Are kids who go to private school better behaved in general?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Please sit in Tenlytown quietly and take a good hard look and listen to the kids headed to Wilson. No thank you.

I’m sorry you dislike black kids.

Give it a rest. Im sorry you don’t raise your kids with basic manners and decorum.

I don’t have kids, and you probably Shouldn’t either if “those brown kids are too rowdy” is the best you can do.

Then you are a freak for being on this board

No one cares about your ignorant opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Please sit in Tenlytown quietly and take a good hard look and listen to the kids headed to Wilson. No thank you.

I’m sorry you dislike black kids.

Give it a rest. Im sorry you don’t raise your kids with basic manners and decorum.

So you see from this exchange between these two PPs, OP, that some people will be behave badly given the chance. Surely these two PPs wouldn’t say these things to each other’s faces at the local park/grocery/cafe. But let them be anonymous and they will because that is who they are. Kids are the same. See posts on this forum that are mean? Those are the parents. Apples don’t fall far. Some kids will and do behave badly if/when they think they can get away with it. Just like the parents. Some of those kids and parents are at public schools. And yes, some are at private.

And I don’t think the statement was racist since there are more white kids than any other race at Wilson.

[Anonymous]

NP but it gets so old when people claim private school parents are racist. Googled it and Wilson is 30% black. Well so is my kid’s private school class.

Of course the behavior is better. The school specifically tries not to admit “disruptive” kids in the first place, then retains the right to counsel them out when the admissions process failed. You’ll see stories about the kid of a donor or a board member being allowed to stay but that’s the exception that proves the rule. And I totally get that all that is problematic and unfair to special needs kids, but yeah, the end result is a more peaceful environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP but it gets so old when people claim private school parents are racist. Googled it and Wilson is 30% black. Well so is my kid’s private school class.

Of course the behavior is better. The school specifically tries not to admit “disruptive” kids in the first place, then retains the right to counsel them out when the admissions process failed. You’ll see stories about the kid of a donor or a board member being allowed to stay but that’s the exception that proves the rule. And I totally get that all that is problematic and unfair to special needs kids, but yeah, the end result is a more peaceful environment.

Unfortunately, the disruptive kids get glowing recommendations from their previous schools because that school wants them out. Parents also make it all about the other kids at the previous school. As a private school teacher I look out for middle school girls that transfer in supposedly due to bullying at their previous school because they often are the bullies and cause nothing but drama once they get comfortable (online and at school). Same for boys transferring in lower school. Local private schools don’t care as long as parents are full pay, big donors, and the kid fits whatever profile they want for that particular grade (our school in particular was always boy heavy so admission snagged any girl they could to try to balance).

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to share types of behavior I witnessed as a local private school teacher that did not result in kids getting removed from the school:

-Child on child sexual assault
-Fighting
-Bringing knives to school
-Repeated disruptive behaviors toward teachers and students including misogyny and racist, homophobic language


At best, a kid would get suspended after their parents bullied administration by threatening litigation. Usually the school would require the family to seek outside counseling as a contingency of continued enrollment. If a child left it was always the parents that made the decision. I highly doubt their new schools know anything of their previous behaviors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP but it gets so old when people claim private school parents are racist. Googled it and Wilson is 30% black. Well so is my kid’s private school class.

Of course the behavior is better. The school specifically tries not to admit “disruptive” kids in the first place, then retains the right to counsel them out when the admissions process failed. You’ll see stories about the kid of a donor or a board member being allowed to stay but that’s the exception that proves the rule. And I totally get that all that is problematic and unfair to special needs kids, but yeah, the end result is a more peaceful environment.

Unfortunately, the disruptive kids get glowing recommendations from their previous schools because that school wants them out. Parents also make it all about the other kids at the previous school. As a private school teacher I look out for middle school girls that transfer in supposedly due to bullying at their previous school because they often are the bullies and cause nothing but drama once they get comfortable (online and at school). Same for boys transferring in lower school. Local private schools don’t care as long as parents are full pay, big donors, and the kid fits whatever profile they want for that particular grade (our school in particular was always boy heavy so admission snagged any girl they could to try to balance).

As a former public school teacher I say again, these are exceptions that prove the rule. Just because private schools aren’t perfect at what they are trying to do (exclude kids with behavior problems) doesn’t mean they aren’t leaps and bounds ahead of public schools for behavioral problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to share types of behavior I witnessed as a local private school teacher that did not result in kids getting removed from the school:

-Child on child sexual assault
-Fighting
-Bringing knives to school
-Repeated disruptive behaviors toward teachers and students including misogyny and racist, homophobic language


At best, a kid would get suspended after their parents bullied administration by threatening litigation. Usually the school would require the family to seek outside counseling as a contingency of continued enrollment. If a child left it was always the parents that made the decision. I highly doubt their new schools know anything of their previous behaviors.

And what do you think happens to those same kids in public schools?

[Anonymous]

Experience with both, all kids of kids at both, but private school produces a lot of Eddie Haskell types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Please sit in Tenlytown quietly and take a good hard look and listen to the kids headed to Wilson. No thank you.

I’m sorry you dislike black kids.

Give it a rest. Im sorry you don’t raise your kids with basic manners and decorum.

I don’t have kids, and you probably Shouldn’t either if “those brown kids are too rowdy” is the best you can do.

Then you are a freak for being on this board

No one cares about your ignorant opinion.

Except you kid-stalker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to share types of behavior I witnessed as a local private school teacher that did not result in kids getting removed from the school:

-Child on child sexual assault
-Fighting
-Bringing knives to school
-Repeated disruptive behaviors toward teachers and students including misogyny and racist, homophobic language


At best, a kid would get suspended after their parents bullied administration by threatening litigation. Usually the school would require the family to seek outside counseling as a contingency of continued enrollment. If a child left it was always the parents that made the decision. I highly doubt their new schools know anything of their previous behaviors.

And what do you think happens to those same kids in public schools?

Not the point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to share types of behavior I witnessed as a local private school teacher that did not result in kids getting removed from the school:

-Child on child sexual assault
-Fighting
-Bringing knives to school
-Repeated disruptive behaviors toward teachers and students including misogyny and racist, homophobic language


At best, a kid would get suspended after their parents bullied administration by threatening litigation. Usually the school would require the family to seek outside counseling as a contingency of continued enrollment. If a child left it was always the parents that made the decision. I highly doubt their new schools know anything of their previous behaviors.

And what do you think happens to those same kids in public schools?

Not the point

Yeah, actually it is. DP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Please sit in Tenlytown quietly and take a good hard look and listen to the kids headed to Wilson. No thank you.

I’m sorry you dislike black kids.

Give it a rest. Im sorry you don’t raise your kids with basic manners and decorum.

So you see from this exchange between these two PPs, OP, that some people will be behave badly given the chance. Surely these two PPs wouldn’t say these things to each other’s faces at the local park/grocery/cafe. But let them be anonymous and they will because that is who they are. Kids are the same. See posts on this forum that are mean? Those are the parents. Apples don’t fall far. Some kids will and do behave badly if/when they think they can get away with it. Just like the parents. Some of those kids and parents are at public schools. And yes, some are at private.

Love this and it is so true

[Anonymous]

Private schools attendance is highly constructed. So any ability for them to have better behaved students is mostly based on what they are filtering out and not so muxh on what the school itself is doing. There are plenty of well behaved lids in public school.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think so. Often, poorly behaved kids in public then turn to private.

[Anonymous]

My DCs have been in both and they have said that the kids in private get "in trouble" more, but the things they get in trouble for are not even noticed behaviors at their old public school, like talking in class, having a phone out, dress code violation, cursing, holding hands. Things kids didn't get in trouble for at their public school: shouting in class at other kids, stealing phones, exposing themselves at lunch, cursing at teachers and security guards, having sex in the middle school bathroom.

Two totally different worlds.