How do you feel about cleaning your S/O’s toilet mess?

[Anonymous]

Title pretty much says it all.

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not. We are expats. I stay home with 2 kids and keep a large house clean. Toilets here are low flow. We have enough toilets that DH and I can use separate toilets. He consistently leaves feces clinging to the side of the toilet. I have asked him to either place TP down first to help keep it from clinging or just take 2 seconds to clean right after using it. If you stay on top of it it’s not hard. It’s literally a 2 second job. But he leaves it and it cements to the side.

So my choice has been to go in after him everyday (he poops every single morning) and clean it. Or I wait and watch it turn into a swamp and one of two things occur. Either he finally cleans it after a few weeks (it’s so nasty). Or I have to clean it because I’m so disgusted and afraid a guest will see this.

I feel like the line in the sand for me is cleaning his poop everyday. I will do a lot because I’m staying home. But I don’t want to do that.

Re: a cleaning service. Because I know that seems like an easy fix. I keep the house extremely tidy. And that’s no issue. If we got a service it would be weekly and I would end up cleaning the toilet before she came because I feel like leaving so much poop on the toilet for a cleaner is rude.

[Anonymous]

Wow

[Anonymous]

Sex strike.

[Anonymous]

I would just never go in that bathroom and if a guest was coming I would tell him that a guest was coming and he needed to clean the bathroom and that I would go in and check that it was clean the morning that the guest came.

If it wasn't clean that day I would give him hell.

[Anonymous]

I would never clean that toilet. If you have separate toilets, his pooping throne is his responsibility entirely. I would simply never enter that bathroom, it would be his 100%.

[Anonymous]

gross. no, I wouldn't do this. I would be mortified if my cleaning people had to deal with it too.

[Anonymous]

I've never done this. I would never start.

[Anonymous]

Where do you live?

I’m in London and the toilets here are nearly impossible to keep between the low-flow design and limescale deposits.

I have a duck brush with disposable heads that I buy in bulk sitting beside the toilet. DH is pretty good about using them, though my kids are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex strike.

Forever!

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy. It is the pooper's responsibility to clean the skid marks off the toilet post-poop. Occasionally forgetting is one thing, constantly neglecting this task is acting like a slob. Other women get pissed at their husbands for leaving the seat up; you're tolerating cleaning feces. I think it's one thing to do it once in a blue moon, but I would not do this regularly, and I know my wife wouldn't either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just never go in that bathroom and if a guest was coming I would tell him that a guest was coming and he needed to clean the bathroom and that I would go in and check that it was clean the morning that the guest came.

If it wasn't clean that day I would give him hell.

This. Hairy hubby must vacuum every Friday before dinner, TV or sexy time.

[Anonymous]

Relationship Post of the DAY!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title pretty much says it all.

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not. We are expats. I stay home with 2 kids and keep a large house clean. Toilets here are low flow. We have enough toilets that DH and I can use separate toilets. He consistently leaves feces clinging to the side of the toilet. I have asked him to either place TP down first to help keep it from clinging or just take 2 seconds to clean right after using it. If you stay on top of it it’s not hard. It’s literally a 2 second job. But he leaves it and it cements to the side.

So my choice has been to go in after him everyday (he poops every single morning) and clean it. Or I wait and watch it turn into a swamp and one of two things occur. Either he finally cleans it after a few weeks (it’s so nasty). Or I have to clean it because I’m so disgusted and afraid a guest will see this.

I feel like the line in the sand for me is cleaning his poop everyday. I will do a lot because I’m staying home. But I don’t want to do that.

Re: a cleaning service. Because I know that seems like an easy fix. I keep the house extremely tidy. And that’s no issue. If we got a service it would be weekly and I would end up cleaning the toilet before she came because I feel like leaving so much poop on the toilet for a cleaner is rude.

divorce

[Anonymous]

What is your husband eating? Is he a large man?

Does he have an abnormally large anus?

I think you need a proctologist's help here.

[Anonymous]

are we talking about the inside of the bowl or the outside of the bowl? What would placing TP down do in either scenario? Do you mean on the seat? How does he miss the toilet with his turds?