Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?

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Anonymous wrote:No. Saw the trailer and that was stressful enough

Why is it stressful? On episode one and I’m liking it. Very interesting.

WHY was it stressful?? If you've seen episode 1 you know already, bozo.

I didn’t think it was stressful at all. It was intense but I didn’t feel stressed watching it.

Watching her use that house like it was her own though, now that was stressful and made me never want to leave my housekeeper alone in my home.

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Wait. You didn’t find it stressful? Are you human? I’m on episode one and my blood pressure ticked up as her budget with the cleaning supplies was added up. (I’m a runner so blood pressure usually low and I have the watch to measure).

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. You didn’t find it stressful? Are you human? I’m on episode one and my blood pressure ticked up as her budget with the cleaning supplies was added up. (I’m a runner so blood pressure usually low and I have the watch to measure).

You can clean without cleaning supplies
Baking soda, vinegar, all purpose cleaner. That is all you need.
My guess is that she was living in a rural area without many job opportunities and a slumped economy

I am surprised she didn't plan her exit from her boyfriend better, perhaps she could have had more cash, somewhere to go

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NP. I’m wondering why on earth she couldn’t have tried getting a job at a fast food place, or perhaps the Dollar Store, or a grocery store. Surely there was something else she could have tried before settling for the absolute worst possible scenario? That’s the only part I’m having a hard time with. It just didn’t make any sense - paying for the uniform, supplies, toll and gas to get there, hauling the vacuum around with her… could she have even *tried* McDonalds, etc. first?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. You didn’t find it stressful? Are you human? I’m on episode one and my blood pressure ticked up as her budget with the cleaning supplies was added up. (I’m a runner so blood pressure usually low and I have the watch to measure).

You can clean without cleaning supplies
Baking soda, vinegar, all purpose cleaner. That is all you need.
My guess is that she was living in a rural area without many job opportunities and a slumped economy

I am surprised she didn't plan her exit from her boyfriend better, perhaps she could have had more cash, somewhere to go

She still has to buy that stuff and gloves, paper towels/reusable cleaning cloths, bucket, mop, vacuum cleaner, etc. It adds up. My mom raised me never to be financially dependent on a man. Watching this showed me why.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m wondering why on earth she couldn’t have tried getting a job at a fast food place, or perhaps the Dollar Store, or a grocery store. Surely there was something else she could have tried before settling for the absolute worst possible scenario? That’s the only part I’m having a hard time with. It just didn’t make any sense - paying for the uniform, supplies, toll and gas to get there, hauling the vacuum around with her… could she have even *tried* McDonalds, etc. first?

Because those places make you wait weeks for your first paycheck and she didn't have enough money to feed her kid until then. So, she went some place willing to pay day by day.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m wondering why on earth she couldn’t have tried getting a job at a fast food place, or perhaps the Dollar Store, or a grocery store. Surely there was something else she could have tried before settling for the absolute worst possible scenario? That’s the only part I’m having a hard time with. It just didn’t make any sense - paying for the uniform, supplies, toll and gas to get there, hauling the vacuum around with her… could she have even *tried* McDonalds, etc. first?

Because those places make you wait weeks for your first paycheck and she didn't have enough money to feed her kid until then. So, she went some place willing to pay day by day.

Not sure about that
But with regard to the car accident. She drove with kids window all the way down.
She stopped by the side of the road thinking she could go find the toy her kid dropped.
Why not just let the kid scream. You cannot cater to all the demands of a toddler.
Why leave a kid alone in the car by the side of the highway?
You should never leave a kid in the car. She does this often

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Anonymous wrote:So can someone who has been through something similar or knows someone chime in - is it realistic?
I am having a hard time believing that the only job a college student could get was in cleaning. I had it easier as when my STBX left he paid my rent - had to resort to many gigs before I settled in into a permanent role, including cleaning, and it was easy to find male clients who were working professionals and therefore didn’t leave much mess and weren’t too picky (unlike some female ones).

She used to waitress before cleaning houses. She needs flexible hours and "shifts" so she can trade with others when she has to go to court or be with her kid, or go to gov't offices. Having to wait all day to get food stamps and welfare is totally realistic - and sometimes your EBT card just ... doesn't load one month and you can't reach anyone on the phone for hours and days so you have to go wait there in person. When I signed up for welfare they told me getting Medicaid was automatic but I still had to wait in lines for two days to get it, and then I couldn't sign myself and my daughter up the same day for some reason. We lived in a crappy apartment building for over a decade (low rent and they didn't check income or credit) where they'd randomly turn off electricity and water for most of the day. I remember one time when DD was in elementary school, running across the busy intersection during rush hour to the gas station to use the light there for her to do her homework. Many times I gave her a shower via candlelight. Many times I had to throw out half-cooked food because the oven went out mid-bake, and we'd eat cereal for dinner instead. I couldn't pay for school field trips. Some kind mother with a tall girl gave my short girl her DD's outgrown clothes but then her DD saw my DD wearing them, told everyone and DD came home crying and embarrassed. So yes, this seems very realistic. Except for the part where she's working on the books - I had to work off the books lest my benefits get canceled.

Thank you so much for responding, PP! I hope it’s better for you and your DD now. I am sorry you had to go through this. I guess I was lucky. My DS got into free aftercare, I worked random jobs on and off the books, then got a full time job, got an apartment at a subsidized building, then was laid off but it’s easier now because I have some foundation. I guess I was very lucky.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m wondering why on earth she couldn’t have tried getting a job at a fast food place, or perhaps the Dollar Store, or a grocery store. Surely there was something else she could have tried before settling for the absolute worst possible scenario? That’s the only part I’m having a hard time with. It just didn’t make any sense - paying for the uniform, supplies, toll and gas to get there, hauling the vacuum around with her… could she have even *tried* McDonalds, etc. first?

Because those places make you wait weeks for your first paycheck and she didn't have enough money to feed her kid until then. So, she went some place willing to pay day by day.

Yeah the point was she needed the money as well as the pay stub ASAP for the benefits she wanted access to.

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Anonymous wrote:Watching this made me love my mother even more. She left my alcoholic dad before the inevitable happened. He never hit her but he hit near her. He punched holes in walls and threw stuff at her. Thankfully her parents were able to help and my alcoholic dad was too drunk to hire a lawyer. He moved out which meant we had a roof over our heads. My life would've turned out a whole lot differently if she hadn't left.

+1 same here, except that my dad was physically abusive to my mom (and the walls, the dishes, etc…)

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. You didn’t find it stressful? Are you human? I’m on episode one and my blood pressure ticked up as her budget with the cleaning supplies was added up. (I’m a runner so blood pressure usually low and I have the watch to measure).

You can clean without cleaning supplies
Baking soda, vinegar, all purpose cleaner. That is all you need.
My guess is that she was living in a rural area without many job opportunities and a slumped economy

I am surprised she didn't plan her exit from her boyfriend better, perhaps she could have had more cash, somewhere to go

You just contradicted yourself. First you say you don’t need cleaning supplies and in the same sentence you list all the cleaning supplies you need… Are those things free? If not it’s a hardship for someone with no money. She was buying things like bleach and rubber gloves in the episode.

[Anonymous]

Just finished the episode with the baby daddy on the couch and I was so mad I was yelling at the tv.

One thing that distracted me is that she started wearing $150-$200 Blundstone boots.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. You didn’t find it stressful? Are you human? I’m on episode one and my blood pressure ticked up as her budget with the cleaning supplies was added up. (I’m a runner so blood pressure usually low and I have the watch to measure).

You can clean without cleaning supplies
Baking soda, vinegar, all purpose cleaner. That is all you need.
My guess is that she was living in a rural area without many job opportunities and a slumped economy

I am surprised she didn't plan her exit from her boyfriend better, perhaps she could have had more cash, somewhere to go

She’s in the Seattle area.

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Anonymous wrote:Just finished the episode with the baby daddy on the couch and I was so mad I was yelling at the tv.

One thing that distracted me is that she started wearing $150-$200 Blundstone boots.

When I was on vacation in Seattle I noticed homeless people wearing North Face and Columbia jackets. DD pointed out to me that I work and we can't afford North Face - how were the homeless people getting them. So we brought that up to a friendly waitress - she said people donate their old ones to homeless shelters, Salvation Army, Goodwill, etc. So Alex wearing fancy boots shouldnt' distract you. Just like you shouldn't be angry my DD wore a cashmere sweater that was in a bag of sample clothes from a friend of mine who worked at the Gap while I was on welfare and food stamps.

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I loved it! I’m a bit naive and privileged so I think it helped me see the other side. She just had so many crazies around her that drag her down and I’ve never experienced that.

I loved Nate and wished she would date him. I married a man just like him and he’s such a great dad and husband.