why don't more SAHMs become nannies when kids are in college?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of an educated professional friend who asked me (a SAHM) if I would be her nanny (two kids in diapers) since I was home anyway with two kids in diapers. It would be so easy she said. I scoffed.

She couldn't hold on to any babysitters or nannies, and her work hours were crazy. She offered $10 per hour, it was a few years ago.

I think she never really spent much time with her kids, so she didn't realize how much responsibility and work is involved.

Don't have kids if you don't have time for them.

Sahm with the same experience. I would hide the fact that I was a sahm and make people think I did a part time tech job from home. Some parents would be aggressive in trying to make me their low paid slave.

I was kind enough to agree to watch a single mom's child after school. It went from one afternoon to almost every afternoon, to her two kids. This woman aggressively tried to turn me into her slave, and was very demanding about it. At that point I
ut a stop to it firmly but kindly. There was drama after I put a stop to it. Crazy.

Was she paying you? If yes, then it was not just out of kindness and it does not resemble slavery in the least.

If you disagreed about expectations, then that means you were not smart enough to have a contract. I hope that you learned to be more professional next time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The SAHM I know who are complaining about finances are MC to UMC women and would not want to have a peer as their boss.

Or younger parents as bosses.

Yup. I wouldn’t have patience with a young parent with idealistic nanny goals that don’t align with my parenting experience, couldn’t deal with my three or four multi-week vacations every year, or that my HHI is higher than theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The SAHM I know who are complaining about finances are MC to UMC women and would not want to have a peer as their boss.

Or younger parents as bosses.

Yup. I wouldn’t have patience with a young parent with idealistic nanny goals that don’t align with my parenting experience, couldn’t deal with my three or four multi-week vacations every year, or that my HHI is higher than theirs.

Your insecurity is showing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of an educated professional friend who asked me (a SAHM) if I would be her nanny (two kids in diapers) since I was home anyway with two kids in diapers. It would be so easy she said. I scoffed.

She couldn't hold on to any babysitters or nannies, and her work hours were crazy. She offered $10 per hour, it was a few years ago.

I think she never really spent much time with her kids, so she didn't realize how much responsibility and work is involved.

Don't have kids if you don't have time for them.

Sahm with the same experience. I would hide the fact that I was a sahm and make people think I did a part time tech job from home. Some parents would be aggressive in trying to make me their low paid slave.

I was kind enough to agree to watch a single mom's child after school. It went from one afternoon to almost every afternoon, to her two kids. This woman aggressively tried to turn me into her slave, and was very demanding about it. At that point I
put a stop to it firmly but kindly. There was drama after I put a stop to it. Crazy.

Was she paying you? If yes, then it was not just out of kindness and it does not resemble slavery in the least.

If you disagreed about expectations, then that means you were not smart enough to have a contract. I hope that you learned to be more professional next time.

No money involved. I considered it sort of a playdate and initially didn't mind. Why would we set up a contract under those circumstances? That woman tried to turn this into a job for me, and that's when I put a stop to it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:because i would never give up this much of myself for anyone else but my own kids. Why don’t YOU become a Nanny when your kids are out of the house?

OP could become a nanny or if its so great, she could stay home with her kids.

[Anonymous]

^^A nonpaying job, so definitely falls under slavery. Wasn't going to happen, and I don't know why she thought I was cool with having my weekday afternoons taken over by her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a great idea if the woman likes kids. I also think it can be a really special and rewarding relationship if it all clicks: kids and parents.

But not all moms like other peoples kids -- and that's okay.

Honestly, I think dealing with the parents would be a bigger obstacle than the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an odd question. When I was a SAHM, it was so that our family had the flexibility for me to focus on our household and our kids during a time my DH had extensive travel requirements and long hours. A nanny is a full time job focusing on the children the nanny is hired to care for. If it made sense for me to work full time, I would have returned to the professional field I left to stay at home. Like many other PPs, I love OUR kids but am not a kid person regarding other people’s kids. Why would I have given up the flexibility we wanted at that point in our lives to take a job I had zero interest in doing. If we needed additional money I would have sought out part-time or project work in my field.

Perfectly said

[Anonymous]

Because I only care about my own children. I don’t care at all about other people’s kids!!

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I've learned from this thread is that that stay at home mom's are extremely defensive about literally everything they do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've learned from this thread is that that stay at home mom's are extremely defensive about literally everything they do

Or that some WOHM are entitled and think that others should sacrifice to raise their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've learned from this thread is that that stay at home mom's are extremely defensive about literally everything they do

Or that some WOHM are entitled and think that others should sacrifice to raise their children.

DP: The OP was just wondering why more SAHM didn't consider nannying as a potential job when their own kids went off to college IF they needed the money. This doesn't seem unreasonable since a lot of people complain about the cost of college and taking care of kids is the primary recent work experience of SAHM. I didn't see anyone demanding that SAHM must become nannies if they weren't interested--there are more than enough people wanting to become nannies, it's not like there's a shortage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've learned from this thread is that that stay at home mom's are extremely defensive about literally everything they do

Or that some WOHM are entitled and think that others should sacrifice to raise their children.

DP: The OP was just wondering why more SAHM didn't consider nannying as a potential job when their own kids went off to college IF they needed the money. This doesn't seem unreasonable since a lot of people complain about the cost of college and taking care of kids is the primary recent work experience of SAHM. I didn't see anyone demanding that SAHM must become nannies if they weren't interested--there are more than enough people wanting to become nannies, it's not like there's a shortage.

I love kids personally, but I worry about the parents taking advantage of me. I see the way people talk about nannies on this site and I don't want to get paid a low wage for childcare and then have the parents expect me to cook and clean too. It just doesn't pay enough especially when considering the marginal tax rate with a higher earning spouse. $10 per hour won't move the needle on college expenses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've learned from this thread is that that stay at home mom's are extremely defensive about literally everything they do

Or that some WOHM are entitled and think that others should sacrifice to raise their children.

DP: The OP was just wondering why more SAHM didn't consider nannying as a potential job when their own kids went off to college IF they needed the money. This doesn't seem unreasonable since a lot of people complain about the cost of college and taking care of kids is the primary recent work experience of SAHM. I didn't see anyone demanding that SAHM must become nannies if they weren't interested--there are more than enough people wanting to become nannies, it's not like there's a shortage.

I love kids personally, but I worry about the parents taking advantage of me. I see the way people talk about nannies on this site and I don't want to get paid a low wage for childcare and then have the parents expect me to cook and clean too. It just doesn't pay enough especially when considering the marginal tax rate with a higher earning spouse. $10 per hour won't move the needle on college expenses.

Sorry just wanted to add that I do worry and think about what I'll do in my next phase. I think something entrepreneurial would work better because I'd have to go back to school to re-enter my previous field.