UVA Greek System
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Anonymous
Ugh you really are thick. I’m done debating this, best of luck to OPs daughter. |
Anonymous
What do you think they are all doing on social media, Greek or non-Greek, PP? |
Anonymous
It sounds pretty bad TBH. |
Anonymous
Are you the PP who called another poster "thick"? No one is cutting anyone on social media. What a strange comparison. |
Anonymous
+1 I'm so glad my daughter decided not to rush. She definitely ended up in "the right place" by not going Greek to begin with! So much unnecessary stress and angst. Over what, exactly? |
Anonymous
Oh please. If you have a well adjusted and confident kid it's not a big deal at all. Mine laughed her way through the process and got a nice bid. She wasn't stressed at all. |
Anonymous
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I note that all the UVA people left two pages ago. Now it’s back to the typical “Greek is bad” DCUM thread
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Anonymous
 If you have a well-adjusted and confident kid, they won't need to rush at all. They'll have made plenty of friends the old-fashioned way.
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Anonymous
DCUM is nothing if not predictable. |
Anonymous
To the OP: don’t share with her. It will make her anxious and biased. Best advice: if she wants to Rush (new member recruitment) then she should. She will meet lots of people. New member recruitment is a mutual selection process - you choose, they choose. The best way to approach it is to just have fun, go with the flow, and when it comes to choice be open minded. there is no one-size-fits-all expectation. Find the people that you can see yourself hanging out with on a rainy night when no one wants to leave the house, not based on tier or vacations. |
Anonymous
No, if you have a well-adjusted and confident kid they are happy to give anything and not stereotype anything or anyone. My daughter’s BFF at UVA was always and continues to be her first year roommate, who did not rush. DD didn’t choose to rush to make friends. |
Anonymous
Delta Delta Delta, can I help ya, help ya, help ya? |
Anonymous
+1. true. |
Anonymous
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I rushed and joined a sorority at UVA and loved my house and my friends in the house, and had an overall positive experience. It's been about 20 years at this point though, so it's not updated info.
I actually decided to rush as a "why not give it a try" kind of thing and ended up finding a house where I felt a good vibe and joined. But I had plenty of friends in other activities and from home (NoVa) so it would have been fine with me if it hadn't worked out. I lived in the house one year and with non-sorority friends other years. As someone rushing I just thought it was fun to meet a lot of new people and thought maybe I would find a place that clicked for me. I had a relatively easy time of it because I was MC (more middle-middle class, not UMC), conventionally attractive, and am good at small talk. I could tell pretty quickly where I would NOT fit in at a house even though they asked me back (like the super rich sororities where they asked where I "summered"). The person rushing is selecting their house as much as the house is selecting its pledge class and I think if you approach it with that mindset it's not so stressful. I could write a book about the pros and cons of the Greek system, but unless things have changed most of the houses will be made up of women who are down to earth and focused on academics, volunteer work, and taking care of each other. Some houses will dirty rush and most won't. Even so, people will tend to gravitate to a house where they have similarities with the women already in the house. |
Anonymous
+1. A nice post! and by someone who actually went to UVA! Shocking! |