My mother gave my Knives to my sister...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask your sister for them back.

Op here. My sister and I do not have a relationship. She hates my parents for the record but they give her stuff all the time. Trust me I thought about asking her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not about the knives OP. The first step is realizing this and prioritizing your life. Knives should be way way down on your list.

Op here: I have little to no relationship with my parents. They have nothing to do with me or my family for a variety of reasons--they don't know my kids or spouse and haven't seen them in at least 5 years. I actually don't have much communication with them.

[Anonymous]

OP, it is one thing to still have resentful feelings towards your parents, or to have a strained relationship with them. Families are complicated and I know how little things can be the straw that broke the camel’s back.

But it is fully insane to still be thinking about the knives and it is absurd to suggest your mom or your sister buy knives for you now. There is no knife set that will fix whatever you’re trying to fix.

This is a shockingly inexpensive but really nice knife. Maybe it will help. If you had $400, you ought to spend it on therapy anyway. Not matching knives.
https://a.co/d/64hrWML

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My things were at their house for two months max before I moved into my own place. Had I known she was going to unpack and go through all my boxes, I would have never asked to keep my things at her house. Please realize it wasn't actually a lot of things but mostly books and kitchen items, a futon and one piece of furniture (a small cabinet).

If my brother, whom I love and would do anything for, left that much stuff in my house during a divorce for longer than a week or two I would move it to a storage unit for him. It couldn’t stay in my house. I use my whole house.

[Anonymous]

1. You stored your things in a house you don't own or pay for. The entitlement that it should have remained untouched by birthright is unrealistic. I think you knew your mother's ways but held her to an unreasonable expectation purposely. This was not the first time she rummaged through your things.

2. You don't even speak to them now and have no relationship. I would ignore your request about the post marriage gift knives too.

3. Therapy is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. My things were at their house for two months max before I moved into my own place. Had I known she was going to unpack and go through all my boxes, I would have never asked to keep my things at her house. Please realize it wasn't actually a lot of things but mostly books and kitchen items, a futon and one piece of furniture (a small cabinet).

If my brother, whom I love and would do anything for, left that much stuff in my house during a divorce for longer than a week or two I would move it to a storage unit for him. It couldn’t stay in my house. [/b] I use my whole house. [/b]

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about the knives OP. The first step is realizing this and prioritizing your life. Knives should be way way down on your list.

Op here: I have little to no relationship with my parents. They have nothing to do with me or my family for a variety of reasons--they don't know my kids or spouse and haven't seen them in at least 5 years. I actually don't have much communication with them.

Then why in earth do you think she’s going to buy you a knife set? YTA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

And I wrote this before reading that OP doesn't talk to her parents. Whacko.

[Anonymous]

Just buy yourself some knives on black friday. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: I guess I am asking: AITA?

Yes. At the time why didn’t you ask your sister for them back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody took anything, you abandoned your things. Get a side gig to make the paltry $400 and buy some knives.

This is the kind of response one would expect from a storage facility, not a family member. What OP's mother did was crazy wrong. She gave away things that did not belong to her. She guaranteed pain and conflict between her children by doing so.

OP, what's up with your mom? She sounds like a terrible person and was probably hard to have as a mom. I'd be pissed, too.

The only thing to help you is, you really wouldn't want those knives, from your first wedding, in your new home, with your new family. Your mother did you a favor in that way, b/tch that she is. Think about that whenever you get angry about it. The books can be replaced, one by one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

I think we all agree that OP is absolutely nuts, we just want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s just crazy and not trying to be an ahole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

Great minds think alike, and so do b/tchy ones. You're both as bad as OP's mom. It's not a mystery why she is not in contact with her parents. I hope you realize this is a look into your own future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had a chance to politely and directly address this 10 years ago. You are not only an A, but a raging nut job to have texted this demand now.

And by the way? See those big storage places in the suburbs with rates of like $100 a month for a storage unit? In other words, storage ain’t free.

I don't know how there can be any answer other than this.

I think we all agree that OP is absolutely nuts, we just want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s just crazy and not trying to be an ahole.

Speak for yourself. I think OP's response is rational. I think the world is filled with a-holes and the ones defending the indefensible -- a family member giving away things you trusted them to keep for you while you are going through the uproar of divorce -- belongs firmly in the a-hole category.