a distant memory.

This! Best reply.

Except this reply is treating OP like someone who doesn't like her teen's new crummy attitude. In fact, OP has "never" liked her kid - from babyhood. That's why she needs therapy, not because all teens are charming.