If a kid is being mean to your kid, do you talk to the parents about it?

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

NP. So do you have your kid slip a note to the classmate saying “Meet my mom on the playground after school”?

[Anonymous]

A boy punched my daughter in the stomach in 2nd grade. We were acquaintances with his family and my husband went to his house that evening to talk to his parents.

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What does “being mean” to a 2nd grader? Mean girl won’t play with your kid?

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Anonymous wrote:A boy punched my daughter in the stomach in 2nd grade. We were acquaintances with his family and my husband went to his house that evening to talk to his parents.

Clown

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Anonymous wrote:A boy punched my daughter in the stomach in 2nd grade. We were acquaintances with his family and my husband went to his house that evening to talk to his parents.

Clown

I’ll be sure to relay the message.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

That isn’t the scenario OP is discussing, they are saying this is happening during school. And the “don’t bother to tell me what to do.” In combination with the parent “isn’t doing their job.” Means this poster is defensive and aggressively reacting. It is troubling and I hope they don’t walk around with a gun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

That isn’t the scenario OP is discussing, they are saying this is happening during school. And the “don’t bother to tell me what to do.” In combination with the parent “isn’t doing their job.” Means this poster is defensive and aggressively reacting. It is troubling and I hope they don’t walk around with a gun.

PP said "if I see a kid" and I'm responding to that. Because I would do the same. OP didn't see the thing, so, not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

Where? You aren’t in the classroom, so do you approach the kid at school dismissal or the bus stop? Or go to the kid’s house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

100%. If you ever approach my child directly to fix their behavior, you will be hearing from me and from the school, and I will be telling everyone else that knows you to avoid you because you are nuts. Totally inappropriate. It happened to me once when my kid was in preschool. The preschool ended up counseling that family out because they recognized how messed up it is to think you can approach a child and try to intimidate them based on hearsay from your own child. There is a 50/50 chance that your child is not telling you the whole story. And even if they are telling you the whole story, it is still not appropriate to get in the face of a child, when they see you as a stranger, and give them your advice on how they should shape up.

Holy $hit.

How are children not being supervised at preschool and elementary school that adults are able to confront them? I thought schools have controlled access (though admittedly not perfect) and at the playground are under a teacher’s supervision?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

That isn’t the scenario OP is discussing, they are saying this is happening during school. And the “don’t bother to tell me what to do.” In combination with the parent “isn’t doing their job.” Means this poster is defensive and aggressively reacting. It is troubling and I hope they don’t walk around with a gun.

PP said "if I see a kid" and I'm responding to that. Because I would do the same. OP didn't see the thing, so, not the same.

Well, try this PP put those two things together. “don’t try telling me what to do. It won’t be effective.” I’m gonna do what I’m gonna do. “If you aren’t doing your job and keeping control of you kid, I’m gonna say something.”

It isn’t about what that poster is doing, it is about the tone, manner and way they are stating they will go about it. It is defensiveness and aggressiveness speaking. Like “I’m going to protect my kid.” Just modeling bad behavior. If they had stated it in a similar fashion to you, it would be fine.

So, no I guess I don’t stand around when people are being abusive. I call it as I see it. Even when the abuse is hiding in “just words.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

That isn’t the scenario OP is discussing, they are saying this is happening during school. And the “don’t bother to tell me what to do.” In combination with the parent “isn’t doing their job.” Means this poster is defensive and aggressively reacting. It is troubling and I hope they don’t walk around with a gun.

PP said "if I see a kid" and I'm responding to that. Because I would do the same. OP didn't see the thing, so, not the same.

Well, try this PP put those two things together. “don’t try telling me what to do. It won’t be effective.” I’m gonna do what I’m gonna do. “If you aren’t doing your job and keeping control of you kid, I’m gonna say something.”

It isn’t about what that poster is doing, it is about the tone, manner and way they are stating they will go about it. It is defensiveness and aggressiveness speaking. Like “I’m going to protect my kid.” Just modeling bad behavior. If they had stated it in a similar fashion to you, it would be fine.

So, no I guess I don’t stand around when people are being abusive. I call it as I see it. Even when the abuse is hiding in “just words.”

Meh im not worried about that PP because my kids don’t cause problems. Why are you bothered? Hitting too close to home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

That isn’t the scenario OP is discussing, they are saying this is happening during school. And the “don’t bother to tell me what to do.” In combination with the parent “isn’t doing their job.” Means this poster is defensive and aggressively reacting. It is troubling and I hope they don’t walk around with a gun.

PP said "if I see a kid" and I'm responding to that. Because I would do the same. OP didn't see the thing, so, not the same.

Well, try this PP put those two things together. “don’t try telling me what to do. It won’t be effective.” I’m gonna do what I’m gonna do. “If you aren’t doing your job and keeping control of you kid, I’m gonna say something.”

It isn’t about what that poster is doing, it is about the tone, manner and way they are stating they will go about it. It is defensiveness and aggressiveness speaking. Like “I’m going to protect my kid.” Just modeling bad behavior. If they had stated it in a similar fashion to you, it would be fine.

So, no I guess I don’t stand around when people are being abusive. I call it as I see it. Even when the abuse is hiding in “just words.”

Meh im not worried about that PP because my kids don’t cause problems. Why are you bothered? Hitting too close to home?

Meh- consider it me “not letting the PP get away with it” and let’s call it a day. Swapping insults online gets boring fast.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I talk to the kid directly.

You talk to other people's children directly you mean?

Yep. Not sure how that wasn't clear.

This sucks and is inappropriate.

Someone did this to my kid in 4th grade. Went up to him at school and told him to stop "picking on" her daughter. Facts are her daughter was the instigator and a known bully. To everyone apparently except her own mother. I was PISSED. I told my son if this woman ever spoke to him again in any setting to tell me immediately and I'd report her to the principal.

Do not go up to other people's children.

Do not bother to tell me what to do. It won't be effective. If I see a kid being mean to my kid, I will say something right then to the kid if their parent either isn't there or isn't doing their job.

Ew. You need help and I’m going to guess your lack of impulse control skills have been passed on to your child. I hope you are on the no guns allowed list.

DP, no. If you see it and nobody is around, I don't see the problem with saying something to a kid. Why should he get away with it? If someone did something to me, I'd say something to them too, just because kids are more powerless doesn't mean there are no consequences if something happens to them. Do you let people abuse you and just stand there and do nothing because of your superior impulse controls or because you're a doormat?

That isn’t the scenario OP is discussing, they are saying this is happening during school. And the “don’t bother to tell me what to do.” In combination with the parent “isn’t doing their job.” Means this poster is defensive and aggressively reacting. It is troubling and I hope they don’t walk around with a gun.

PP said "if I see a kid" and I'm responding to that. Because I would do the same. OP didn't see the thing, so, not the same.

Well, try this PP put those two things together. “don’t try telling me what to do. It won’t be effective.” I’m gonna do what I’m gonna do. “If you aren’t doing your job and keeping control of you kid, I’m gonna say something.”

It isn’t about what that poster is doing, it is about the tone, manner and way they are stating they will go about it. It is defensiveness and aggressiveness speaking. Like “I’m going to protect my kid.” Just modeling bad behavior. If they had stated it in a similar fashion to you, it would be fine.

So, no I guess I don’t stand around when people are being abusive. I call it as I see it. Even when the abuse is hiding in “just words.”

Meh im not worried about that PP because my kids don’t cause problems. Why are you bothered? Hitting too close to home?

Meh- consider it me “not letting the PP get away with it” and let’s call it a day. Swapping insults online gets boring fast.

You and the PP calling things out are two sides of the same coin.