Are kids who go to private school better behaved in general?

[Anonymous]

Of course! Higher standards and expectations.

[Anonymous]

no, at beach week recently, the private school houses constantly had the police there the public school houses not once.

[Anonymous]

I have kids in two different private elementary schools. In one school, the kids are extremely polite and well behaved. The other is full of bullies and bad behaving kids. We are leaving the school and putting our kid in public. The kids have to be nicer than what we have experienced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience -- YES!

The reason is pretty simple: private schools do not have to accept (or keep) disrespectful, troublemaking, or otherwise misbehaving students.

This is so FALSE. Beyond FALSE. The number of kids who get away with godawful sh!t at private schools is staggering. There are fewer kids in private than public so it may SEEM like that. As a private school parent for the last 14 years, I can't even count the number of HORRIBLE children who get admitted because the parents guarantee a certain amount of money. I know FOUR families who's misbehaving miscreants are "transferring" to other schools outside of the application process because of money.

The kids don't get kicked out. And the kids who should not be admitted are admitted because the Heads around here are competing to build the biggest endowment. Lots of BDE amongst the private administration.

Nope you are wrong.

My daughter's class is perfect example. In middle school, there were two girls counseled out because of bad behavior during her time there. One when she was in 6th and one when she was in 7th.

Therefore, the class has no behavior issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious if this is true. Do private schools have more strict behavioral policies or are the kids just naturally better behaved?

NOT IN LOWER SCHOOL.

Behavior problems, bullying and lack of discipline galore. And no, it's not due to covid shutdowns and lack of socialization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the elementary school level, absolutely.

I could see that at the Cathedral schools, SFS, Potomac and any uniform school. Staff acts very professional and expects the same manners from the students. Students step up as well. Tone is set by the Admin and teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, private school kids have better behavior (at school). I think it’s a combination on counseling out badly behaved kids and having stricter protocols. Family helps too.

When my kid was in public school there were only 3 kids that behaved badly, but they were really bad. Screaming, hitting, talking etc. This behavior would not be tolerated in my kids current private school (we have been in private more than in public at this point)

In the class, hallways and recess? Seen a lot of rude jokesters over the years in our kids' school, Grade 1 onward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the private school kids are savvier about their behavior.
They engage less in the kinds of obvious bad behavior that attract attention (e.g., being loud/rude in hallways, talking throughout performances), and probably are more capable, as a whole, of displaying good manners around adults.

But they're equal to or better at pulling off sneaky bad behavior (e.g., drinking before/during night-time events, bullying people outside of their clique).

Ask a substitute teacher what they think about what schools' students. You'll get an earful of positive or negative comments depending on the school and culture.

[Anonymous]

Definitely much better at ours. It is a large part of the reason we left MCPS. In MCPS our kids' classes had several kids who were constant disruptions in class, but the school did nothing about them. The private schools review school records and ask about disciplinary incidents. Kids who are constant disruptions aren't getting in in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is delightful and so messed up. Our private is terrified of reputational risk and will only remove a kid for really extreme behaviors. My daughter had a kid in her class this year that disrupted things every day. Emotionally needy kid who constantly ruined things for others. Physically aggressive and accused by one family of being sexually aggressive with their daughter. Aaaand, he's returning next year. We have mostly been in private but I think there are a lot of private school kids who are there because they couldn't hack public.

Interesting, this sounds exactly like the stories we got from one of our kids all year.

Agree, when parents suspect potential issues in their child and can afford it, they go straight to private school and hope for the best. Hugely disruptive to the learning and comfort level in the classroom.

[Anonymous]

Threads like this make no sense to me. How in the world can anyone provide objective and verifiable evidence that would be convincing about student behavior at public or private schools?

Everyone is just posting a bunch of anecdotes and theories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely much better at ours. It is a large part of the reason we left MCPS. In MCPS our kids' classes had several kids who were constant disruptions in class, but the school did nothing about them. The private schools review school records and ask about disciplinary incidents. Kids who are constant disruptions aren't getting in in the first place.

what school records?

teachers don't report this to the HoS. and often kids don't report it to the teachers. In fact, if kids see nothing good happen after others report things, or if things get worse, they give up it.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely! Not only better behaved, but generally just better people who deserve more in life than others!!!!!

[Anonymous]

No, former private school student. They are better behaved in class, but out of school it's usually very different.

[Anonymous]

No.
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