I think I hate kindergarten

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OP—as a mom with a special needs child myself I’d be calling my IEP team and asking for a meeting. Sounds like your child needs accommodations that are not currently written into his IEP.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. There is no kiss and ride in the afternoon. Kids have to ride the bus. We are not allowed to pick up in the afternoon. My son has raging meltdowns when he’s anxious. Good luck with that, school. If you had given me the tools to prep him, I would have gladly done so. I also do not think he will get out of the car at the morning drop off kiss and ride while I’m in the driver’s seat and a school employee he’s never met opens his door to help him get out. I think he will scream. So good luck with that.

What crazy school system is this? You are allowed to pick up your child at anytime.

This. For the love of God. Tell them your child has to be somewhere directly from school - not that you need a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your son has an IEP you can write almost anything into it, including that you want to drop him off and pick him up.

Pick up the phone and start calling. The principal, the school secretary, the social worker. Get your answers

You are in charge here, or can be. I am sorry, it is so frustrating when schools are clueless or just liars and take advantage of families like yours.

Is your DS in a special program? Will he have support in a gen Ed kindergarten class.

I agee with this. Please call the school. Get the information you need. Insist on picking him up.

[Anonymous]

Plus one that you are the boss of your child, not the government or the school officials. No matter what they say.

You make the decisions. If something is wrong for your child, don’t do it.

For safety reasons I’d inform the school of my transport plans but I would just be informing, not asking.

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Anonymous wrote:OP—as a mom with a special needs child myself I’d be calling my IEP team and asking for a meeting. Sounds like your child needs accommodations that are not currently written into his IEP.

This. If it were my kid I would have told the IEP team what my kid would need in order to start the school year successfully, and made sure it was in the plan. OP I saw this kindly but I think part of your frustration is stemming from the fact that you have a special needs child and thus can't just go with the flow like most other families. I get it, I've been there. But we are our children's best advocates and we have to do what it takes to make sure their needs are being met.

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Anonymous wrote:I know you will rip me apart but I don’t even care. School starts next week and I know almost nothing about the logistics. Very little communication from the school. Parents of older kids say, “oh, it will work out.” Yes, I’m sure, but how hard would it be to tell me whether to send a snack or two? Or give me more details on how the day will look so I can prep my anxious child? Also, we are not allowed to pick up from school in the afternoon and highly discouraged from dropping off by car in the morning but the bus ride is an hour. I know I need to keep an open mind but I hate everything about this.

Be thankful your child gets kindergarten. Mine was in K during the covid year when everything was hybrid and virtual and they had to wear shields over their masks whencthey actually were there. And when they were there they had to sit at individual desks and werent allowed to play together. Essentially skipped a grade bc it really didnt happen, and showed up to first grade without any of the K fun or skills. I find all these new and incoming families to be so entitled not realizing how lucky they are that their 5 yr olds get to be 5 yr olds and get to start their elementary experience when things are back to "normal" again. Be grateful OP.

Nope, bad take. You having a bad experience does not mean other people are entitled for expecting better. Nobody needs to be grateful for poor service or for public services that don't meet their needs.

"Be grateful because I had a worse experience" just divides people who should be united in demanding better of schools. Plus, there's no bottom - you'll get someone on here saying "don't complain, at least you have a child" or "you're so entitled, our K didn't have enough desks" or whatever. Unhelpful.

The title is I think I hate Kindergarten. Those of us who had our sweet 5 yr olds on computers would give anything to have been able to send our kids to school where they can have fun, meet friends, etc. People who are entering the school system when all the covid restrictions are over should be grateful! Our kids only have one childhood and for some of us, half of their childhood was spent in masks and covid restrictions. Those who are just starting now when no one cares about covid anymore are lucky their kids and they can just be kids. However I do agree it is very odd that her child has an hour commute. I suppose OP registered for the school knowing that though. Also sucks that her child has anxiety- can only imagine how her child would have fared with anxiety in the covid kindergarten year. Prob much worse bc at least her child will have access to the school counselor if she needs it.

Do you understand fractions, or do you need to go back to elementary school yourself? Two years is half the childhood of a 4 year old. It will not be half of your kid's childhood in the grand scheme of things. It will have been a weird two years that literally everyone experienced. My oldest child's K year was abruptly cut off by Covid. I will never forget how I felt when it was officially announced that they were never going to set foot in their kindergarten classrooms again. It felt like something had been taken away from me as a parent and of course from my child. First and second grade were anything but normal. But we can't go back and change it. All we can do is move forward. That is an important lesson for kids to learn. Sounds like you still need to learn it too.

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Anonymous wrote:I know you will rip me apart but I don’t even care. School starts next week and I know almost nothing about the logistics. Very little communication from the school. Parents of older kids say, “oh, it will work out.” Yes, I’m sure, but how hard would it be to tell me whether to send a snack or two? Or give me more details on how the day will look so I can prep my anxious child? Also, we are not allowed to pick up from school in the afternoon and highly discouraged from dropping off by car in the morning but the bus ride is an hour. I know I need to keep an open mind but I hate everything about this.

Be thankful your child gets kindergarten. Mine was in K during the covid year when everything was hybrid and virtual and they had to wear shields over their masks whencthey actually were there. And when they were there they had to sit at individual desks and werent allowed to play together. Essentially skipped a grade bc it really didnt happen, and showed up to first grade without any of the K fun or skills. I find all these new and incoming families to be so entitled not realizing how lucky they are that their 5 yr olds get to be 5 yr olds and get to start their elementary experience when things are back to "normal" again. Be grateful OP.

Nope, bad take. You having a bad experience does not mean other people are entitled for expecting better. Nobody needs to be grateful for poor service or for public services that don't meet their needs.

"Be grateful because I had a worse experience" just divides people who should be united in demanding better of schools. Plus, there's no bottom - you'll get someone on here saying "don't complain, at least you have a child" or "you're so entitled, our K didn't have enough desks" or whatever. Unhelpful.

The title is I think I hate Kindergarten. Those of us who had our sweet 5 yr olds on computers would give anything to have been able to send our kids to school where they can have fun, meet friends, etc. People who are entering the school system when all the covid restrictions are over should be grateful! Our kids only have one childhood and for some of us, half of their childhood was spent in masks and covid restrictions. Those who are just starting now when no one cares about covid anymore are lucky their kids and they can just be kids. However I do agree it is very odd that her child has an hour commute. I suppose OP registered for the school knowing that though. Also sucks that her child has anxiety- can only imagine how her child would have fared with anxiety in the covid kindergarten year. Prob much worse bc at least her child will have access to the school counselor if she needs it.

Do you understand fractions, or do you need to go back to elementary school yourself? Two years is half the childhood of a 4 year old. It will not be half of your kid's childhood in the grand scheme of things. It will have been a weird two years that literally everyone experienced. My oldest child's K year was abruptly cut off by Covid. I will never forget how I felt when it was officially announced that they were never going to set foot in their kindergarten classrooms again. It felt like something had been taken away from me as a parent and of course from my child. First and second grade were anything but normal. But we can't go back and change it. All we can do is move forward. That is an important lesson for kids to learn. Sounds like you still need to learn it too.

+1000 My kids never got to step foot in their middle and elementary schools again after March 2020. Your little kindergartner won’t even remember the pandemic. Get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I know you will rip me apart but I don’t even care. School starts next week and I know almost nothing about the logistics. Very little communication from the school. Parents of older kids say, “oh, it will work out.” Yes, I’m sure, but how hard would it be to tell me whether to send a snack or two? Or give me more details on how the day will look so I can prep my anxious child? Also, we are not allowed to pick up from school in the afternoon and highly discouraged from dropping off by car in the morning but the bus ride is an hour. I know I need to keep an open mind but I hate everything about this.

+1 I’m the same way. I want to know details to help my anxious child as well. People without anxious kids just don’t get it.

You’re not allowed to pick up in the afternoon? I’m pretty sure they can’t force your child onto the bus. Call the office and tell them you want to do kiss n ride. What school is this?!!!

I was your anxious child. My mom's anxiety about everything made me anxious since I didn't know how to process her anxiety. What does it mean? Why is she so worried? If she's an adult and can't manage all of this, how can I possibly manage this? I didn't understand it in those terms, it was more this impending sense of doom that followed everything, especially something new. It becomes a habit.

This is OP. Dear son, I am worried you will spit at the person who opens your car door in the morning at drop off, scream, and refuse to get out of the car. Does that help you process what I’m anxious about?

I'm a NP and you're blind if you can't see that you're the problem in all of this.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. There is no kiss and ride in the afternoon. Kids have to ride the bus. We are not allowed to pick up in the afternoon. My son has raging meltdowns when he’s anxious. Good luck with that, school. If you had given me the tools to prep him, I would have gladly done so. I also do not think he will get out of the car at the morning drop off kiss and ride while I’m in the driver’s seat and a school employee he’s never met opens his door to help him get out. I think he will scream. So good luck with that.

What crazy school system is this? You are allowed to pick up your child at anytime.

This. For the love of God. Tell them your child has to be somewhere directly from school - not that you need a reason.

They probably aren’t doing a pickup loop at the school- of course you can pick your kid up- you can park elsewhere and walk or pick them up 15 min before dismissal time.

[Anonymous]

Did your kid not go to preschool?

At open house 3 days before school, we went and met the teacher. She told us to pack a snack and a water bottle. Kids can bring or buy lunch.

Why so much anxiety? I think your kid gets it from the parent.

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Anonymous wrote:I know you will rip me apart but I don’t even care. School starts next week and I know almost nothing about the logistics. Very little communication from the school. Parents of older kids say, “oh, it will work out.” Yes, I’m sure, but how hard would it be to tell me whether to send a snack or two? Or give me more details on how the day will look so I can prep my anxious child? Also, we are not allowed to pick up from school in the afternoon and highly discouraged from dropping off by car in the morning but the bus ride is an hour. I know I need to keep an open mind but I hate everything about this.

+1 I’m the same way. I want to know details to help my anxious child as well. People without anxious kids just don’t get it.

You’re not allowed to pick up in the afternoon? I’m pretty sure they can’t force your child onto the bus. Call the office and tell them you want to do kiss n ride. What school is this?!!!

I was your anxious child. My mom's anxiety about everything made me anxious since I didn't know how to process her anxiety. What does it mean? Why is she so worried? If she's an adult and can't manage all of this, how can I possibly manage this? I didn't understand it in those terms, it was more this impending sense of doom that followed everything, especially something new. It becomes a habit.

This is OP. Dear son, I am worried you will spit at the person who opens your car door in the morning at drop off, scream, and refuse to get out of the car. Does that help you process what I’m anxious about?

Ok fine, the. why didn’t you call the school to discuss. If your kid is truly unique talk to them. My kid has all kids of wierdness. I called the school the week the teachers returned. The teacher and K aid made time to meet with me individually. We talked about the day and my kid. My kid was able to meet and explore the classroom before the open house.

You are just whining, not problem solving.

[Anonymous]

Oh I see. This is a snowflake post from Whinerville from somebody who probably did not save their stimulus from good ole Uncle Biden to put towards private school. Now your kid has to go to school with the poors in Poorsville. Yeah, they don't communicate much at these schools. You see the yellow bus, you get on kinda schools never do. Did you try calling the school before whining to your DCUM forum? Did you ask to set up a time to come in and observe? You know the sniffles are all gone now and you can actually go inside of your school right? Or are you a maskie who still walks around everywhere and in your car fully decked out in KN 95's. Lady, call the school.

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Anonymous wrote:I know you will rip me apart but I don’t even care. School starts next week and I know almost nothing about the logistics. Very little communication from the school. Parents of older kids say, “oh, it will work out.” Yes, I’m sure, but how hard would it be to tell me whether to send a snack or two? Or give me more details on how the day will look so I can prep my anxious child? Also, we are not allowed to pick up from school in the afternoon and highly discouraged from dropping off by car in the morning but the bus ride is an hour. I know I need to keep an open mind but I hate everything about this.

Be thankful your child gets kindergarten. Mine was in K during the covid year when everything was hybrid and virtual and they had to wear shields over their masks whencthey actually were there. And when they were there they had to sit at individual desks and werent allowed to play together. Essentially skipped a grade bc it really didnt happen, and showed up to first grade without any of the K fun or skills. I find all these new and incoming families to be so entitled not realizing how lucky they are that their 5 yr olds get to be 5 yr olds and get to start their elementary experience when things are back to "normal" again. Be grateful OP.

Nope, bad take. You having a bad experience does not mean other people are entitled for expecting better. Nobody needs to be grateful for poor service or for public services that don't meet their needs.

"Be grateful because I had a worse experience" just divides people who should be united in demanding better of schools. Plus, there's no bottom - you'll get someone on here saying "don't complain, at least you have a child" or "you're so entitled, our K didn't have enough desks" or whatever. Unhelpful.

The title is I think I hate Kindergarten. Those of us who had our sweet 5 yr olds on computers would give anything to have been able to send our kids to school where they can have fun, meet friends, etc. People who are entering the school system when all the covid restrictions are over should be grateful! Our kids only have one childhood and for some of us, half of their childhood was spent in masks and covid restrictions. Those who are just starting now when no one cares about covid anymore are lucky their kids and they can just be kids. However I do agree it is very odd that her child has an hour commute. I suppose OP registered for the school knowing that though. Also sucks that her child has anxiety- can only imagine how her child would have fared with anxiety in the covid kindergarten year. Prob much worse bc at least her child will have access to the school counselor if she needs it.

Do you understand fractions, or do you need to go back to elementary school yourself? Two years is half the childhood of a 4 year old. It will not be half of your kid's childhood in the grand scheme of things. It will have been a weird two years that literally everyone experienced. My oldest child's K year was abruptly cut off by Covid. I will never forget how I felt when it was officially announced that they were never going to set foot in their kindergarten classrooms again. It felt like something had been taken away from me as a parent and of course from my child. First and second grade were anything but normal. But we can't go back and change it. All we can do is move forward. That is an important lesson for kids to learn. Sounds like you still need to learn it too.

+1000 My kids never got to step foot in their middle and elementary schools again after March 2020. Your little kindergartner won’t even remember the pandemic. Get over yourself.

YOU are the ones who need to get over something that happened two years ago. Go start your own "Covid school year survivor's thread" or something. You don't need to bring this up in every single thread. The rest of us have moved on, you need to move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I see. This is a snowflake post from Whinerville from somebody who probably did not save their stimulus from good ole Uncle Biden to put towards private school. Now your kid has to go to school with the poors in Poorsville. Yeah, they don't communicate much at these schools. You see the yellow bus, you get on kinda schools never do. Did you try calling the school before whining to your DCUM forum? Did you ask to set up a time to come in and observe? You know the sniffles are all gone now and you can actually go inside of your school right? Or are you a maskie who still walks around everywhere and in your car fully decked out in KN 95's. Lady, call the school.

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