s/o If all the adult males are duds who will our DDs marry?!

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Anonymous wrote:I have an amazing son, so there is hope. The issue is that he has tons of women throwing themselves at him. So, for one like mine (resident specialist doctor, 6'2, athletic, green eyes, beautiful hair) there are lots of girls interested in dating him. If I were a single woman, I'd look at first generation immigrants. I'm from Central Europe and most of my friends married Central or Eastern European men. All were raised by working moms, and they are very hands on with the kids and household work. When I met my American husband, he didn't know how to cut a tomato, his mom did everything for them. He had no idea you can't keep unwrapped chicken in the fridge for 3 weeks and expect it to smell fine. In my neighborhood, I also see a lot of very successful Indian doctors (surgeons, chief cardiologists) married to white American women.

Judging by my friends’ marriages, these guys are not doing any chores around the house because they weren’t expected/allowed to growing up. Either they had domestics or their mom and sisters did it. They are hand on with the kids, though.

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Make sure she is smart, not crazy, friendly, attractive, and can take care of herself. If she is, she will have no trouble finding a non-dud.

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No video games have ever been allowed in our home. We emphasize athleticism and culture.

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Anonymous wrote:Spin-off from the other thread about dud adults. I personally know of 5 young adult males who would rather play video games than have a career. Several want to just stay home. While DD’s gal pals in undergrad all have internships across the US, all their guy friends from the same college are just home hanging out, working at cold stone, they didn’t even try for internships. At this rate, there won’t be enough worthy males in our society for our DDs to marry.

OP, we as a nation should be very, very concerned about this trend. It’s not a joke because many of these lonely guys are getting pulled into dark web and turning their frustration about their status on women and POC. We as a society need to invest in Real Life social engagements for our kids, especially our sons. And No, I don’t blame the education sector. I blame Right wing news telling our white sons they are being “replaced.”

It’s scary and dangerous.

Agreed. This fuels lots of dangerous groups, and probably the 1/6 rioters were among this group.

I do put some blame on schools at least at K-12 level. There's been such a focus on girls -- getting them to study STEM etc -- which is good of course -- that they lost focus of boys and the boys are falling behind. If it's a few boys, I'd say blame the parents, but it's such a large group that the cause is greater than just parenting.

I disagree. I have two older boys, both in STEM (one in med school) and it's still very very male dominated.

+1 The numbers bear this out by far. We don't need 'boys can code' groups--they still make up 75%+ of CS majors and engineering majors.

60% students in medical schools are female.

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Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely no evidence that men are becoming worthless faster than women. Women now can't cook like their moms, can't clean like their moms, and a lot of them have worse bodies than their mom does NOW (like a 30 year older woman has less body fat). What do men have to look forward to?

This. Men are becoming useless duds, while women are becoming undesirable and lacking in good qualities. This forum is all about identity politics, so it’s ok to rag on men but not women, but in reality what we are witnessing is the degradation of society as a whole.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve got 4 boys. We’re the last Boy Scouts.

No video games. No soft hands. And no talking back to Momma.

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Anonymous wrote:No video games have ever been allowed in our home. We emphasize athleticism and culture.

Neat. Here’s your medal.

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If a person has lived on their own after 18 then blaming their mothers for not teaching them house chores is naive, if they didn't learn much in last 10 years, its their own fault.

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Anonymous wrote:No video games have ever been allowed in our home. We emphasize athleticism and culture.

That's overly controlling.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I do expect men to become obsolete. Or at least the “nuclear” family being the norm going away very soon. I have several close friends who are single mothers by choice. Very successful, educated women who also are beautiful, own their own homes, have a great set of friends/are very social, etc. They are seriously living their best lives once they decided to have kids on their own.

Awesome for them but is it fair to the child?

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I do expect men to become obsolete. Or at least the “nuclear” family being the norm going away very soon. I have several close friends who are single mothers by choice. Very successful, educated women who also are beautiful, own their own homes, have a great set of friends/are very social, etc. They are seriously living their best lives once they decided to have kids on their own.

Cool, but how happy will they be when their sons are hiding in homes alone? Or their daughters yearn to be with a man who doesn’t exist. We can do better. Starting with getting rid of the nasty view that men have no worth.

Its no different than patriarchal arrogance but its originates from experiences women with failed relationships had.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my concern with my young adult DD. She’s been with her BF for five years. He dropped out of college after three semesters, while she graduated. He works retail maybe 30 hours a week and plays video games most of the rest of the time. I had hoped he’d go back to school, but that doesn’t look likely.

But she says she’s happy with him, so I have to just wish them the best. But I do worry.

If he is a good person and makes her happy and they ever married and had kids, she can be the major breadwinner and he can give more time to kuds and the household.

IDK. Someone devoting this much time to video games and sloth probably won’t be a good SAHP.

Yup. SAHP isn't an easy part time gig.

Haha, it sure is once the kids are older than 2. Take them to playground and plop on bench with phone like all the moms I see.

You still have to wake them up, feed them, dress them, clean up the mess in house, do grocery, cook dinner so you can take them out for some physical exercise and peer socializing, if you get a breather before taking them back, why is it considered such a luxury. Its not like working moms won't look at their phones if sitting there.

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No worries for my kids. DH is an amazing husband and father. My DD has an awesome example of what kind of man to marry. And she knows to not accept BS behavior from anyone. Couple that with her own practicality and ambition, she is on the right path.

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Anonymous wrote:No worries for my kids. DH is an amazing husband and father. My DD has an awesome example of what kind of man to marry. And she knows to not accept BS behavior from anyone. Couple that with her own practicality and ambition, she is on the right path.

Make sure she can ID mental disorders in others.

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Anonymous wrote:No video games have ever been allowed in our home. We emphasize athleticism and culture.

Lol