Friend cried over me

[Anonymous]

As she said my self worth is so low it breaks her heart.
My DW cheated, says she no longer loves me and doesn't miss me. She is also still seeing the
guy she cheated with for sex.
I feel as crazy as it sounds that if we get through this, we will be incredibly strong as a couple. I know I made mistakes during our marriage but I truly believe that with therapy we can make things work.
Is this too much to hope for? Is my friend a bit OTT for crying?

[Anonymous]

How could you be a strong couple if your wife doesn't love you? That doesn't make any sense.

[Anonymous]

I think through therapy she could learn to love me again and we could rekindle what we had which was 15 years of marriage

[Anonymous]

OP, I know you believe with therapy you can work things out, but does your wife actually want to work things out?

[Anonymous]

I think she could learn to re love me. She has said she hasn't ruled out us getting back together

[Anonymous]

I don't believe in learning to love someone. I could learn to tolerate someone, but love is organic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she could learn to re love me. She has said she hasn't ruled out us getting back together

So then what's stopping the two of you from starting therapy?

[Anonymous]

I'm not seeing the low self-worth here at all. Beware of this friend, unless she gave other more cogent examples.

Of course it doesn't mean you are right by trying to get back together with your wife! Only time will tell for that. However, I don't think it has to do with your self-worth at all.

[Anonymous]

No, your friend is not over the top. Watching someone fight to be chosen by someone who has mistreated and discarded them is sad.

[Anonymous]

Of course it is low self worth here. He thinks that is all he is worth.

[Anonymous]

We are starting therapy.
I was just surprised my friend cried. It's made me feel weird and I don't know why. She just said I am worth so much more and that it hurts to watch me fall apart the way I am.

All I want to do is save the marriage. After therapy this situation could do a complete 180 and we may have a chance of getting back together and saving our marriage.

[Anonymous]

Careful, OP. People on this board think that cheating is the absolute worst unforgivable thing any spouse can do.

[Anonymous]

You need to grab your self by the you know whats and get on with your life.

[Anonymous]

In any relationship, both people need to be willing to work at it. Sounds like your wife is not interested in working at it. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Is this woman friend in love with you?
Maybe she was hopeful thinking you were going to divorce your wife and now she’s heartbroken to learn you’re not.