That Brock Allen Turner is a dirtbag

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Anonymous wrote:I hope everyone who is outraged by this signs the change dot org petition to recall the judge. I did!

What are you outraged about? The judge followed the recommendation of the probation officer, someone who sees lots of different crimes and can evaluate the facts of the case as well as punitive, deterrent, and rehabilitative factors.

I'd love to see the probation officer's recommendation on sentencing if the victim were his daughter. Is the probation officer white, by any chance?

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

It's irrelevant because hooking up had nothing to do with this case, because SHE WAS UNCONSCIOUS.

She was not unconscious when she first hooked up with him.

You don't know that, first of all. More importantly, that doesn't matter. Once someone becomes unconscious, it's not "hooking up" by any stretch of the imagination, even if it started out that way. Then it's rape.

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

I think it's been posted 70x because some loon kept posting some crap about helping rapists rape.

well ok that is probably true...

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the women posters here are identifying with the alleged victim and making a lot of assumptions in her favor about what happened that night. How was there rape beyond a reasonable doubt when she remembers nothing about the course of events and he testified he got consent? If she was unconscious the whole time and got dragged behind the dumpster, then it's obviously rape. But if they both drunkenly ran off to hook up in the only nearby secluded place (behind a dumpster) and started mutually getting it on, then it's not rape. Even if she went to sleep in the middle. And I haven't heard of any actual evidence, like a third-party witness, distinguishing those two situations. It's not good enough that the girl says in her statement that she's not the kind of person who would do that. She doesn't remember. Or, if she is going to deny consent based on her moral character (I have a boyfriend), she can't complain about being asked about promiscuity, etc., since that goes to the question of whether she consented.

Rape trials used to be so f-ed up against women -- who had to prove that they tried to fight off the attacker, etc. in order to disprove consent -- but now they are so f-ed up against men. The public presumption has completely switched from consent to no-consent whenever someone is prosecuted for rape. And the man on trial is lambasted even for having a lawyer defend him or appealing, which is how the legal system works.

Also, everyone is misinterpreting the dad's use of the word "action." He wasn't saying that his son got 20 mins of action from a girl. He was saying that 20 mins of behavior shouldn't result in a long prison sentence. He used action like a neutral word for behavior/conduct because he couldn't say 20 minutes of "sex" or "raping".

there were witnesses though. the two swedes. he was assaulting an unconscious woman. do you refute this?

This was also a full grown woman with a full time job and a serious boyfriend... who was out at a party drinking to the point of passing out and hooking up and leaving with a 19 year old guy. She was a bit out of control that night and I really don't doubt that she intended to fool around with this guy. She likely passed out while they were fooling around and the hot and bothered guy didn't have the decency to get off of her. The Swedes came on the scene, tackled the guy and called the cops.

The woman was so passed out drunk that she slept through the cops coming on the scene (and apparently taking pics of her!), the ambulance ride and then later continued to sleep at the hospital for 2 hours. When she woke up she had no memory of what happened to her and I assume that someone told her that she had been assaulted. She didn't know or remember what had happened to her so she agreed to that invasive examination and more photographs of her naked body - she was even told that she needed to do another HIV test in a few months just to be sure. She must have been absolutely terrified as to WTH had happened to her. She later found out in the newspaper, while sitting at her desk at work , what had happened, how she was found. The Newspaper!

So she expected the guy to accept a plea deal to avoid a trial and that didn't happen. I would imagine that she will try to go for compensatory damages...and maybe the lighter sentence will make it easier for this guy to finish school, get a job and compensate her for damages. It's a tough situation for sure.

wow lots of assumptions on your part. its so interesting how many people seem to know exactly what happened here.

Most of it is from her letter. Some of it is filling in.

uh huh....

Read her letter.

I did. twice. you have no idea if she intended on fooling around with the guy. and you have no idea when she passed out. And neither does she.

NP here. It doesn't matter if she intended to fool around with him. She can change her mind any point, even after they get started. And HE should have noticed if the person he was fooling around with PASSED OUT, not to mention the other signs that should've told him that fooling around with her (or continuing to do so) was not a good idea. It can be criminal - as in this case -- or at the very least, you're a scumbag who preys on drunk girls. You want to focus on her lack of judgment - well, where was his judgment? He was so intent on getting some that he didn't stop to notice how drunk she was? What good can come of fooling around with a girl in that situation? Decent, moral guys walk away from those situations.

yes I know this. but PP was making up a narrative above about how things went down. And I was just telling that person that they have no idea what went down preceding the assault which was witnessed

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

I think it's been posted 70x because some loon kept posting some crap about helping rapists rape.

You mean the person who was pointing out those posters who insist on identifying all the reasons why Emily Doe brought this on herself and what she should've done differently, as opposed to looking at why the guy felt so entitled and how we change that mentality to stop these crimes?

That's a good point. Look back at this thread, and compare the number of posts talking about what the victim did wrong and how the victim (and other women) can "avoid rape" in the future to the number of posts trying to figure out what got the rapist to this place and how he can avoid THAT in the future?

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

It's irrelevant because hooking up had nothing to do with this case, because SHE WAS UNCONSCIOUS.

She was not unconscious when she first hooked up with him.

You don't know that, first of all. More importantly, that doesn't matter. Once someone becomes unconscious, it's not "hooking up" by any stretch of the imagination, even if it started out that way. Then it's rape.

Got it. So hookup culture is entirely irrelevant. Why is it irrelevant?

It's rape. We agree, as did the jury. Is that the beginning and end of the conversation?

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

It's irrelevant because hooking up had nothing to do with this case, because SHE WAS UNCONSCIOUS.

She was not unconscious when she first hooked up with him.

You don't know that, first of all. More importantly, that doesn't matter. Once someone becomes unconscious, it's not "hooking up" by any stretch of the imagination, even if it started out that way. Then it's rape.

She remembers kissing him. Her sister kissed him too. It does matter, actually. If it did not matter, the information would not be in the police report or in the court proceedings.

I agree that this was rape because she was unconscious which was also in the police report, which is also relevant.

A hook up culture is relevant to the overall conversation about rape and preventing it in the future.

We should not tolerate a hook up culture from our sons or our daughters. This case was obviously cut and dry, but so many are not because one consensual woman can tell the same story that a non consensual woman tells. EXACT same story, one is rape the other is not. That is a problem. Women will continue to be raped and men will continue to get away with it ... because of the hook up culture.

So it is relevant to rapes not being convicted at a higher rate.

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

It's irrelevant because hooking up had nothing to do with this case, because SHE WAS UNCONSCIOUS.

She was not unconscious when she first hooked up with him.

You don't know that, first of all. More importantly, that doesn't matter. Once someone becomes unconscious, it's not "hooking up" by any stretch of the imagination, even if it started out that way. Then it's rape.

She remembers kissing him. Her sister kissed him too. It does matter, actually. If it did not matter, the information would not be in the police report or in the court proceedings.

I agree that this was rape because she was unconscious which was also in the police report, which is also relevant.

A hook up culture is relevant to the overall conversation about rape and preventing it in the future.

We should not tolerate a hook up culture from our sons or our daughters. This case was obviously cut and dry, but so many are not because one consensual woman can tell the same story that a non consensual woman tells. EXACT same story, one is rape the other is not. That is a problem. Women will continue to be raped and men will continue to get away with it ... because of the hook up culture.

So it is relevant to rapes not being convicted at a higher rate.

really? I didn't read that anywhere. I did read that he tried to kiss her sister.

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

It's irrelevant because hooking up had nothing to do with this case, because SHE WAS UNCONSCIOUS.

She was not unconscious when she first hooked up with him.

You don't know that, first of all. More importantly, that doesn't matter. Once someone becomes unconscious, it's not "hooking up" by any stretch of the imagination, even if it started out that way. Then it's rape.

She remembers kissing him. Her sister kissed him too. It does matter, actually. If it did not matter, the information would not be in the police report or in the court proceedings.

I agree that this was rape because she was unconscious which was also in the police report, which is also relevant.

A hook up culture is relevant to the overall conversation about rape and preventing it in the future.

We should not tolerate a hook up culture from our sons or our daughters. This case was obviously cut and dry, but so many are not because one consensual woman can tell the same story that a non consensual woman tells. EXACT same story, one is rape the other is not. That is a problem. Women will continue to be raped and men will continue to get away with it ... because of the hook up culture.

So it is relevant to rapes not being convicted at a higher rate.

really? I didn't read that anywhere. I did read that he tried to kiss her sister.

that said and I agree that your point about addressing hookup culture is valid. in a general sense

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About the sentence, I don't think this case is as bad as a stranger, assault with weapon rape case so the punishment should be less. There are indications that the girl was with him voluntarily and he didn't spike her drink or anything like that. His judgement was impaired by alcohol and that should be taken into account. If no one told her she was assaulted afterwards she probably wouldn't have known it. She has no memory of it. I think the punishment is severe enough. You liberals go on talking about more lenient sentencing for the minorities but when there is an actual more lenient punishment you think it is not severe enough. Shouldn't it be for everyone? Oh, except if the perp is a man or he's white.

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

I think it's been posted 70x because some loon kept posting some crap about helping rapists rape.

You mean the person who was pointing out those posters who insist on identifying all the reasons why Emily Doe brought this on herself and what she should've done differently, as opposed to looking at why the guy felt so entitled and how we change that mentality to stop these crimes?

Yeah, that one.

Because stopping rape culture is crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

It's irrelevant because hooking up had nothing to do with this case, because SHE WAS UNCONSCIOUS.

She was not unconscious when she first hooked up with him.

You don't know that, first of all. More importantly, that doesn't matter. Once someone becomes unconscious, it's not "hooking up" by any stretch of the imagination, even if it started out that way. Then it's rape.

She remembers kissing him. Her sister kissed him too. It does matter, actually. If it did not matter, the information would not be in the police report or in the court proceedings.

I agree that this was rape because she was unconscious which was also in the police report, which is also relevant.

A hook up culture is relevant to the overall conversation about rape and preventing it in the future.

We should not tolerate a hook up culture from our sons or our daughters. This case was obviously cut and dry, but so many are not because one consensual woman can tell the same story that a non consensual woman tells. EXACT same story, one is rape the other is not. That is a problem. Women will continue to be raped and men will continue to get away with it ... because of the hook up culture.

So it is relevant to rapes not being convicted at a higher rate.

I cannot believe I have to type this out, but ok, sure, why not. Hook-up culture is about women and men engaging in consensual sexual activity at a rate which some people find alarming, and often without emotional attachments. Rape involves the LACK of consent. Just because someone hooks up with one person has no bearing on whether she consented to sexual activity with another person. Just because someone hooks up with a person one time, that doesn't mean she consented to hooking up with them in all future circumstances. Consent is not transferable and it is on the participants to ensure that they get affirmative consent each time.

Women will continue to be raped and rapists will get away with it because they are rapists, and because we as a society will look for any goddamn excuse to blame the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:About the sentence, I don't think this case is as bad as a stranger, assault with weapon rape case so the punishment should be less. There are indications that the girl was with him voluntarily and he didn't spike her drink or anything like that. His judgement was impaired by alcohol and that should be taken into account. If no one told her she was assaulted afterwards she probably wouldn't have known it. She has no memory of it. I think the punishment is severe enough. You liberals go on talking about more lenient sentencing for the minorities but when there is an actual more lenient punishment you think it is not severe enough. Shouldn't it be for everyone? Oh, except if the perp is a man or he's white.

WTF? No. You're either someone who can rape or you're not. The amount of alcohol he drank has no bearing on this - he either knows right from wrong or he doesn't (he doesn't, by the way). And to the second bolded part, you think the bruises and scrapes and soreness might've indicated it was unwanted?

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Anonymous wrote:About the sentence, I don't think this case is as bad as a stranger, assault with weapon rape case so the punishment should be less. There are indications that the girl was with him voluntarily and he didn't spike her drink or anything like that. His judgement was impaired by alcohol and that should be taken into account. If no one told her she was assaulted afterwards she probably wouldn't have known it. She has no memory of it. I think the punishment is severe enough. You liberals go on talking about more lenient sentencing for the minorities but when there is an actual more lenient punishment you think it is not severe enough. Shouldn't it be for everyone? Oh, except if the perp is a man or he's white.

Did you even attend a year of college?

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Anonymous wrote:People want to find a way that the victim could have prevented the situation in order to reassure themselves it could never happen to them. Wishful thinking but it doesn't guarantee anyone's safety.

That's not entirely fair. I posted earlier saying there but for the grace of God. I have no assurance that this could not have happened to me; I behaved just like Emily Doe in my college years and even a few times in graduate school. At the time I was just embarrassed to have made a fool of myself; I was too clueless to realize how incredibly risky that behavior was. And so I damn sure want to teach my kids as best not to ever do anything like that - that binge drinking is not some harmless adolescent rite of passage.

Drilling basic self-protection measures into our kids isn't a fantasy. It will not keep them from all harm or prevent any possibility of rape or some other horrible crime. But it may decrease their odds of facing such a terrible situation as Emily Doe, or something even worse.

I think what has so many PP's dander up is the rather noxious focus on what Emily Doe could have differently. Seriously. Over and over and over: binge drinking is bad! Drinking is bad! And my favorite, completely irrelevant one: hookup culture is bad! So much focus on what the victim did or did not do, and so very little on the fact that this man, and many like him, feel entitled to a woman's body whether or not she wants to give it or can consent. There's very little focus on that. For some reason.

How is that irrelevant? If the hook up culture has guys having sex with a bunch of wasted girls that black out and can't remember a thing and tell him what a great time they had and they come back for more... how is that not relevant to the problem on college campuses. How is a guy to know when a girl is going to say, they didn't consent, when the same situation happened 20 times before and it was consent?

Perhaps we need to teach our sons to do a better job of recognizing and understanding what could happen. If a girl is THAT drunk, or if she says yes but then no and then yes again, or if she is on the verge of passing out, or she can't walk, or is slurring her speech so badly that you can't understand her - WALK AWAY. Exercise restraint, recognize that this is not how you want to be getting laid, understand the consequences. Just as we would tell our daughters not to get so drunk that they black out, or not to walk home alone, and exercise personal safety, we should also be teaching our sons not to take advantage of drunk girls or get so drunk that they don't recognize that the girl they are about to have sex with is also too drunk to know what's going on. You don't solve the "hookup culture" on college campuses by simply telling girls not to do certain things while excusing the behavior of the guys.