If a kid is being mean to your kid, do you talk to the parents about it?

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Anonymous wrote:You talk to your kid, and the teacher and counselor. Don't talk to their parents, that never goes well. What do you mean by "being mean"?

My son and his friend didn’t get along last year. The mom accused my son of being mean, exclusive and being a bully. My son said the other kid was pushing him, saying inappropriate things and spreading rumors so I told my son to try to avoid the boy. The mom went to the school several times and texted me a bunch.

I am not interested in any type of relationship with this family.

Just wanted to add that if the mom didn’t send me a bunch of texts and also went to the school, the boys would probably still be friends.

My son has a lot of friends and we are very inclusive. I encourage friendships. The boy wants to hang out with DS. The mom has texted a few times to get boys together. Then I look back at her rude previous texts and just ignore.

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Anonymous wrote:You talk to your kid, and the teacher and counselor. Don't talk to their parents, that never goes well. What do you mean by "being mean"?

My son and his friend didn’t get along last year. The mom accused my son of being mean, exclusive and being a bully. My son said the other kid was pushing him, saying inappropriate things and spreading rumors so I told my son to try to avoid the boy. The mom went to the school several times and texted me a bunch.

I am not interested in any type of relationship with this family.

Just wanted to add that if the mom didn’t send me a bunch of texts and also went to the school, the boys would probably still be friends.

My son has a lot of friends and we are very inclusive. I encourage friendships. The boy wants to hang out with DS. The mom has texted a few times to get boys together. Then I look back at her rude previous texts and just ignore.

Lol. I was in almost the same situation. The mom has a screw loose so I ignore the mom.

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Anonymous wrote:You talk to your kid, and the teacher and counselor. Don't talk to their parents, that never goes well. What do you mean by "being mean"?

My son and his friend didn’t get along last year. The mom accused my son of being mean, exclusive and being a bully. My son said the other kid was pushing him, saying inappropriate things and spreading rumors so I told my son to try to avoid the boy. The mom went to the school several times and texted me a bunch.

I am not interested in any type of relationship with this family.

Just wanted to add that if the mom didn’t send me a bunch of texts and also went to the school, the boys would probably still be friends.

My son has a lot of friends and we are very inclusive. I encourage friendships. The boy wants to hang out with DS. The mom has texted a few times to get boys together. Then I look back at her rude previous texts and just ignore.

Lol. I was in almost the same situation. The mom has a screw loose so I ignore the mom.

I actually think both the mom and son have a screw loose. We are busy enough. My kids have a lot of friends. We don’t need or want them in our lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

100%. If you ever approach my child directly to fix their behavior, you will be hearing from me and from the school, and I will be telling everyone else that knows you to avoid you because you are nuts. Totally inappropriate. It happened to me once when my kid was in preschool. The preschool ended up counseling that family out because they recognized how messed up it is to think you can approach a child and try to intimidate them based on hearsay from your own child. There is a 50/50 chance that your child is not telling you the whole story. And even if they are telling you the whole story, it is still not appropriate to get in the face of a child, when they see you as a stranger, and give them your advice on how they should shape up.

Holy $hit.

Neat. No one cares. And you don’t decide that they’ll “be hearing from the school.”

Teach your kids to behave.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

NP here. Do you go to the kid's house after school for this conversation, or what?

(Knock knock)
Is Billy home?
(Billy comes to door.)
This is Mrs. Smith, Fred's mom. I heard about what you said to Fred at recess today. If I ever hear about you doing that again, you'll be scared to walk out of your house the next morning.

Something like that maybe?

Like the Sopranos?

My dad did this back in the day. The kid was a little $hit to me for months. He was twice my size and would push me and make me fall down and I would go home crying. My dad went over there and threatened the kid. Never happened again. It was the 80s and no one batted an eye. That kid grew up to be a bigger $hit, but he left me alone.

Right. Guarantee you that kid got beaten up by his dad that night.

He lived with his mom only. Dad lived in California and saw him 2 weeks a year.

Poor kid that is sad.

It is sad. Still cannot go around beating up girls.