My mother gave my Knives to my sister...

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know you think I am a crazy troll but whatever the story has a good end so I thought I would share. I got an odd text from my Mom about my Dad having covid and paramedics giving him treatment. I texted my sister because she usually knows what is going on. My Dad was fine and had only very mild covid symptoms. My sister and I got to texting and I admitted I thought my mom was being manipulative because I sent a text in a moment of weakness. It turns out, my Dad contacted my sister because he hadn't known what my Mom had done (they both were on my angry text). My sister remembered getting the knives randomly from my Mom. I told my sister it was not her fault (because it wasn't and that was why I trying to keep her out of it) and we ended up having a good conversation. I got a text from my Dad saying knives were in the mail. It was a genuinely nice text.

Also I wondered if I posted about this before. Every so often it would eat at me so it is not unbelievable.

Sounds like your parents care about you and love you. I hope that you can take this as the conciliatory gesture they mean it to be and let go of the baggage related to the improper storage and giving away of your items.

Wishing you the best.

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To be honest OP, given the intriguing title of the thread, this is all a bit of a let down.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not about the knives OP. The first step is realizing this and prioritizing your life. Knives should be way way down on your list.

Op here: I have little to no relationship with my parents. They have nothing to do with me or my family for a variety of reasons--they don't know my kids or spouse and haven't seen them in at least 5 years. I actually don't have much communication with them.

This is what you said OP ^. Quite different from "well, actually we talk every few months". Troll.

Talking every few months is "little to nothing," correct? She explained the "variety of reasons" in her latest post. They think divorce and remarriage is a sin, hence they have not met her new DH.

You are a bully, PP. I can fully understand why you sympathize with the sadistic mother.

Sock puppeting is lame.

Nice try but I'm the PP above and I'm not OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

She doesn't talk to her family and hasn't for years. OP is nuts.

Op here. I talk to my family every few months. I haven't seen them in 5 years because they choose not to visit and I can't afford the time off or the plane tickets. I limit my communication with them for a variety of reasons--such as them being Jordon Peterson fans and then saying cruel things about the fact I married a white man (they are not white). And then they will turn around and trash people of color and anyone not their sect of Christianity. And I am going to hell for getting a divorce and remarried. There were some really good comments about how it really is the treatment over the years and the knives are just a symbol of it. I also have a bad knife block that doesn't fit the hodge podge of knives I have and I cut my hand not to look ago putting knives away. I think I just need to grieve and accept my mother is horrible and move on.

OP you are nuts. This sentence alone is such a red flag. Maybe/probably your family is also bad but oh boy, you inherited it.

Not OP - but not seeing what about that sentence is a red flag? I honestly don’t get it.

Np, guessing because it's bs and ragey. Internal dialogue: I cut myself and it's my mom's fault for giving away my knife block ten years ago!

She's acting as if this grievance from ten years ago is the reason she still can't store knives properly.

It's the type of reasoning abusers engage in. Nothing is ever their fault.

No, she's explaining why the memory resurfaces -- she cut herself on her cheap crap and was reminded of the nice quality set her mom gave away to her sister. Seems reasonable enough.

OP is a grown ass woman with a spouse and children. There are a dozen ways to acquire and store perfectly adequate knives for less than $50. OP has had ten years. Anyone telling you they cut themselves on their knives because their mom gave away some knives ten years ago is a certified nutbar.

Uh, read the post you are replying to.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know you think I am a crazy troll but whatever the story has a good end so I thought I would share. I got an odd text from my Mom about my Dad having covid and paramedics giving him treatment. I texted my sister because she usually knows what is going on. My Dad was fine and had only very mild covid symptoms. My sister and I got to texting and I admitted I thought my mom was being manipulative because I sent a text in a moment of weakness. It turns out, my Dad contacted my sister because he hadn't known what my Mom had done (they both were on my angry text). My sister remembered getting the knives randomly from my Mom. I told my sister it was not her fault (because it wasn't and that was why I trying to keep her out of it) and we ended up having a good conversation. I got a text from my Dad saying knives were in the mail. It was a genuinely nice text.

Also I wondered if I posted about this before. Every so often it would eat at me so it is not unbelievable.

Sounds like your parents care about you and love you. I hope that you can take this as the conciliatory gesture they mean it to be and let go of the baggage related to the improper storage and giving away of your items.

Wishing you the best.

Op here. That is what you got from the story? My mom is a legit gaslighting jerk. My Dad and sister were the ones who took action.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know you think I am a crazy troll but whatever the story has a good end so I thought I would share. I got an odd text from my Mom about my Dad having covid and paramedics giving him treatment. I texted my sister because she usually knows what is going on. My Dad was fine and had only very mild covid symptoms. My sister and I got to texting and I admitted I thought my mom was being manipulative because I sent a text in a moment of weakness. It turns out, my Dad contacted my sister because he hadn't known what my Mom had done (they both were on my angry text). My sister remembered getting the knives randomly from my Mom. I told my sister it was not her fault (because it wasn't and that was why I trying to keep her out of it) and we ended up having a good conversation. I got a text from my Dad saying knives were in the mail. It was a genuinely nice text.

Also I wondered if I posted about this before. Every so often it would eat at me so it is not unbelievable.

Sounds like your parents care about you and love you. I hope that you can take this as the conciliatory gesture they mean it to be and let go of the baggage related to the improper storage and giving away of your items.

Wishing you the best.

Op here. That is what you got from the story? My mom is a legit gaslighting jerk. My Dad and sister were the ones who took action.

What a coincidence

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know you think I am a crazy troll but whatever the story has a good end so I thought I would share. I got an odd text from my Mom about my Dad having covid and paramedics giving him treatment. I texted my sister because she usually knows what is going on. My Dad was fine and had only very mild covid symptoms. My sister and I got to texting and I admitted I thought my mom was being manipulative because I sent a text in a moment of weakness. It turns out, my Dad contacted my sister because he hadn't known what my Mom had done (they both were on my angry text). My sister remembered getting the knives randomly from my Mom. I told my sister it was not her fault (because it wasn't and that was why I trying to keep her out of it) and we ended up having a good conversation. I got a text from my Dad saying knives were in the mail. It was a genuinely nice text.

Also I wondered if I posted about this before. Every so often it would eat at me so it is not unbelievable.

Sorry, I find your story unbelievable.

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The fault is yours, OP. You should have taken the responsibility of paying to store your own belongings in a storage unit, instead of leaving a bunch of your junk at your parent's house.

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10 years ago? Find a good therapist.

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if you agree to store someone's stuff you can't then go through it and give some of it away. But that happened ten years go. It is time to either let it go, or have an in-person heart to heart with your mom about what she did and why. I get why you texted in a moment of weakness, but that doesn't mean it was the right thing to do.

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Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

I think we all agree that OP is absolutely nuts, we just want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s just crazy and not trying to be an ahole.

Speak for yourself. I think OP's response is rational. I think the world is filled with a-holes and the ones defending the indefensible -- a family member giving away things you trusted them to keep for you while you are going through the uproar of divorce -- belongs firmly in the a-hole category.

OP's response MIGHT have been rational if it happened at the time. But it is ten years later and she doesn't talk to her mom. Not rational at all.

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Did you get your new knives?

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You are totally nuts. You got married in the meantime and couldn't have registered for a new set? Did you have a wedding? If so, you could pay for a wedding but not knives? You sound insane. Sure, your mom shouldn't have given them away, but what the hell, OP...

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OP you should figure out what led you to hold onto this for 10 years, otherwise you'll end up twice divorced. I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone like you.

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WoW, all this angst in ten years for a mere $400. Sorry OP, but you did this to yourself for trusting the ´legit gaslighter’ and then get angry that the horrible person did something horrible. Knives or not, you will remain unhappy.