Are sons missing a genetic gene on caring about their parents?

[Anonymous]

What I have learned is that mothers are blamed for everything whatever they do. It is impossible to win.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the son.

My brother and i haven't really had to deal with this yet, but he is a very attentive and thoughtful person in general. I am 100% certain he will be supportive and helpful as needed. My own father only had a brother - and brother lives across the country. We live about 5 hours from my paternal grandparents and spent a lot of time with them/visited at least once a month if not more often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I have learned is that mothers are blamed for everything whatever they do. It is impossible to win.

Yeah if they provide unpaid family care they are door mats, if they don’t they are heartless beatches. If they try to give adult children space they are detached while if they seek more frequent contact they are needy … If they raise sons to do chores and cook in order to aim for eventual equality in their marriages, they are too woke while if they also teach daughters to cook and clean, they are sexist.

The impossible social expectations on women just go on and on and on ..,,

[Anonymous]

I agree men are useless.

I’ve had to force my brothers to help and they finally step up but begrudgingly. It’s only because I just stopped doing things for my mom.

My nieces are helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I saw my brothers do this to our parents too. But our parents raised us girls to put others before ourselves and my brothers to put themselves first.

My parents made us girls clean the house and babysit the younger kids. Our brothers only had to make their beds and do outdoor chores, like mowing.

It was no surprise when the parents got old, the daughters put in most of the caregiving hours. My brothers would turn off their phones when they thought an urgent call from the ailing parents might come in. They took care of themselves first as my parents trained them.

+100

Most of this over 40 were raised this way. It isn't genetics. People who are genetics want things to stay this way.

Link to research on reality of global experiences in huge gender gaps In providing unpaid family care with scientific research that contends it is all social conditioning ? Scientists have been arguing over this for decades …

You're a man aren't you?

Do you deny that children are raised with different expectations wrt caring even in the year 2021?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"A daughter once born is a daughter for life. A son is a son until he takes a wife."

--old proverb

What ignorant, misogynistic crap!

Every cliched proverb has a grain of truth.

The gender gap is real.

Biological and social Gender differences are both real.

The question is how to reduce the inordinate burden on women to provide unpaid family care?

Such bull. Because women bear children they were left to care for them. That's it. From that fact the basic beliefs began about women and their place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"A daughter once born is a daughter for life. A son is a son until he takes a wife."

--old proverb

What ignorant, misogynistic crap!

Every cliched proverb has a grain of truth.

The gender gap is real.

Biological and social Gender differences are both real.

The question is how to reduce the inordinate burden on women to provide unpaid family care?

Such bull. Because women bear children they were left to care for them. That's it. From that fact the basic beliefs began about women and their place.

Now once the baby is born there’s no reason mine both genders can’t be fully engaged in the raising of children

[Anonymous]

Women provided unpaid labor for their kids and parents for centuries. And some women still provide it. Men haven’t stepped up, while women have stepped up and entered the workforce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"A daughter once born is a daughter for life. A son is a son until he takes a wife."

--old proverb

What ignorant, misogynistic crap!

Every cliched proverb has a grain of truth.

The gender gap is real.

Biological and social Gender differences are both real.

The question is how to reduce the inordinate burden on women to provide unpaid family care?

Such bull. Because women bear children they were left to care for them. That's it. From that fact the basic beliefs began about women and their place.

Yeah and why did that child care burden happen in every society on earth over thousands of years ? Biological constraints. The waters are way murkier and more complex than you are giving credit for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I saw my brothers do this to our parents too. But our parents raised us girls to put others before ourselves and my brothers to put themselves first.

My parents made us girls clean the house and babysit the younger kids. Our brothers only had to make their beds and do outdoor chores, like mowing.

It was no surprise when the parents got old, the daughters put in most of the caregiving hours. My brothers would turn off their phones when they thought an urgent call from the ailing parents might come in. They took care of themselves first as my parents trained them.

+100

Most of this over 40 were raised this way. It isn't genetics. People who are genetics want things to stay this way.

Link to research on reality of global experiences in huge gender gaps In providing unpaid family care with scientific research that contends it is all social conditioning ? Scientists have been arguing over this for decades …

You're a man aren't you?

Do you deny that children are raised with different expectations wrt caring even in the year 2021?

Not a man but relevant science background. Literally, there are no conclusive studies one way or the other regarding how much of gender gap around providing family care is biological and how much is social.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"A daughter once born is a daughter for life. A son is a son until he takes a wife."

--old proverb

What ignorant, misogynistic crap!

Every cliched proverb has a grain of truth.

The gender gap is real.

Biological and social Gender differences are both real.

The question is how to reduce the inordinate burden on women to provide unpaid family care?

(PSST…part of the way forward to reduce the burden on women to provide unpaid family care is to stop yammering old proverbs and getting those notions into people’s heads.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"A daughter once born is a daughter for life. A son is a son until he takes a wife."

--old proverb

What ignorant, misogynistic crap!

Every cliched proverb has a grain of truth.

The gender gap is real.

Biological and social Gender differences are both real.

The question is how to reduce the inordinate burden on women to provide unpaid family care?

I doubt that policing language and guilting people for expressing cultural realities will solve the problem …

(PSST…part of the way forward to reduce the burden on women to provide unpaid family care is to stop yammering old proverbs and getting those notions into people’s heads.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"A daughter once born is a daughter for life. A son is a son until he takes a wife."

--old proverb

What ignorant, misogynistic crap!

Every cliched proverb has a grain of truth.

The gender gap is real.

Biological and social Gender differences are both real.

The question is how to reduce the inordinate burden on women to provide unpaid family care?

(PSST…part of the way forward to reduce the burden on women to provide unpaid family care is to stop yammering old proverbs and getting those notions into people’s heads.)

I doubt that policing language and guilting people for expressing cultural realities will solve the problem …

[Anonymous]

Part of it is nature and part nurture. My son is sweet and caring. My sister is a cold fish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, the ones in my family do well caring for their parents.

Same here. My dad has 2 sisters and he cared exclusively for his parents, including visiting them weekly. My brother cared for our grand uncle, including moving him in with his family and changing his diaper. My brother is also the one who will care for our parents, as I'm 10 hours away by plane.