why don't more SAHMs become nannies when kids are in college?

[Anonymous]

It's an interesting proposition.
For me, I don't think it would work because I'm biased towards my own kids. I wouldn't do as good a job (attentive, trying to find edifying experiences, exacting discipline, etc...) for someone else's kid.
Or maybe I would try to do all that and co-opt the parent role which is just as bad. Like I'd probably turn my nose up at the Nutella in the family's cupboard.
I'm too much of a freaking micro-manager for it.

[Anonymous]

Because they would have gone back to work when their youngest started elementary school - or sooner- if they wanted or needed to work.

[Anonymous]

Well ladies, I asked in the job forum if a potential employer would hire a SAHM as child caregiver and these are the replies

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1105983.page

[Anonymous]

That's who my own mother hired to care for me and my brothers (once they were born) when I was little. She was about 50 and her own two boys were grown. I was a baby when she first started working with us. When she died (I was about 30) I grieved her like a grandmother. She was part of our family.

[Anonymous]

People are still doing the stay at home mom thing in?? Wow. It’s the ‘20s for goodness sake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The SAHM I know who are complaining about finances are MC to UMC women and would not want to have a peer as their boss.

WTF does this even mean? Your boss is anyone who has money and needs a service that you are qualified to provide. Like do 35-year-old women not take a job if they would be reporting to another 35-year-old woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are still doing the stay at home mom thing in?? Wow. It’s the ‘20s for goodness sake!

Someone has to take care of the children. Either you do it yourself or you pay someone to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sahm doesn't qualify you as a nanny.

People like nannies with early childhood degrees and the like. I don't have that.
Plus, I'm old. My 50 yr old hips and back can no longer chase a toddler around and I have little energy/desire to change gross diapers or deal with potty training to boot.
And I only like my own kids.

Yeah, a lot of moms nowadays are 50s-60s when their kids leave.

I'm 55 and my youngest is still in middle school and has special needs. When this kid hits college, I'm going to travel and spend a lot of time in spas. I am not going to be anyone's nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well ladies, I asked in the job forum if a potential employer would hire a SAHM as child caregiver and these are the replies

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1105983.page

Classic DCUM thread disconnect.

[Anonymous]

I’m not loaded with the required patience to deal with other families’ issues, but I can work as a foreign language tutor and apply my botany knowledge (I hold a university degree). Would you agree to pay $50/hr?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sahm doesn't qualify you as a nanny.

People like nannies with early childhood degrees and the like. I don't have that.
Plus, I'm old. My 50 yr old hips and back can no longer chase a toddler around and I have little energy/desire to change gross diapers or deal with potty training to boot.
And I only like my own kids.

Here is your answers - SAHMs don't like to work. That was the whole point of SAHM.

So it's work when it is caring for other peoples kids from 9-5, but when it's caring for your own 24-7 it is... not work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sahm doesn't qualify you as a nanny.

People like nannies with early childhood degrees and the like. I don't have that.
Plus, I'm old. My 50 yr old hips and back can no longer chase a toddler around and I have little energy/desire to change gross diapers or deal with potty training to boot.
And I only like my own kids.

All of the above. Though a young relative has an infant and that baby is pure love and joy. I am always ready for providing childcare for free to her.


Here is another factor. I feel that I have earned my leisure finally as kids are in college now and I want to concentrate on myself. I am also aware that I cannot count my chickens before they hatch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well ladies, I asked in the job forum if a potential employer would hire a SAHM as child caregiver and these are the replies

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1105983.page

I posted on that thread...

I am a SAHM (or SAHW) with kids in college. I would never ever provide childcare for anyone but my own grandkids.

Remember a few years back, a female top exec in Palo Alto advertised for a "super nanny, house manager, life manager" person that sounded very much like a super educated SAHM of a rich man? I could fill that role in a jiffy...if I ever had the need for money.

But, I am probably not generous and I want to hoard my talents, love, creativity and care for only my children and grandkids. My job has been to make life easy for my own family. I don't want to be involved in solving other people's family need because I do not feel an emotional attachment to them.

Another thing is that you cannot be a "mom" figure to another family because you do not have any power or say in the care. As a SAHM, I took care of my kids from
a place of motherly love and utter devotion. Providing childcare to other people kids is basically just meeting basic physical needs of the children for a low hourly rate.

(I found the article about the woman CEO who went viral for her laundry list of qualifications for a childcare provider ...

https://www.distractify.com/p/viral-nanny-job-post )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not loaded with the required patience to deal with other families’ issues, but I can work as a foreign language tutor and apply my botany knowledge (I hold a university degree). Would you agree to pay $50/hr?

[Anonymous]

Because being a nanny usually blows. There’s no comparison to being a SAHM.