why don't more SAHMs become nannies when kids are in college?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sahm doesn't qualify you as a nanny.

People like nannies with early childhood degrees and the like. I don't have that.
Plus, I'm old. My 50 yr old hips and back can no longer chase a toddler around and I have little energy/desire to change gross diapers or deal with potty training to boot.
And I only like my own kids.

Here is your answers - SAHMs don't like to work. That was the whole point of SAHM.

Here's your answer-being a mom and nanny are not respected jobs. The whole point of being a SAHM is to raise a tiny human to be a productive, loving caring adult human. To be there for their children because they love them! This is not a dig at moms or dads who have to work but, pp is really insulting with "the whole point of SAHM is not to work" YOU ARE WORKING BUT NOT GETTING RESPECT OR PAY.

This is the reason I wouldn't want to nanny because of people LIKE YOU pp

I respected my nannies very much. Did you respect the women who raised your children while you were working out and lunching with your SAHMs girlfriends?

I think you are confused. I am the SAHM! I did not have nannies and yes I did respect myself...lol What does the bolded even mean? I did not "work out" unless I took them to a gym and they had daycare and if I ate lunch it was with other moms and their kids! We would do picnics at the park.

[Anonymous]

They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The SAHM I know who are complaining about finances are MC to UMC women and would not want to have a peer as their boss.

OP--I get that. It's just funny b/c people complain that it's so hard to get back in the workforce to make $ after SAHM -- and it is, BUT that doesn't mean there aren't ways to make 65-75K/yr which could open up a lot of doors for your child. I do get that it's a pride thing though.

Maybe the big picture is that I respect nannies a lot. Willing to hustle to get paid a not negligible amount, although of course they deserve more.

(Someone asked why I care--I don't know if I care per se, it was just a more "I'm curious and want to ask DCUM." I myself have a nanny and I respect and appreciate her so much. I also have a few female friends who are SAHMs who see going back to the workforce as sort of an either-or: Either it's my old job or it's nothing, so we either have lots of $ for college or...a lot less $. Being a nanny, while hard/challenging, seems like a middle option that has a relatively low barrier to market entry. And yes being a nanny is hard, but I think SAHM is harder b/c you never get to leave! So why not take that skillset and then GO HOME at the end of the day, feeling proud that you are making it possible for your kid to go to a top college)

How much vacation do your give your nanny? That's your answer right there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

Yep, they need "supports" to raise their own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

Someone's jelly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The SAHM I know who are complaining about finances are MC to UMC women and would not want to have a peer as their boss.

OP--I get that. It's just funny b/c people complain that it's so hard to get back in the workforce to make $ after SAHM -- and it is, BUT that doesn't mean there aren't ways to make 65-75K/yr which could open up a lot of doors for your child. I do get that it's a pride thing though.

Maybe the big picture is that I respect nannies a lot. Willing to hustle to get paid a not negligible amount, although of course they deserve more.

(Someone asked why I care--I don't know if I care per se, it was just a more "I'm curious and want to ask DCUM." I myself have a nanny and I respect and appreciate her so much. I also have a few female friends who are SAHMs who see going back to the workforce as sort of an either-or: Either it's my old job or it's nothing, so we either have lots of $ for college or...a lot less $. Being a nanny, while hard/challenging, seems like a middle option that has a relatively low barrier to market entry. And yes being a nanny is hard, but I think SAHM is harder b/c you never get to leave! So why not take that skillset and then GO HOME at the end of the day, feeling proud that you are making it possible for your kid to go to a top college)

How much vacation do your give your nanny? That's your answer right there.

Good question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

At least try to hide your jealously, wow.

[Anonymous]

When I left my career (of more than 10 years) to become a SAHM, the #2 in command in our office (a woman) told me maybe I should consider opening a daycare if I liked kids so much. Lady, I like MY kids enough to give up my career for a few years (maybe forever). I don't like everyone else's kids enough to run a daycare 355 days a year (assuming I close up for only 10 days to spend time with my adult children who I adore).

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 50s, was a SAHM to my kids through high school, and raised good people. Not just show ponies, they are good people with grit and resilience. I fear the children of the women posting here are already too damaged by their mothers to become good people. I don't need you, you need me. Yet, you think you have the leverage here.

Keep dreaming.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

At least try to hide your jealously, wow.

I don't think PP is jealous. I think they're a man whose mommy didn't love them enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

LOL - moms don't stay home to mow the lawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

LOL - moms don't stay home to mow the lawn.

This poster clearly knows nothing about anything and I doubt is even married much less has kids.

[Anonymous]

I think sahm would be nannies for people who make more money or are in a different social class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are lazy. Duh. Hard to work after hanging out for a few years.

Most SAHMs are useless and unemployable. I can’t tell you how many are in our neighborhood, yet still have cleaning services, lawn services, nannies, and countless other contracted services to avoid doing any work.

I always can tell the working mom who secretly feels guilty for leaving their children, but easily rationalizes it with put downs and generalizations of others.