Height

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 5’10 divorced mid 40s woman. I’ve always had a 6’3” (ish) significant other or husband. I’ve been drawn to big Viking types of men since about middle school… 😂. However I recently met a wonderful 5’7” man (and admittedly as per the previous posters point about height/income, he is relatively well off financially), I find him physically very attractive and masculine. I’d say he is cute but not less masculine vs taller men. He’s got big (big!!) hands and feet 😉 and is quite assertive, as well as kind and generous. He seems incredibly into me, which I’m surprised by. Sounds like he’s only been married and dated women who are shorter than him, prior to me. Perhaps we are just a fun novelty to one another, but I’m not finding his stature to affect or thwart my attraction.

Made a correction in bold… also think of Rosie and Jason. We are like a MUCH LESS PRETTY version of them… 😛 I’m slim tall light haired blue eyed, he’s shorter, buff, brown eyed, greying balding dark hair. He’s pretty much the opposite of men I’ve been attracted to my whole life. However unlike the men I’ve been with to date, he is is not stoic, he is very talkative and expresses emotions, not self centered, very warm, and very interested in me. Which as an older woman, matters to me in a way that it apparently didn’t as much, way back when?! I would say I’m not attracted to his money per se (although his suggestion that we fly to a warm island for the weekend was exciting!) as much as his intellect, which is the reason he has money. He is almost too smart for me to keep up with, conversationally… I’m afraid he will get bored with me. He invented a bunch of tech stuff. However he’s said he likes my “femininity” which I understand to me be appreciated that I don’t challenge him or emasculate him too much, despite my height). Back to the height thing to, I do prefer to barefoot around him… the psychology of attraction is interesting.

The PP is a man Guys, you are so easy to spot when you pretend to be women. This is NOT how we think and write. I like that you put femininity in quotes - it's such an illusory term and such a mystery to you. It doesn't even crosses our minds to think about femininity (we exist, therefore we are feminine) and emasculation. I like how to you try to explain a "woman's" thought process and emotions by using the male logic lol. Buff? Too smart for me? Said no woman ever. I also like the subtle "invented a bunch of tech stuff", like this pretend woman has the intelect of a 2th grader and cannot grasp a technical innovation. Even the most airheaded Instagram "model" can understand a tech innovation so she can assess the cash cow potential. But nice try, A for effort.

Another doozy. No woman in her 40s thinks of her as an older woman. Only a man would think that.

I am a woman. I am older relative to my younger self, and in my younger years (teens-20s+) was only attracted to very tall men.

Oof, so shorter men get the older leftover women approaching menopause. Tall men get them in their prime child bearing years. Not exactly doing short men any favors there LOL.

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I’m 5’5” and attractive. I prefer men 5’8”-6”. Not all women want prefer the very tall

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Some men don’t want to date women larger than a size six. Some women don’t want to date men shorter than 6’. Tis what it is and nobody is entitled to attention from anyone else.

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Woman here. My DH is 6’3 but I have dated men as short as ~5’5. Charm, a nice body, and intelligence go a very long way.

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I would rather date a foreign guy who is 5'6" and thinks he's medium height than a guy who is 5'7" with Napolean complex, thinks it is okay to bully/hit women since they are the only ones smaller etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I see your shortness and raise you: I am a Black woman on the apps. Nobody is looking for me.

I am an older white guy on the apps. I'm looking for you as long as you are: pretty, thin, smart, and kinky.

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My husband is 5’7 and one of the things I adore about him is that he is confident about his height! And what I mean by that is both being generally confident and acknowledging that it was kind of a bummer to get rejected or teased for it sometimes, but can laugh it off. So he just accepts it for what it is. No chip on his shoulder.

I am 5’2 though and so there is still a good height difference.

Also if it makes you feel any better, a good number of tall guys wouldn’t date me because they were so much taller. At least that’s what they told my friends. Maybe it was actually my bad eyebrows, who knows.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 6'5" and make $170k. Neither has helped me get the women I want most, but I can always find someone who isn't morbidly obese.

What kind of women do you want and why don’t they want you?

Professional Asian women who are age 30-45. But I end up settling.

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Anonymous wrote:I see your shortness and raise you: I am a Black woman on the apps. Nobody is looking for me.

Our homecoming queen married a white guy on match.com and has two beautiful children with him. She happened to be African-american.

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Anonymous wrote:I see your shortness and raise you: I am a Black woman on the apps. Nobody is looking for me.

Our homecoming queen married a white guy on match.com and has two beautiful children with him. She happened to be African-american.

Statistically, that is an unusual match.

Mixed kids are often beautiful (IMO).

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 5’7 and one of the things I adore about him is that he is confident about his height! And what I mean by that is both being generally confident and acknowledging that it was kind of a bummer to get rejected or teased for it sometimes, but can laugh it off. So he just accepts it for what it is. No chip on his shoulder.

I am 5’2 though and so there is still a good height difference.

Also if it makes you feel any better, a good number of tall guys wouldn’t date me because they were so much taller. At least that’s what they told my friends. Maybe it was actually my bad eyebrows, who knows.

ITA

Signed, very short woman (4'11), though my DH is 6'2. But, I know that there were some men around 6' who did not want to date me b/c of my height, though they thought I was attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:This is what’s wrong with online dating, people who find love at college, work or in their social circle aren’t going by inches or pounds, they go with whoever looks compatible and attractive.

They're also, if they have actual brains and hearts, looking for people with whom they have something in common beyond just wanting sex.

Online dating is actually online shopping for no-strings sex, which is why people feel free to limit their selections based on extremely arbitrary, purely physical characteristics, like saying "No one under 6' tall need apply" or "Blondes only" etc.

And then people wonder why they can't find their soulmate via online dating. Well, the answer is, it's all body, no soul.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 5’7 and one of the things I adore about him is that he is confident about his height! And what I mean by that is both being generally confident and acknowledging that it was kind of a bummer to get rejected or teased for it sometimes, but can laugh it off. So he just accepts it for what it is. No chip on his shoulder.

I am 5’2 though and so there is still a good height difference.

Also if it makes you feel any better, a good number of tall guys wouldn’t date me because they were so much taller. At least that’s what they told my friends. Maybe it was actually my bad eyebrows, who knows.

ITA

Signed, very short woman (4'11), though my DH is 6'2. But, I know that there were some men around 6' who did not want to date me b/c of my height, though they thought I was attractive.

The bold is very disheartening because what if you shared their interests, or you and they had the same values and goals, similar senses of humor, wanted the same things from life--? They'll never know. But then, if they were refusing to date you based entirely on height, they are too shallow to have interests, values, goals, humor....You dodged bullets there, I'm guessing. It's just pathetic that people make height, or weight, or hair color etc. the No. 1 criterion, and put things that actually matter below it.

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Anonymous wrote:Men were always shallow, women are catching up.

Look how many men here want hotness and thinness. I don't think men are feeling guilty or are shamed for demanding that a woman needs to be a size 2 and able to give BJs 3 times/week while hanging from the chandelier. G** forbid that women have preferences too, is it totally unacceptable. They are called golddiggers and tramps. But men who want size 2 have standards.

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How tall is your bank account?