Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m wondering why on earth she couldn’t have tried getting a job at a fast food place, or perhaps the Dollar Store, or a grocery store. Surely there was something else she could have tried before settling for the absolute worst possible scenario? That’s the only part I’m having a hard time with. It just didn’t make any sense - paying for the uniform, supplies, toll and gas to get there, hauling the vacuum around with her… could she have even *tried* McDonalds, etc. first?

Not thinking clearly. She was under ongoing trauma.

She was thinking clearly. She needed two pay stubs to qualify for social services. It would take 4-6 weeks for that to occur with a fast food or cashier position. She needed a small business that cuts pay stubs weekly or even after each job (like the maid service). That shortened the time to days rather than weeks.

She had 2-4 people reaching out to help her in the first couple episodes and she turned them down and was in serious need of help.
The ins/outs of paybstub thing is interesting but for the average American (or non American with no SSN) no one knows what cash velocity job helps social serves turn in faster. And the social worker did but just gave the job lead not explaining thay.

Either way I look FW to watching the whole series. It is not a binge watch though!

This plus what Angelina Jolie is doing with shining a light in defunct family courts and even the Woody Allen wife documentary (terrible, terrible situation if an abuser with power and money) need to get people to wake up and fix things.

maid makes me want to buy up motels and make them safe DV shelters. Where can I donate with low overhead and direct to asset /staff funding?

What do you think overhead pays for if not primarily staffing?

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Anonymous wrote:So can someone who has been through something similar or knows someone chime in - is it realistic?
I am having a hard time believing that the only job a college student could get was in cleaning. I had it easier as when my STBX left he paid my rent - had to resort to many gigs before I settled in into a permanent role, including cleaning, and it was easy to find male clients who were working professionals and therefore didn’t leave much mess and weren’t too picky (unlike some female ones).

She used to waitress before cleaning houses. She needs flexible hours and "shifts" so she can trade with others when she has to go to court or be with her kid, or go to gov't offices. Having to wait all day to get food stamps and welfare is totally realistic - and sometimes your EBT card just ... doesn't load one month and you can't reach anyone on the phone for hours and days so you have to go wait there in person. When I signed up for welfare they told me getting Medicaid was automatic but I still had to wait in lines for two days to get it, and then I couldn't sign myself and my daughter up the same day for some reason. We lived in a crappy apartment building for over a decade (low rent and they didn't check income or credit) where they'd randomly turn off electricity and water for most of the day. I remember one time when DD was in elementary school, running across the busy intersection during rush hour to the gas station to use the light there for her to do her homework. Many times I gave her a shower via candlelight. Many times I had to throw out half-cooked food because the oven went out mid-bake, and we'd eat cereal for dinner instead. I couldn't pay for school field trips. Some kind mother with a tall girl gave my short girl her DD's outgrown clothes but then her DD saw my DD wearing them, told everyone and DD came home crying and embarrassed. So yes, this seems very realistic. Except for the part where she's working on the books - I had to work off the books lest my benefits get canceled.

I was going to watch this but now, I am not going to. I used to be a social worker for the welfare dept and it was so upsetting.. I don't need to re-live that as "entertainment"

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m wondering why on earth she couldn’t have tried getting a job at a fast food place, or perhaps the Dollar Store, or a grocery store. Surely there was something else she could have tried before settling for the absolute worst possible scenario? That’s the only part I’m having a hard time with. It just didn’t make any sense - paying for the uniform, supplies, toll and gas to get there, hauling the vacuum around with her… could she have even *tried* McDonalds, etc. first?

Not thinking clearly. She was under ongoing trauma.

She was thinking clearly. She needed two pay stubs to qualify for social services. It would take 4-6 weeks for that to occur with a fast food or cashier position. She needed a small business that cuts pay stubs weekly or even after each job (like the maid service). That shortened the time to days rather than weeks.

She had 2-4 people reaching out to help her in the first couple episodes and she turned them down and was in serious need of help.
The ins/outs of paybstub thing is interesting but for the average American (or non American with no SSN) no one knows what cash velocity job helps social serves turn in faster. And the social worker did but just gave the job lead not explaining thay.

Either way I look FW to watching the whole series. It is not a binge watch though!

This plus what Angelina Jolie is doing with shining a light in defunct family courts and even the Woody Allen wife documentary (terrible, terrible situation if an abuser with power and money) need to get people to wake up and fix things.

maid makes me want to buy up motels and make them safe DV shelters. Where can I donate with low overhead and direct to asset /staff funding?

What do you think overhead pays for if not primarily staffing?

I work at gates foundation and we always look at this and obtain budgets before investing or gifting a grant. More money to the people in need, their food, their lodging, their therapy the better. We know market salaries for Admin and how many their should be, same for staff which siya ally has the opposite issue from bloated admin skimming off donor funds.

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Anonymous wrote:I just finished the birthday party ep which was so hard to watch. Take control and kick those morons out!!

Maddy is so, so cute.

I was appalled. The minute that b*tch said she was inviting "her girls" and then her "weed guy," she should have said time to go - this is a three yr. old's party. That was ridiculous. And there was no excuse for it.

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Anonymous wrote:I just finished the birthday party ep which was so hard to watch. Take control and kick those morons out!!

Maddy is so, so cute.

I was appalled. The minute that b*tch said she was inviting "her girls" and then her "weed guy," she should have said time to go - this is a three yr. old's party. That was ridiculous. And there was no excuse for it.

I agree with both - Maddy is adorable. And Alex was an idiot for even inviting Sean, and then not immediately booting him out the minute he showed up with his pals in tow.

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I like the smile of the actress who plays the lady who runs the shelter. So I looked her up and she’s been in like a billion Christmas movies.

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So I finished watching it. My stbx left me in fairly precarious circumstances but nothing like here. I get the struggle of juggling work and childcare (my kid had to walk home from school and stay home alone much earlier than I would like), but I found social workers I encountered helpful and compassionate. I can’t imagine them saying something about “toothless white trash” to a person’s face at least.
What was also fascinating is that Alex kept making dumb decisions but it all was understandable and kind of followed from her previous circumstances... who brings a tinder date to a house you are cleaning? But she was so tired and lonely and jealous of this beautiful life others had, I can understand how she took that one wrong step (yet another one)
Or at the birthday party how she suddenly doesn’t feel the power to say no to all those idiots ruining it for her...it’s hard to be intimidated and the less energy and stability you have the easier you give up
What was not believable is how she was allowed to serve papers on her stbx herself - you always need a third party...
also it doesn’t look believable how Sean suddenly wants to give custody to her... and did she really have to take Maddie away from him?!

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Another powerful theme for me was how much a dysfunctional parent ruins the life of their children... It’s heartbreaking when a parent keeps making bad choices
And how painful it is when you are hated for trying to do what needs to be done... dragging the parent out of their illness and misery
However why didn’t they go to the police to try and find help with returning the house?
And how come Basil didn’t just tell them to go eff themselves when they confronted him?!

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Anonymous wrote:So I finished watching it. My stbx left me in fairly precarious circumstances but nothing like here. I get the struggle of juggling work and childcare (my kid had to walk home from school and stay home alone much earlier than I would like), but I found social workers I encountered helpful and compassionate. I can’t imagine them saying something about “toothless white trash” to a person’s face at least.
What was also fascinating is that Alex kept making dumb decisions but it all was understandable and kind of followed from her previous circumstances... who brings a tinder date to a house you are cleaning? But she was so tired and lonely and jealous of this beautiful life others had, I can understand how she took that one wrong step (yet another one)
Or at the birthday party how she suddenly doesn’t feel the power to say no to all those idiots ruining it for her...it’s hard to be intimidated and the less energy and stability you have the easier you give up
What was not believable is how she was allowed to serve papers on her stbx herself - you always need a third party...
also it doesn’t look believable how Sean suddenly wants to give custody to her... and did she really have to take Maddie away from him?!

That was an "imagined" conception of what Alex THOUGHT these people were saying about her. It's used many times in the series. Your other points are well noted, as I thought the same thing. Alex was working for a notoriously difficult person yet decided to open a bottle of expensive wine and guzzle it down, ransack her closet and don her cashmere sweater, soak in the hot tub and then invite a stranger over for random sex.

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Wow, finally finished this series last night. I loved the last episode with her *finally* breaking free of everything and everyone who had kept her down for so long. However, I honestly think she could have gotten a less labor-intensive job that paid more than cleaning houses. She was obviously very bright - even being a cashier at a grocery store or a receptionist would have made her life easier and less exhausting. But she seemed to deliberately choose the very worst job possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, finally finished this series last night. I loved the last episode with her *finally* breaking free of everything and everyone who had kept her down for so long. However, I honestly think she could have gotten a less labor-intensive job that paid more than cleaning houses. She was obviously very bright - even being a cashier at a grocery store or a receptionist would have made her life easier and less exhausting. But she seemed to deliberately choose the very worst job possible.

Even with the pay stubs requirement, she could have just used Yolanda for the pay stubs and move on to waiting tables which is less demeaning.

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I tried watching last night but I got so anxious during it I had to turn it off. Very well done but I’m already dealing with anxiety and could deal with it.

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Yes, this show was definitely anxiety-inducing. Her mother - good grief. She was lucky Paula decided not to go with her. I can't imagine Alex would have been able to manage going to college, caring for her daughter, working, AND trying to keep track of her mentally ill mom, who I wanted to slap throughout.

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Anonymous wrote:I just finished the birthday party ep which was so hard to watch. Take control and kick those morons out!!

Maddy is so, so cute.

I was appalled. The minute that b*tch said she was inviting "her girls" and then her "weed guy," she should have said time to go - this is a three yr. old's party. That was ridiculous. And there was no excuse for it.

I think she was probably scared, standing up to your abuser when you are outnumbered by his friends and your small child is present isn’t easy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just finished the birthday party ep which was so hard to watch. Take control and kick those morons out!!

Maddy is so, so cute.

I was appalled. The minute that b*tch said she was inviting "her girls" and then her "weed guy," she should have said time to go - this is a three yr. old's party. That was ridiculous. And there was no excuse for it.

I think she was probably scared, standing up to your abuser when you are outnumbered by his friends and your small child is present isn’t easy.

All she had to do is go to her kind and understanding landladies and ask them to call the police on the uninvited. Done.