Should I tell my DD to not be pre-med?

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OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Ah! That's why. My friend from TJHSST was a stellar biochem student, but at Hopkins they tell their classmates wrong answers and rip pages out of the library so no other students can study. My friend ended up becoming an IVCF alumni counselor and got married and turned into a Social Justice activist, but is one of the most amazing, moral people I know. BTW, Hopkins Comp Sci (used to be 15th--unbeknowst to many) is lucrative after graduation, but her social life/dating skills may get skewed in her life. If she's never taken CS, but likes Sudoku, LSAT logic ?s (Tom was not wearing a green shirt when he was in the bathroom), board games (strategy, not just party/verbal/art), and sequencing, it might be an option.

OP here. She originally got admitted for CS (decently good at coding), decided she didn't like computers that much. Changed over to neuroscience and pre-med. Realized she didn't like mice that much. Changed over to public health+pre-med.

. If she loves health, she would have an astronomical GPA at UVA, but her morals would suffer. Also, it sounds like you and hubby have the $$$ to send her to a $$$$$ D.O. (like the med equivalent of a 4th tier law school you buy your way in at $200K+). https://osteopathic.nova.edu/do/index.html

FWIW, some people regret being a doctor, but almost nobody regrets switching to Software (especially girls) AFTER the bro-culture male-friendly college years. Almost nobody regrets being a doctor's ex-spouse either. My brother is a surgeon and his platinum-digging ex got a SWEET[u] deal.

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

maybe she should pay her own bills?

Maybe mommy should honor her commitments as a parent.

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OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Ah! That's why. My friend from TJHSST was a stellar biochem student, but at Hopkins they tell their classmates wrong answers and rip pages out of the library so no other students can study. My friend ended up becoming an IVCF alumni counselor and got married and turned into a Social Justice activist, but is one of the most amazing, moral people I know. BTW, Hopkins Comp Sci (used to be 15th--unbeknowst to many) is lucrative after graduation, but her social life/dating skills may get skewed in her life. If she's never taken CS, but likes Sudoku, LSAT logic ?s (Tom was not wearing a green shirt when he was in the bathroom), board games (strategy, not just party/verbal/art), and sequencing, it might be an option.

OP here. She originally got admitted for CS (decently good at coding), decided she didn't like computers that much. Changed over to neuroscience and pre-med. Realized she didn't like mice that much. Changed over to public health+pre-med.

Newsflash ugly momma: that’s what college is for.

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Hell Yes

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

maybe she should pay her own bills?

Maybe mommy should honor her commitments as a parent.

No dog in this fight but the commitments work both ways. DD needs to keep up her end of bargain.

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

maybe she should pay her own bills?

Maybe mommy should honor her commitments as a parent.

No dog in this fight but the commitments work both ways. DD needs to keep up her end of bargain.

DS isn’t flunking out. She didn’t go into Hopkins promising to be in pre-med. Mommy has no right to force her to leave Hopkins now because she doesn’t like a Public Policy Major.

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About 900 out of 1300 Hopkins freshmen are interested in premed, of which less than half (about 420) ever apply to med school and a third (about 300) are accepted to med school. Not every interested premed makes it even at a top school like Hopkins; in fact the vast majority don’t.

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OP, my DC1 is in med school now - she needs to retake the classes and try to get 3.5 GPA in the science classes. With a great MCAT, she can get into to a less competitive med school or DO program. Mississippi has 40% admission rate.

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I was pre-med and we all struggled with our sciences. Our pre-med class first semester of freshman year was about 800, by second semester it was about 400. The C’s may be perfectly normal - my program was like that. My actual major was clinical laboratory science and I kept the pre-med path but did nothing with it. My best friend did the same with a degree in N&D (which she followed with the required internship).

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OP it looks like the DCUM dogs are set upon you. Ignore them all, they are always attacking and itching for a fight.

I don't think anything you say is unreasonable. Best of luck with it all.

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I don’t think a parent should be the person who tells you that you are incapable of achieving your dream.

This is exactly the conversation your daughter’s advisor may initiate. Plus, just by talking to other kids, she will likely realize that she needs to change course.

There are many other medical routes for her to consider ( PA, PT, public health, nurse, audiologist, speech therapist, etc).

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Anonymous wrote:OP it looks like the DCUM dogs are set upon you. Ignore them all, they are always attacking and itching for a fight.

I don't think anything you say is unreasonable. Best of luck with it all.

In all honesty, you don’t think there is anything wrong with OP forcing her daughter to transfer schools in her junior year because the Public Policy major she chose wouldn’t pay enough after graduation?

The attack dogs are right on this one.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think a parent should be the person who tells you that you are incapable of achieving your dream.

This is exactly the conversation your daughter’s advisor may initiate. Plus, just by talking to other kids, she will likely realize that she needs to change course.

There are many other medical routes for her to consider ( PA, PT, public health, nurse, audiologist, speech therapist, etc).

OP won’t pay for any of those majors and will make her transfer to a state school if DD declares one.

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OP is a wacko. I can’t see any way to defend her

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think a parent should be the person who tells you that you are incapable of achieving your dream.

This is exactly the conversation your daughter’s advisor may initiate. Plus, just by talking to other kids, she will likely realize that she needs to change course.

There are many other medical routes for her to consider ( PA, PT, public health, nurse, audiologist, speech therapist, etc).

If OP isn’t going to pay for a degree in Public Policy, do you really think she’s going to pay for a nursing degree?