After meeting future niece
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Anonymous
| I recently posted about throwing a joint birthday party for my DD and future niece. I’ve gotten to know future niece over the last couple of weeks and it’s not going well. Literally every time I try to talk to her she says don’t talk to me. If I’m even looking her direction she will tell me not to look at her. If I’m talking to my sister she will interrupt to tell me not to talk to my sister. She’s SO hateful. But she’s not acting that harshly with anyone except me and DD. I get being shy but this little girl is so disrespectful and her dad doesn’t get on to her. I don’t want to hurt my sister’s feelings but I’m really tired of being so disrespected by a 3 year old. My sister has made several plans for Christmas but quite frankly if something doesn’t change I don’t want to go. I’m not sure if I should say something or if I should just pretend to have plans. |
Anonymous
| I should add that we have plans for tomorrow. I’m bailing on those plans. |
Anonymous
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Three year-olds can be difficult. She might be a totally different kid by Christmas. I wouldn’t write her off as a problem child just yet.
Do you look and/or sound a lot like your sister? I look/sound exactly like my sister and it kind of freaked out my kids when they were around that age. Having an “almost Mommy” around was very confusing. |
Anonymous
| I am confused. What is a future niece? Your fiance's niece? In any case, it's a 3 year old. Ignore her. |
Anonymous
| 3 year old is rude to you? And you... are what, mute? Tell your sister and you tell your(I assume future step niece?) that she needs to be nice. She is 3 years old. I assume your sister is not a parent herself yet, correct? She might think she isn't supposed to correct her future step DD? Plus also, just grow up, she is getting a new mom, new cousin, she is 3 and clearly anxious. But, you should still tell her that she is rude to you even at 3. |
Anonymous
| Don’t call a 3 year old hateful. You are taking this way too personally. You’re crazy if you’d not attend Christmas plans over this. |
Anonymous
| You are a total drama queen. Be sure to celebrate the birth of Christ by callling a 3yo “hateful” for...acting like a 3yo. |
Anonymous
| Use your words. “That’s not a very nice thing to say.” |
Anonymous
I’m guessing it’s her sister getting married and about to become a stepmom. |
Anonymous
| I can’t believe you are a parent if you don’t understand what’s developmentally normal for a 3 year old. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| Yeah, ease off... she's 3 and sounds like going through major upheaval. You are presumably an adult who can ignore a 3 yr olds rude instructions. |
Anonymous
| She’s three, but you’re acting like you are. |
Anonymous
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So your sister will be here stepmom? And this three year old doesn't want to share her attention eight now? Maybe stop pushing to be. Apart of this kid's life right now? Seems like she has a lot of changes at the moment.
at first I thought you were going to be talking about a teenager. But you're talking about a three-year-old. Get a grip o p. A serious, strong, firm grip |
Anonymous
+1 I also thought this post was going to be about a teenager, give the child a break and let her adjust. |