boring conversations with DH
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Anonymous
| 90% of what DH wants to talk to me about are the petty annoyances of his job -- a meeting got postponed by a few hours, he tried to do something but couldn't because someone else hadn't done something else already, etc. I don't care and it's the same every single day. Any (non-insulting) ideas to get him to change the subject? Even when I try to talk about something else, the conversation inevitably turns back to this kind of stuff. |
Anonymous
No need to talk. Just put him to work 
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Anonymous
| You are not alone, OP! |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| My DH talks to me all the time about people I don’t know and could not care less about. I prefer to be in silence (especially since we have little kids that scram all day long). When I try to change the subject, he tells me that I don’t listen to him and that it hurts his feelings. He is great in sooo many ways, but this (talking about nothing and getting hurt when I change the subject) I can’t stand! |
Anonymous
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Mine tells me about all of his tasks to complete. For example, yesterday I was on the phone with him on my way to return a rental car at the airport. I gave him a mile’s notice I needed to get off the phone. He proceeds to tell me “I have a meeting at 2, but I just got back to the office and we’re going to go get lunch and come back and get ready for the meeting...” and continued babbling while I’m trying to stop him/tell him goodbye. The meeting was a daily stand up, not something special he was leading or preparing for. He just has to be talking constantly.
So, no advice, but I’m with you on the miserable conversation. |
Anonymous
| This is married life. |
Anonymous
+1 I was like this with XH before we got married. It is just who I am. |
Anonymous
| Do you work op? My WOH DW also likes to vent about office life; I don’t talk as much about mine but I appreciate her frustrations. Do you talk about problems. You had with the kids or house? Same thing. |
Anonymous
| I really dislike listening to the work vent. Because all of the problems stem from other stupid people. I don't actually care. You spend 40+ hours a week there, stop calling your colleagues stupid. I really dislike the name calling and superior attitude. |
Anonymous
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Get him the book "Extreme Ownership". It's about dealing with problems in the workplace in a productive, positive way. Even better, get him to listen to the author's podcast, he talks about a lot of work-specific issues.
Also, listen to him vent about work some. He probably needs to just say things out loud to work through them mentally and emotionally. Set a time of 15-20 minutes, sit down with him, and listen with 100% of your attention (no tv, phones, etc). The higher quality may trump his need for quantity. |
Anonymous
| I’m looking to have an emotional (not sexual) affair. Send your dh to me. He sounds like he’s emotionally available. He and I can meet each others’ emotional needs and you’ll be spared having to pretend that you care about his. I’ll get an ap who actually wants to talk, unlike my own dh. It’s a win-win. |
Anonymous
| Careful what you wish for. My DH tells me nothing of those mundane things. It's frustrating. I feel very shut out from the regular rhythm of his daily life. Its a real negative element of our relationship. |
Anonymous
I probably bore my DH, too. So I don’t feel as bad when I’m bored listening to him. I still love him and it’s normal. |
Anonymous
In the US. |