how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...

What do you mean by this op

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[Anonymous]

What I wish is that my kid could swap admittances with her good friend - they each got into the top choice school of the other. Too bad it doesn't work that way, but still.

[Anonymous]

Kid from DC's magnet school got into top schools in EA: pretty much every place they applied. Got full merit scholarships in each of the public schools. Happy for the kid, as the kid had very high stats. However my DC is still waiting for Ivy day. DC has got into a her safeties but has been deferred from her top choice.

[Anonymous]

Jealousy is bad look for parents and kids.

[Anonymous]

Imbalanced admissions results are a bad look for colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jealousy is bad look for parents and kids.

Not if they're talking about it on an anonymous website, rather than actually with their kids, family, and friends.

[Anonymous]

Think my neighbor lied about ethnicity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think my neighbor lied about ethnicity.

I don’t think race or ethnicity matter as much anymore as HHI/SES and family education levels. Colleges are much more interested in a poor kid or 1st gen to college candidate than a rich POC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is in ES so no personal experience yet.

Just philosophizing. I went to a “bad” gigantic school, my graduating class was like 750 kids l think. I was a nerd and my parents didn’t care, they didn’t even know what schools l applied to or what l was going to study until l was already in. So this angst parents here are feeling is foreign to me.

I will of course be helping my kid, but it’s nice to have a bit of perspective.

Of course because back in the day this was common and you didn’t go to a high school where your parents were invested. Parents just didn’t care as much because they had no reason too and the world was not so “in your face competitive” before social media and college stats at our fingertips via multiple internet sites. There is teams of research and stats Abdul’s me to everyone now that’s makes it clear how much better people do who go to good colleges. It’s a new world PP and I bet you will be eating these words by time your kid is a senior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is in ES so no personal experience yet.

Just philosophizing. I went to a “bad” gigantic school, my graduating class was like 750 kids l think. I was a nerd and my parents didn’t care, they didn’t even know what schools l applied to or what l was going to study until l was already in. So this angst parents here are feeling is foreign to me.

I will of course be helping my kid, but it’s nice to have a bit of perspective.

Of course because back in the day this was common and you didn’t go to a high school where your parents were invested. Parents just didn’t care as much because they had no reason too and the world was not so “in your face competitive” before social media and college stats at our fingertips via multiple internet sites. There is teams of research and stats Abdul’s me to everyone now that’s makes it clear how much better people do who go to good colleges. It’s a new world PP and I bet you will be eating these words by time your kid is a senior.

There is now reams of research and stats available to everyone now that makes it clear how much better people do who go to good colleges. It’s a new world PP…

Fixed typos.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Think my neighbor lied about ethnicity.

I don’t think race or ethnicity matter as much anymore as HHI/SES and family education levels. Colleges are much more interested in a poor kid or 1st gen to college candidate than a rich POC. [/quote]

LOL no. Quite the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think my neighbor lied about ethnicity.

Report her anonymously. Colleges welcome such information. They can be thrown out for lying on their application. Colleges rather find out now, than wait until that student commits worse - which they will.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jealousy is bad look for parents and kids.

Not if they're talking about it on an anonymous website, rather than actually with their kids, family, and friends.

DP here. Easy to tell who is who, IRL. All the questions! GMAFB - go get a job or hobby or something - a life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel amazed that they are willing to pay $80K+ per year for each year of undergraduate education for multiple kids.

I feel amazed at their kid having the stats to be considered, frankly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am realistic. One kid we know, who was very similar to mine except from a rich family and elite private, got into a more highly ranked school. I Know it was in part due to their full pay status. Still, I only wanted each of our kids to be happy. Mine, as it turns out, adjusted better than the other kid...which made me sad for her family (not secretly happy or anything).

These are adolescents, older children in effect. How could you wish them anything but success?

I sense schadenfreude here, and often, on DCUM.

Maybe the kid is more qualified, or maybe that kid fit the "slot" (that the school wanted/needed) better than you kid, and that is okay.

Full pay is something - EXCEPT if the kid does not have the grades or the fit, then full pay is nothing.

Except the poster literally said she felt bad for the other family…so there is no reason to infer that she was secretly happy about their misfortune.

Perhaps you are projecting, or using the word incorrectly?

Not projecting - except that I know how some parents talk about the successful kids, and rarely are those parents accurate.