Thanksgiving 2021 Grievances Thread

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Anonymous wrote:My main grievance has just now become that everyone in my family is too lazy to have ever made a 7 layer jello mold for our family and I will never get to try it.

(this includes me, I am also never going to try to make it)

My husband objects to it on principle because Aunt Carol works so hard and people don't appreciate it.

Well yes. I can't imagine working hard on jello. This is what makes Aunt Carol so special and why I am grieved my family is only making regular sh*t like pies and potatoes. Let's step it up with an overwhelmingly complicated marginal tasting jello side dish people!!!

I have an old jello recipe book and you made me curious to see how it is made.

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Anonymous wrote:My family that is hosting us has several members who are violently allergic to nuts. I know they can't do anything about it but I put nuts in so many things that I love to make and I'm sad we can't have any interesting desserts.

I can name 15 desserts that are "interesting" that don't include nut or nut extracts. You lack empathy if this even crossed your mind to type out. Nut allergies can be lethal, as in someone could DIE. Shut up and stay home with your "interesting" desserts.

My new grievance is nuts in desserts. BAN nuts in desserts. Especially brownies.

And toll house cookies

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Anonymous wrote:I'm amazed by how many of you are deliberately endangering family members.

Who is deliberately endangering family??

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Anonymous wrote:My family that is hosting us has several members who are violently allergic to nuts. I know they can't do anything about it but I put nuts in so many things that I love to make and I'm sad we can't have any interesting desserts.

I can name 15 desserts that are "interesting" that don't include nut or nut extracts. You lack empathy if this even crossed your mind to type out. Nut allergies can be lethal, as in someone could DIE. Shut up and stay home with your "interesting" desserts.

My new grievance is nuts in desserts. BAN nuts in desserts. Especially brownies.

And toll house cookies

And banana bread

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Anonymous wrote:We're traveling six hours to see my husband's family, which is what we do every Thanksgiving. My BIL spends any visit making snarky political comments since I'm the only liberal he knows personally. Normally I'm great at ignoring him and either leave the room or change the subject. However, my dad died two weeks ago, and I'm really brittle right now. I'm afraid I might throat punch BIL this year, as I'm not in the mood for his crap.

I'm sorry for your loss. Unless your BIL is total a-hole, consider pulling him aside at the beginning of the evening and just explaining this (or, having your DH explain this, since it's his brother). My family members who like to tweak people for their political beliefs "for fun" would absolutely back off in this scenario and would also appreciate a heads up in advance. Of course, if your BIL is a jerk, then this is not a helpful strategy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm amazed by how many of you are deliberately endangering family members.

Each and every one of our small gathering are vaccinated. Bye.

Same. I'm one of people's most COVID-conservative friends-- and I live in Takoma Park!-- but we are doing TG this year. 10 people total, every single one vaxxed AND boosted a few weeks ago, except my kid, who will have about 50% immunity, being almost 3 weeks out from her first shot.

Oh, and we will be taking rapid tests (although I don't think that does much).

I know there's a risk, but it's VERY low.

I'm not one of these "live your life!" people-- not remotely. But there literally does have to come a point when you are more or less living your life. Outside of our child not being 100% immune-- among people who have all been very fully vaccinated!-- there is nothing else we could do. Most of us WFH or are retired and hardly go anywhere else.

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My petty TG gripe is that my mom isn't coming. My parents' dog has fallen suddenly and pretty severely ill... and she's 17!! So I totally get why they can't leave her alone. I am 50% sure this is the end for poor Fluffy. But it still stinks. I have only seen my mom once since COVID, but it's a petty gripe because we will be traveling to see them around Christmas.

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My husband refuses to travel to see his family for Thanksgiving. I would really like to experience a real American Thanksgiving for once with a big family gathering instead of just our small family.

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Anonymous wrote:We go to my in-laws every year for Thanksgiving and usually get there around noon, but this year for some reason we can't come before 1:00. Football starts at 12:30 and I'm irrationally irritated that I am going to miss the first half hour of the game. Why? The Lions are absolutely terrible, they haven't won a game all year, but I don't care. I'm from Detroit and t's my thing.

I'm not even from Detroit (I'm from Philly, ha!) but Thanksgiving = Detroit and Dallas. Pull up early and use the wifi from their house to watch the first quarter from their driveway.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to show my kid the Charlie Brown Thanksgiving movie but it only aired for one night on PBS for free and WETA didn’t air it (nor did they air the Charlie Brown Halloween like the
Other PBS stations). So now I have to sign up for another DUMB streaming service - Apple TV - to watch the blasted program and then remember to cancel it because paying for cable, Amazon, Hulu, HBO, and Disney Plus doesn’t get you the only stupid thing you want to watch!

Do the 7-day free trial of Apple TV. Watch it, then cancel. Set a calendar to reminder on day 6.

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Anonymous wrote:DH forgot to tell his parents we were coming for Thanksgiving. I started texting about what recipe I should make and my MIL had no clue we were coming.... for 4 days. Thanks DH!

Gah!!! How did that happen?!

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Anonymous wrote:How much bread did buy for $66? 😮

18 mini croissants that will be made that morning and two cranberry almond loaves.

WTF? That was $66? Are they gold plated?

I live in San Francisco. I laugh when you guys talk of things being expensive in the DMV. You don’t know from expensive.

That’s on you for choosing to live in an expensive area. Don’t like it? Move. We love the Dmv area!

I love living here. Not moving to a humid area where everyone is wildly insecure and constantly posturing.

I’ve lived in both places. They each have their pros and cons. For the “raising kids” stage of life, I think the DMV wins, though the humidity does suck!

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Anonymous wrote:My father passed away rather suddenly in August. It’s going to be hard enough to go through the holidays without him, so it’s extra depressing that instead of enjoying nice family time, my whole visit with my mom will be spent helping her with paperwork and fixing her computer issues and showing her how to use her new IPhone. She’ll ask for advice on financial situations, I’ll give it, and then she will disregard whatever I’ve said and will want to rehash the same issues with me in the future.

I love her and she’s been the most awesome mom my whole life, and I know that losing my dad, her best friend and helpmate, has been devastating for her, so I’m not mad about any of it, but I’m feeling sorry for myself that I can’t just enjoy Mom’s company.

PP, my father also passed away suddenly in August and Thanksgiving was the holiday we always spent with him (my parents are divorced) for almost two weeks. It was my favorite time of year and I don’t know how to survive it without him. I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I didn’t understand how you feel but I do.

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Anonymous wrote:My father passed away rather suddenly in August. It’s going to be hard enough to go through the holidays without him, so it’s extra depressing that instead of enjoying nice family time, my whole visit with my mom will be spent helping her with paperwork and fixing her computer issues and showing her how to use her new IPhone. She’ll ask for advice on financial situations, I’ll give it, and then she will disregard whatever I’ve said and will want to rehash the same issues with me in the future.

I love her and she’s been the most awesome mom my whole life, and I know that losing my dad, her best friend and helpmate, has been devastating for her, so I’m not mad about any of it, but I’m feeling sorry for myself that I can’t just enjoy Mom’s company.

PP, my father also passed away suddenly in August and Thanksgiving was the holiday we always spent with him (my parents are divorced) for almost two weeks. It was my favorite time of year and I don’t know how to survive it without him. I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I didn’t understand how you feel but I do.

I’m really sorry for your loss. This Thanksgiving must be very difficult for you. It’s hard to feel thankful when you’re grieving a major loss and you miss a loved one terribly.

My heart goes out to everyone who is grieving or depressed or lonely during the holidays. Hugs to everyone who needs one. ❤️

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Anonymous wrote:My family that is hosting us has several members who are violently allergic to nuts. I know they can't do anything about it but I put nuts in so many things that I love to make and I'm sad we can't have any interesting desserts.

I can name 15 desserts that are "interesting" that don't include nut or nut extracts. You lack empathy if this even crossed your mind to type out. Nut allergies can be lethal, as in someone could DIE. Shut up and stay home with your "interesting" desserts.

My new grievance is nuts in desserts. BAN nuts in desserts. Especially brownies.

And toll house cookies

And banana bread

+ a million ✊