Paying for parents to stay locally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White people? Why am I not surprised?

Hey! Don't lump us all together. I'm white and wouldn't dream of putting parents or inlaws in a hotel or rental. Okay, maybe I would "dream" but I certainly wouldn't do it or even mention it!

[Anonymous]

It’s impossible to be productive working from home with elderly parents expecting to be hosted and engaged all the time. You really have to take PTO but that becomes a problem when they invite themself constantly or you need PTO for sickness, school/childcare vacation, other side of the family or god forbid an actual enjoyable vacation without needy and demanding guests pouncing n you every five minutes.

OP you should sit down once and explain working from home, be clear that this means she isn’t going to be able to stay as often as she wants and she can visit less or stay in an Airbnb that she arranges and pays for in the future.

[Anonymous]

I’m still stuck on why you want them to come to your husband’s graduation but he can’t relax with guests in his house on his weekend. He’s an adult. He doesn’t need extended family at a graduation. I think you both need to grow up.

When my parents visit, they stay at an Airbnb and pay even though I try to pay. We make more than them. When we visit them we pay for our own place and pay for most meals.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need to limit their visits to weekends. I see my parents for 2-3 days max, and that is it. Everyone stays in good spirits, smiles all the way to the end.

I keep us super busy too, this museum, that park, all the fun. Likely not easy for you OP, but just a suggestion for a non busy time in which they visit. I order out each meal, deli trays, that sort of thing.

I would probably not have them stay in the house anymore, TBH. We don't have room for guests and I like it that way. I've stopped staying at their house due to their terrible cats, a blessing in disguise.