How would you prefer to find out that your 15 year old is smoking pot?

[Anonymous]

Would it be unwelcome information from another parent who found out from their own child?
What about an anonymous note?

[Anonymous]

Who ever prefers to find anything out via anonymous note?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I would be incredibly defensive and embarrassed if another parent told me. It feels like it comes with judgment.

I guess an anonymous note, but of course I would prefer to find out directly from my son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I would be incredibly defensive and embarrassed if another parent told me. It feels like it comes with judgment.

I guess an anonymous note, but of course I would prefer to find out directly from my son.

And I'm sure I will be flamed, but that's my honest gut reaction. I'm not anti pot, but I'm anti pot for my 15 year old.

[Anonymous]

ALL of your 15 year olds either smoke pot now or will soon enough. No reason to narc anybody out.

[Anonymous]

Friend’s mom caught us smoking pot at that age. She told me “Tell your parents about this, or I will”. So I did. I think my mom appreciated that approach.

[Anonymous]

In 15 years when they are 30 and confess to teenage sins and mischief while we sip a cocktail together.

The same way my mother found out about my past transgressions!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s mom caught us smoking pot at that age. She told me “Tell your parents about this, or I will”. So I did. I think my mom appreciated that approach.

This is a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ALL of your 15 year olds either smoke pot now or will soon enough. No reason to narc anybody out.

Be. I didn’t smoke ever. Dh also. Half my friend never even tried it. Everyone is different. Maybe its because I hung with a nerdy crowd.

[Anonymous]

Did you catch them or is this information you were told in confidence?

[Anonymous]

I think I would prefer an email so I can work through my response on my own without feeling like I need to have the correct reaction to another parent. An email that just said "I thought you should know that Johnny and Suzy have been smoking pot behind the bleachers after school. I will be talking to Johnny about it, I just wanted you to be informed so you can do whatever you think is appropriate" would be ok, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would prefer an email so I can work through my response on my own without feeling like I need to have the correct reaction to another parent. An email that just said "I thought you should know that Johnny and Suzy have been smoking pot behind the bleachers after school. I will be talking to Johnny about it, I just wanted you to be informed so you can do whatever you think is appropriate" would be ok, I think.

Problem is that my kid wasn’t doing it. The other kid took it upon herself to tell a group of kids who don’t use drugs at all. They gave her a look then decided that she was going too far. They all told their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you catch them or is this information you were told in confidence?

Confidence. I’ve known the family for 12 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ALL of your 15 year olds either smoke pot now or will soon enough. No reason to narc anybody out.

Be. I didn’t smoke ever. Dh also. Half my friend never even tried it. Everyone is different. Maybe its because I hung with a nerdy crowd.

OP here same thing. Nerd who has never seen drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would prefer an email so I can work through my response on my own without feeling like I need to have the correct reaction to another parent. An email that just said "I thought you should know that Johnny and Suzy have been smoking pot behind the bleachers after school. I will be talking to Johnny about it, I just wanted you to be informed so you can do whatever you think is appropriate" would be ok, I think.

Problem is that my kid wasn’t doing it. The other kid took it upon herself to tell a group of kids who don’t use drugs at all. They gave her a look then decided that she was going too far. They all told their parents.

OK, so then, what you think is appropriate is to do nothing. I don't get the "problem" here.

Also, what does this even mean? Some other kid told on your kid?