My mother gave my Knives to my sister...

[Anonymous]

My parents had a large storage area where I stored stuff for many years. It wasn’t in their way at all and they never even touched it. I would have been livid if they didn’t say anything and then started giving it away.

Can you give a little more info. Did your mom have plenty of room to store your belongings? Did she ask you to take the stuff? Did you tell her anything about how long it would be there? I can see getting rid of the stuff if it was in my way and I had asked someone to take it multiple times over many weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

She doesn't talk to her family and hasn't for years. OP is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

She doesn't talk to her family and hasn't for years. OP is nuts.

Op here. I talk to my family every few months. I haven't seen them in 5 years because they choose not to visit and I can't afford the time off or the plane tickets. I limit my communication with them for a variety of reasons--such as them being Jordon Peterson fans and then saying cruel things about the fact I married a white man (they are not white). And then they will turn around and trash people of color and anyone not their sect of Christianity. And I am going to hell for getting a divorce and remarried. There were some really good comments about how it really is the treatment over the years and the knives are just a symbol of it. I also have a bad knife block that doesn't fit the hodge podge of knives I have and I cut my hand not to look ago putting knives away. I think I just need to grieve and accept my mother is horrible and move on.

[Anonymous]

This sucks OP. I'm sorry. It's ok to have feelings about it, but try not to let it continue to fester and eat at you. See if you can watch Facebook marketplace, amazon (sometimes you can find items that have been returned which are resold at a reduced price) or craigslist for good knives. You might be able to collect a nice set of knives one at a time that way. But yeah, I know this isn't really about the knives, it's about the way you've been treated and disrespected over time.

[Anonymous]

Your mother behaved very poorly, OP. She kicked you when you were down.
That said, you’re letting this take up way too much space in your head for way too long. It’s not about the knives: go purchase a nice new set during the upcoming holiday sales. It’s about the disrespect you feel. See
a therapist to cope with your feelings about your family of origin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My things were at their house for two months max before I moved into my own place. Had I known she was going to unpack and go through all my boxes, I would have never asked to keep my things at her house. Please realize it wasn't actually a lot of things but mostly books and kitchen items, a futon and one piece of furniture (a small cabinet).

If my brother, whom I love and would do anything for, left that much stuff in my house during a divorce for longer than a week or two I would move it to a storage unit for him. It couldn’t stay in my house. I use my whole house.

What about your kid, who just went through a divorce? NP here. I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t do this for their child for a year, let alone a few months. Sorry your mom was so insensitive, OP. Hope you can afford that knife set someday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

She doesn't talk to her family and hasn't for years. OP is nuts.

Op here. I talk to my family every few months. I haven't seen them in 5 years because they choose not to visit and I can't afford the time off or the plane tickets. I limit my communication with them for a variety of reasons--such as them being Jordon Peterson fans and then saying cruel things about the fact I married a white man (they are not white). And then they will turn around and trash people of color and anyone not their sect of Christianity. And I am going to hell for getting a divorce and remarried. There were some really good comments about how it really is the treatment over the years and the knives are just a symbol of it. I also have a bad knife block that doesn't fit the hodge podge of knives I have and I cut my hand not to look ago putting knives away. I think I just need to grieve and accept my mother is horrible and move on.

No, you said you have little to no relationship. They don't know your spouse or your kids. Now you talk to them every few months and everyone is just too busy to get together? You're doing some serious backtracking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about the knives OP. The first step is realizing this and prioritizing your life. Knives should be way way down on your list.

Op here: I have little to no relationship with my parents. They have nothing to do with me or my family for a variety of reasons--they don't know my kids or spouse and haven't seen them in at least 5 years. I actually don't have much communication with them.

This is what you said OP ^. Quite different from "well, actually we talk every few months". Troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

Great minds think alike, and so do b/tchy ones. You're both as bad as OP's mom. It's not a mystery why she is not in contact with her parents. I hope you realize this is a look into your own future.

Op doesn’t speak to her parents or sister, who is the common denominator?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

I think we all agree that OP is absolutely nuts, we just want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s just crazy and not trying to be an ahole.

Speak for yourself. I think OP's response is rational. I think the world is filled with a-holes and the ones defending the indefensible -- a family member giving away things you trusted them to keep for you while you are going through the uproar of divorce -- belongs firmly in the a-hole category.

Nah. OP asking for a replacement knife set from her mom, or the knives back from her sister, when she discovered what happened would be rational. An angry text ten years later to a parent she's not in communication with is nowhere near rational.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP, this is obviously about more issues than knives and I'm sorry and wish you well.

I just wanted to maybe lighten up this thread a bit and say that when I read the title, I immediately thought about the movie, "Knives Out". I re-watched it last night.

I'm sorry your mother and other family is so insensitive and toxic.

*hugs*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

She doesn't talk to her family and hasn't for years. OP is nuts.

Op here. I talk to my family every few months. I haven't seen them in 5 years because they choose not to visit and I can't afford the time off or the plane tickets. I limit my communication with them for a variety of reasons--such as them being Jordon Peterson fans and then saying cruel things about the fact I married a white man (they are not white). And then they will turn around and trash people of color and anyone not their sect of Christianity. And I am going to hell for getting a divorce and remarried. There were some really good comments about how it really is the treatment over the years and the knives are just a symbol of it. I also have a bad knife block that doesn't fit the hodge podge of knives I have and I cut my hand not to look ago putting knives away. I think I just need to grieve and accept my mother is horrible and move on.

OP you are nuts. This sentence alone is such a red flag. Maybe/probably your family is also bad but oh boy, you inherited it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

She doesn't talk to her family and hasn't for years. OP is nuts.

Op here. I talk to my family every few months. I haven't seen them in 5 years because they choose not to visit and I can't afford the time off or the plane tickets. I limit my communication with them for a variety of reasons--such as them being Jordon Peterson fans and then saying cruel things about the fact I married a white man (they are not white). And then they will turn around and trash people of color and anyone not their sect of Christianity. And I am going to hell for getting a divorce and remarried. There were some really good comments about how it really is the treatment over the years and the knives are just a symbol of it. I also have a bad knife block that doesn't fit the hodge podge of knives I have and I cut my hand not to look ago putting knives away. I think I just need to grieve and accept my mother is horrible and move on.

Now you’re being silly. Buy yourself a new knife block or in-drawer organizer. I have a hodge podge of cheaper knives and I don’t cut myself putting them in my old cheap knife block. Penny wise, pound foolish.

[Anonymous]

Op, also please note that you don't need a whole set of knives-you need one good chef's knife and one good paring knife (with an optional serrated knife thrown in). Just buy those, and it won't be $400.

[Anonymous]

Op must be the troll that makes up stories with added random details with every new post/update.