I only want to go if they pay...

[Anonymous]

Sorry for another inlaw vacation thread...

Inlaws have been dropping heavy hints about wanting to go with us on a Disney Cruise.

I’m not totally opposed but this is not my first, second or even third choice vacation. We have been saving to go somewhere in Europe.

They have a lot more money than us but seem to be implying we’d go Dutch. I’m. I’m not upset or offended if they don’t want to pay for us, but don’t really want to go if we have to pay, KWIM?

Do we just say no thanks?

[Anonymous]

Just say you're making different plans.

[Anonymous]

I don't vacation with my inlaws, so I'd suck it up and go. It's becoming apparent to me that they won't be in wonderful health forever, so we may as well have pretty pictures of them splashing in a pool with their grandkids to look back on.

[Anonymous]

It's strange that you're expecting they pay for you. Do you expect to pay for others every time you express a preference for certain trips, or restaurants, or movies?

"No thanks, for that amount of money we'd rather go to Europe."

[Anonymous]

Just say "Sorry, but that's not something we're prepared to spend money on at this point in our lives."

[Anonymous]

I think you can say its not in your budget. Then if they want to offer to pay you can go if you want to.
Don't say you can't afford it, say it's not in your budget. Less resentment when you have money for other things if you phrase it like that.

My IL's paid for us to go to Disney 3 years ago, No way I would have gone if we had to pay for ourselves

[Anonymous]

This is what my parents do - say they are dying to go on a family vacation and then pick something that interests them and is often inconvenient for others, then expect us to pay (although they certainly have the money to treat us all).

In your situation, I told my parents we would love to join but are already planning a trip to London to visit friends (which was true) so unfortunately it’s not in our budget for next year. That gave them a clear opportunity to offer to pay, but they didn’t so we didn’t go.

You should try the same. Just tell them you’ve already planned/committed to something else and give them the hint.

[Anonymous]

"No thanks. Disney cruise doesn't appeal to us." Your DH being the one saying this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's strange that you're expecting they pay for you. Do you expect to pay for others every time you express a preference for certain trips, or restaurants, or movies?

"No thanks, for that amount of money we'd rather go to Europe."

I’m not expecting. I’m just saying it’s not worth the money to me. If it’s worth the money to them, I’m willing to go though. If I’m paying $6k for a vacation it won’t be a cruise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what my parents do - say they are dying to go on a family vacation and then pick something that interests them and is often inconvenient for others, then expect us to pay (although they certainly have the money to treat us all).

In your situation, I told my parents we would love to join but are already planning a trip to London to visit friends (which was true) so unfortunately it’s not in our budget for next year. That gave them a clear opportunity to offer to pay, but they didn’t so we didn’t go.

You should try the same. Just tell them you’ve already planned/committed to something else and give them the hint.

Yes, you get it. Thanks, I’ll try that. I’m guessing we won’t go, which is fine.

[Anonymous]

Just say "Sorry, but that's not something we're prepared to spend money on at this point in our lives."

perfect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for another inlaw vacation thread...

Inlaws have been dropping heavy hints about wanting to go with us on a Disney Cruise.

I’m not totally opposed but this is not my first, second or even third choice vacation. We have been saving to go somewhere in Europe.

They have a lot more money than us but seem to be implying we’d go Dutch. I’m. I’m not upset or offended if they don’t want to pay for us, but don’t really want to go if we have to pay, KWIM?

Do we just say no thanks?

Yes, just say no thanks. No need for anything else really.

[Anonymous]

I'd just say that we have been saving for a trip to Europe and we can't afford to do both.

[Anonymous]

Disney Cruise? Sure, when hell freezes over!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disney Cruise? Sure, when hell freezes over!

Seriously. That sounds even worse than Disney World. Ick.