DW texting AP.

[Anonymous]

I had a short-term affair approximately 4 years ago. I never told my DW. She found out two months ago and has been distraught, resentful, and angry at me ever since. We’ve been in counselling and she is considering divorce.

DW is TEXTING my AP, she got a burner phone and pretended to be me, saying I got a “new number.” AP texted me, asking if I got a new number and I didn’t respond, because I don’t want to engage with her at all.

DW now has all sorts of details that I didn’t disclose to her: where it happened, where I took AP for dates, other information that was just been AP and I. DW’ is now livid and not speaking with me

I don’t know if our marriage can recover, I had sex once with AP but it carried on for a few months afterwards as more of an emotional affair. I buried it as a secret, thinking DW would never find out.

DW is just angry, all the time and is constantly lashing out at me. No kids but we had been trying to have a baby.

[Anonymous]

Lol!

[Anonymous]

and what do you want from us? Good for your wife.

[Anonymous]

Nothing to say other than, that's kind of an awesome move by your wife to get the entire truth when you clearly continue to lie to her.

[Anonymous]

Did you tell the therapist this? It's not healthy for your wife to do this. Not for her, especially.

It's good you aren't engaging with the ex affair partner. But I would tell the therapist. Not in an accusatory way. But more, I really want this marriage to work, but this is happening right now and makes it seem we have no shot at recovery. What should I do, if anything?

[Anonymous]

You're a fool. Try reading up on the expected response from a person who just found out they were betrayed by the person they love the most. This is just the beginning. Your DW is going to be livid, mean, hyper-vigilante, and erratic for a long time. You did this to yourself, buddy.

[Anonymous]

OP, these b*tches will only gloat. Text AP, ideally from your own burner, that communications are compromised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you tell the therapist this? It's not healthy for your wife to do this. Not for her, especially.

It's good you aren't engaging with the ex affair partner. But I would tell the therapist. Not in an accusatory way. But more, I really want this marriage to work, but this is happening right now and makes it seem we have no shot at recovery. What should I do, if anything?

The reaching out to the affair partner may not be healthy but her lashing out is COMPLETELY NORMAL given the circumstances. She has experienced a trauma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol!

exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol!

exactly.

This is the best thread.

Take notes, Ladies!

[Anonymous]

If only you had been completely honest and given her the details that she needed to trust you again. Instead, you trickle truthed. Good for your DW!

Maybe you should check out survivinginfidelity.com. They offer support to wayward spouses like yourself - though be prepared for some tough love.

[Anonymous]

You sound like such a dork. Why would anybody sleep with you. Emotional affair? What are you, 12?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you tell the therapist this? It's not healthy for your wife to do this. Not for her, especially.

It's good you aren't engaging with the ex affair partner. But I would tell the therapist. Not in an accusatory way. But more, I really want this marriage to work, but this is happening right now and makes it seem we have no shot at recovery. What should I do, if anything?

The reaching out to the affair partner may not be healthy but her lashing out is COMPLETELY NORMAL given the circumstances. She has experienced a trauma.

I do understand that. That’s why the therapist should be involved to give guidance to both.

[Anonymous]

Karma baby

[Anonymous]

So how did she find out when it had been over for so long?