Should I tell my DD to not be pre-med?

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Jesus, shut up!! You’re making yourself look even worse. You’re a fricking nightmare parent. Conditional love at it’s worst.

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Anonymous wrote:Transfer to UMD from Hopkins. Let her do public policy. It is insane to pay $70K per year for Hopkins for public policy.

OMG, you’re both insane! I feel so sorry for both of your children. They will both grow up to hate you. Mark my words.

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OP - you got it backwards, if what you want is med school or law school your should not go to the hardest/hardest grading school and your should not spend 70K/year if money matters. You can get into top med schools and law school with perfect grades from mid tier schools that would probably have cost half as much for a student with your DD’s stats.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you got it backwards, if what you want is med school or law school your should not go to the hardest/hardest grading school and your should not spend 70K/year if money matters. You can get into top med schools and law school with perfect grades from mid tier schools that would probably have cost half as much for a student with your DD’s stats.

She applied ED and got in, and we were surprised. We didn't actually think she would get in. We decided she could go because it's Hopkins for goodness sakes, it has amazing resources for the research she does and the advocacy work she does.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you got it backwards, if what you want is med school or law school your should not go to the hardest/hardest grading school and your should not spend 70K/year if money matters. You can get into top med schools and law school with perfect grades from mid tier schools that would probably have cost half as much for a student with your DD’s stats.

Same poster.


It is also insane to make your child transfer schools because you do not like her major. Give her the best education you can and support her in finding her way. It means something to have a degree from Hopkins.

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What is the advice of her MD dad?

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Anonymous wrote:What is the advice of her MD dad?

OP here. She should stick at Hopkins because it's Hopkins and maybe retake the orgo course somewhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Jesus, shut up!! You’re making yourself look even worse. You’re a fricking nightmare parent. Conditional love at it’s worst.

not throwing money away is not conditional love.

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

maybe she should pay her own bills?

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I am amazed how shocked, shocked people here are that a parent would be involved in decision related to their spending of 100000s of dollars.

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s her journey.

OP here. But, I'm paying for her school.

And you wouldn’t pay if she doesn’t get into med school?

Don’t do that, OP. You’re paying for her college education. What she does with it is up to her.

OP here. No, I would get her to transfer to a cheaper school if she decides not to be pre-med because full price for a public health degree is not worth it.

Wow.

+1 I mean seriously, what a way to destroy your kid.

+2. You’re a horrible parent, OP. The truth is out. No wonder your poor daughter is suffering.

+3 stay out of this op. You are awful and your kid will do better navigating it without you.

OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Jesus, shut up!! You’re making yourself look even worse. You’re a fricking nightmare parent. Conditional love at it’s worst.

not throwing money away is not conditional love.

Your kid will have a degree from Johns Hopkins, bad mother, even if her major is not to your liking.

You’re really dreadful, OP. To even think of forcing her to transfer because she isn’t on a pre-med track. She is going to hate you (if she doesn’t already).

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You can be an amazing student in high school and not be able to handle science at a top college. I got a 5 on AP Bio and barely passed bio at my top 5 liberal arts college. She might genuinely just not be smart enough to compete with the other kids at her college.

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Anonymous wrote:I am amazed how shocked, shocked people here are that a parent would be involved in decision related to their spending of 100000s of dollars.

I amazed, shocked, shocked, that in 2021 anyone would ever defend OP.

The parent already made the decision and the kid was accepted. Mommy Dearest doesn’t get to make her transfer to another cheaper school because it’s not the major mommy wanted.

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OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Ah! That's why. My friend from TJHSST was a stellar biochem student, but at Hopkins they tell their classmates wrong answers and rip pages out of the library so no other students can study. My friend ended up becoming an IVCF alumni counselor and got married and turned into a Social Justice activist, but is one of the most amazing, moral people I know. BTW, Hopkins Comp Sci (used to be 15th--unbeknowst to many) is lucrative after graduation, but her social life/dating skills may get skewed in her life. If she's never taken CS, but likes Sudoku, LSAT logic ?s (Tom was not wearing a green shirt when he was in the bathroom), board games (strategy, not just party/verbal/art), and sequencing, it might be an option.

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OP here. How am I the "bad" one here. $70,000 is a lot for a degree in public health if all she decides she wants to work in health policy or epidemiology. We know there is no money there. I just want my DD to have a well-paying, stable job and if she goes all "social justice warrior" on me, what we're paying for Hopkins won't be worth it. I have supported her every step of the way, but I know my DD is in that stage where she believes she can "change the world" and that's not real life.

Ah! That's why. My friend from TJHSST was a stellar biochem student, but at Hopkins they tell their classmates wrong answers and rip pages out of the library so no other students can study. My friend ended up becoming an IVCF alumni counselor and got married and turned into a Social Justice activist, but is one of the most amazing, moral people I know. BTW, Hopkins Comp Sci (used to be 15th--unbeknowst to many) is lucrative after graduation, but her social life/dating skills may get skewed in her life. If she's never taken CS, but likes Sudoku, LSAT logic ?s (Tom was not wearing a green shirt when he was in the bathroom), board games (strategy, not just party/verbal/art), and sequencing, it might be an option.

OP here. She originally got admitted for CS (decently good at coding), decided she didn't like computers that much. Changed over to neuroscience and pre-med. Realized she didn't like mice that much. Changed over to public health+pre-med.