After meeting future niece

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is this you? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/729842.page

Story doesn't quite line up but you being a crazy person who is irrationally mad at a little girl sharing the spotlight DOES add up.

Oh man , if that's op she should do her whole family a favor and not be around them anymore. Can you imagine an adult acting like this? The 3 year old isn't the one with major behavior issues, OP is!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is this you? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/729842.page

Story doesn't quite line up but you being a crazy person who is irrationally mad at a little girl sharing the spotlight DOES add up.

Oh man , if that's op she should do her whole family a favor and not be around them anymore. Can you imagine an adult acting like this? The 3 year old isn't the one with major behavior issues, OP is!!

I think she must have changed some of the details that time or this time to hide identity but it sounds too close to not be true. Plus its the only thing about a 'joint birthday party with a niece' that I can remember having come up recently.

It makes sense why she was so bent in the first post if it was actually a party for her daughter and future niece.

[Anonymous]

2-3 members of my BILs family decided they did not like my nephew (BILs future stepson) when BIL and my sister were engaged. Totally normal 3-4 year old behavior was "he's a little demon" or "what a naughty child", just constant nasty commentary about my nephew. They thought that by trash talking my nephew, they'd convince my BIL not to marry my sister by opening his eyes to the terrible future he'd have as a stepfather or some sh*t like that. Guess what? BIL cut those people out of his life after the wedding because he wasn't going to listen to anyone be nasty to or about his son.

So go ahead, OP, continue calling this girl evil or hateful or nasty or whatever. Then come back in 3 years and b*tch about your sister cutting you out of her life.

People like you are absolute cowards. Calling a toddler who is going through an objectively difficult life change "hateful"? Does that make you feel superior, talking about a very small child that way?
And I can guarantee that this child knows you don't like her, your own hatefulness comes through loud and clear in your post, so of course she is uncomfortable around you. I hope her parents find out how awful you are because if you were to say that crap about my kid, you'd catch these hands.

[Anonymous]

Op here. My issue is that they don’t get on to her. They’ll get on to my DD and her brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My issue is that they don’t get on to her. They’ll get on to my DD and her brother.

Are you mute? Is typing on DCUM your only method of communication?

Also, are you the "niece's birthday party" poster? Please say yes. I'd hate to think that there are two of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My issue is that they don’t get on to her. They’ll get on to my DD and her brother.

Whose brother? Where is the brother coming from? And what do you mean "get on to her"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is this you? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/729842.page

Story doesn't quite line up but you being a crazy person who is irrationally mad at a little girl sharing the spotlight DOES add up.

That is NOT me. I posted about the kids’s Mom being upset about the party. They constantly leave this little girl with me is the thing. I can’t so much as get on to her. When she snaps at my DD they yell at my DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My issue is that they don’t get on to her. They’ll get on to my DD and her brother.

Whose brother? Where is the brother coming from? And what do you mean "get on to her"?

The little girl’s brother.

[Anonymous]

What does get on mean?

God it's scary to think someone like you has 2 children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does get on mean?

God it's scary to think someone like you has 2 children.

I have 1 child. I was also a preschool teacher for years with a background in early childhood education. I’m not upset with the 3 year old. I’m upset with my sister and her fiancé. For instance I hosted the 4th of July celebration at my house. My sister would yell at DD constantly when she wasn’t even doing anything. They’re fine disciplining future nephew but won’t even say that’s not nice to future niece. It got to where even my mom told her she’s way out of line for how she’s treating DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does get on mean?

God it's scary to think someone like you has 2 children.

I have 1 child. I was also a preschool teacher for years with a background in early childhood education. I’m not upset with the 3 year old. I’m upset with my sister and her fiancé. For instance I hosted the 4th of July celebration at my house. My sister would yell at DD constantly when she wasn’t even doing anything. They’re fine disciplining future nephew but won’t even say that’s not nice to future niece. It got to where even my mom told her she’s way out of line for how she’s treating DD.

Then effing LEAVE THEM ALONE. Stop trying to force closeness. Drop the whole idea of a joint birthday party or whatever. Just leave them alone--they've got a lot to sort out for themselves at the moment. "The 4th of July celebration," as if it is a must-do, compulsory event for your family. Just celebrate with your own, nuclear family and maybe some friends. Drop the rope on your sister and her situation for a while. FFS.

-NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does get on mean?

God it's scary to think someone like you has 2 children.

I have 1 child. I was also a preschool teacher for years with a background in early childhood education. I’m not upset with the 3 year old. I’m upset with my sister and her fiancé. For instance I hosted the 4th of July celebration at my house. My sister would yell at DD constantly when she wasn’t even doing anything. They’re fine disciplining future nephew but won’t even say that’s not nice to future niece. It got to where even my mom told her she’s way out of line for how she’s treating DD.

So now you're completely changing your story and making it all about how your sister and future BIL are being mean to your daughter. Yea, I think you're a super reliable narrator.

And a preschool teacher calling a 3 year old hateful? Definitely sounds legit.

[Anonymous]

So, step nieces mom was upset with the party? But, this girl is always left with you? While her bio dad has fun with your sister who he is about to marry? And everyone yells at your DD when this 3 year old snaps at your DD? Who is everyone and why are you allowing people to yell at your child?! There is not a mom on DCUM who would not bring the roof down if someone yelled at her child with or without reason. So, what gives? Why are you taking care of a child that is absolutely not your responsibility? Tell your dear sis, no, not at all. Here is your step kid, you need to set some boundaries with your sister, or is it a brother? Nobody can keep track anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does get on mean?

God it's scary to think someone like you has 2 children.

I have 1 child. I was also a preschool teacher for years with a background in early childhood education. I’m not upset with the 3 year old. I’m upset with my sister and her fiancé. For instance I hosted the 4th of July celebration at my house. My sister would yell at DD constantly when she wasn’t even doing anything. They’re fine disciplining future nephew but won’t even say that’s not nice to future niece. It got to where even my mom told her she’s way out of line for how she’s treating DD.

Then effing LEAVE THEM ALONE. Stop trying to force closeness. Drop the whole idea of a joint birthday party or whatever. Just leave them alone--they've got a lot to sort out for themselves at the moment. "The 4th of July celebration," as if it is a must-do, compulsory event for your family. Just celebrate with your own, nuclear family and maybe some friends. Drop the rope on your sister and her situation for a while. FFS.

-NP

If you had any reason comprehension whatsoever you would have read that I’m trying to drop the rope. I just wanted advice on how to do so without hurting feelings. I threw a party for my entire family. It had nothing to do with forcing a relationship with my future niece. I’m not allowed to celebrate with my parents and brothers now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, step nieces mom was upset with the party? But, this girl is always left with you? While her bio dad has fun with your sister who he is about to marry? And everyone yells at your DD when this 3 year old snaps at your DD? Who is everyone and why are you allowing people to yell at your child?! There is not a mom on DCUM who would not bring the roof down if someone yelled at her child with or without reason. So, what gives? Why are you taking care of a child that is absolutely not your responsibility? Tell your dear sis, no, not at all. Here is your step kid, you need to set some boundaries with your sister, or is it a brother? Nobody can keep track anymore.

I watched her while they went to a wedding. I volunteered to watch future nephew after the birthday party and next thing I know future niece is in my living room and my sister had already left. Give me a break, I posted this at 2 AM my time.