Can’t attend best friend’s DD’s bat-mitzvah: how much $ to give as gift?

[Anonymous]

We couldn’t attend but I still want to send a gift; I have no idea how much is appropriate in this situation.

[Anonymous]

$200 - $250

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$200 - $250

Are you kidding?!

[Anonymous]

The same amount you'd have given if you'd gone. I've never given less than $200.

A lot of people here are cheap though, because they're from the Midwest and they'll wear to you that $18 is totally fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same amount you'd have given if you'd gone. I've never given less than $200.

A lot of people here are cheap though, because they're from the Midwest and they'll wear to you that $18 is totally fine.

Excuse me. Your comment about people from the Midwest is bigoted and simply untrue. Who else do you unfairly stereotype. Care to share??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$200 - $250

I agree with this, for a best friend’s daughter, unless you don’t have the means.

[Anonymous]

$100 would be more than adequate.

[Anonymous]

i would give a multiple of 18 - "... It is a Jewish custom to give monetary gifts in increments of 18, thus symbolically blessing the recipient of the gift with a good long life."

I think $100 for your best friend's daughter is fine - round up or down to the nearest multiple of 18.

[Anonymous]

Agree - $108 would be appropriate, as would be $54 or $72. Whatever number you are comfortable with! At my daughter's this past winter, she got $18-$108 from friends, only family gave above that, and we are an easy coast/NY group, so I think the first responder is a troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree - $108 would be appropriate, as would be $54 or $72. Whatever number you are comfortable with! At my daughter's this past winter, she got $18-$108 from friends, only family gave above that, and we are an easy coast/NY group, so I think the first responder is a troll!

I agree with this. I have given $180 a few times but that is rare. I think $108 is a nice amount to give and our usual. Do what you can afford. In talking to my SIL after my nieces, it seemed most close friends gave around $100.

When our kids attend a classmates without us, we give $36. For a BFF, we give $54.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. We will give $108.

[Anonymous]

There is no right amount of it depends on your circumstances. $108 is totally fine. $54 would also be fine. Friends do not judge each other on gift size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree - $108 would be appropriate, as would be $54 or $72. Whatever number you are comfortable with! At my daughter's this past winter, she got $18-$108 from friends, only family gave above that, and we are an easy coast/NY group, so I think the first responder is a troll!

Definitely not a troll. In our family, we give $500 for niece/nephews and $200-$250 for close friends/close cousins. But definitely do what you feel comfortable doing - any gift is appreciated. We are from Westchester County, NY if that makes a difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree - $108 would be appropriate, as would be $54 or $72. Whatever number you are comfortable with! At my daughter's this past winter, she got $18-$108 from friends, only family gave above that, and we are an easy coast/NY group, so I think the first responder is a troll!

Definitely not a troll. In our family, we give $500 for niece/nephews and $200-$250 for close friends/close cousins. But definitely do what you feel comfortable doing - any gift is appreciated. We are from Westchester County, NY if that makes a difference.

A close cousin should be more than a close friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The same amount you'd have given if you'd gone. I've never given less than $200.

A lot of people here are cheap though, because they're from the Midwest and they'll wear to you that $18 is totally fine.

Excuse me. Your comment about people from the Midwest is bigoted and simply untrue. Who else do you unfairly stereotype. Care to share??

I disagree. I think it is bigoted and absolutely accurate.