Hey working mothers, a work-life balance is a myth.

[Anonymous]

So says Barbara Corcoran of Shark Tank.

She tried for 40 years to achieve the perfect balance before giving up, she says "stop striving for work life balance, it just doesn’t exist".

Instead of placing so much pressure on ourselves to be the perfect working moms, we should do this...

https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/allthemoms/2018/05/27/work-life-balance-myth-says-shark-tank-star-try-instead/648565002/

[Anonymous]

Eh, I take this with a grain of salt. I watch Shart Tank and she is amazing, but she runs a multi billion dollar business. I’m sure it’s different from running multiple businesses, than go in for an 8-10 hour job. Her work is never done, but other moms who have more normal jobs are likely to find that better balance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I take this with a grain of salt. I watch Shart Tank and she is amazing, but she runs a multi billion dollar business. I’m sure it’s different from running multiple businesses, than go in for an 8-10 hour job. Her work is never done, but other moms who have more normal jobs are likely to find that better balance.

* shark.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP & I totally agree with you PP.

Its much easier to compartmentalize when you're running the show & don't have a demanding boss (who's sans children) that just doesn't get why you can't be on call every minute of every day.

[Anonymous]

A senior executive that I greatly respect once told me that finding equal balance as a wife, mom, professional, friend, relative, woman isn’t realistic, but optimizing your time is achievable, and critical to finding peace with the many hats that we wear as women. It helps to remember her approach when the scales seem broken.

[Anonymous]

Men can't have it all either. Which is why I think work hours should be enforced. Employers are relying on your unpaid work hours to get ahead and you're sacrificing family time for your employer. It's a whole spiraling effect.

[Anonymous]

I think I come close. I am fortunate to have a fantastic nanny who also acts as House Manager; I own my own company; and I have parents who beg to have DD sleep over on Saturday night giving DH and I a date night every week. I outsource everything to have three day weekends devoted only to DD and DH.

[Anonymous]

I think balance means balance, not having it all. You can have a career and a family and friends and health and etc., but you can't have the best or most extremely successful version of all of them.

I have a good career but it's less than I'm capable of, because there are other priorities. You can have a high powered career and be a good parent, but a lot of times you won't hit the "good parent" markers like attending recitals. And so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I come close. I am fortunate to have a fantastic nanny who also acts as House Manager; I own my own company; and I have parents who beg to have DD sleep over on Saturday night giving DH and I a date night every week. I outsource everything to have three day weekends devoted only to DD and DH.

So between the nanny and sleepovers when do you see your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I come close. I am fortunate to have a fantastic nanny who also acts as House Manager; I own my own company; and I have parents who beg to have DD sleep over on Saturday night giving DH and I a date night every week. I outsource everything to have three day weekends devoted only to DD and DH.

So between the nanny and sleepovers when do you see your child?

Maybe on the 3 day weekends every week? Just guessing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I come close. I am fortunate to have a fantastic nanny who also acts as House Manager; I own my own company; and I have parents who beg to have DD sleep over on Saturday night giving DH and I a date night every week. I outsource everything to have three day weekends devoted only to DD and DH.

So between the nanny and sleepovers when do you see your child?

T else.
Maybe on the 3 day weekends every week? Just guessing.

Three day weekend minus the weekly grandparent sleepover and who knows what else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think balance means balance, not having it all. You can have a career and a family and friends and health and etc., but you can't have the best or most extremely successful version of all of them.

I have a good career but it's less than I'm capable of, because there are other priorities. You can have a high powered career and be a good parent, but a lot of times you won't hit the "good parent" markers like attending recitals. And so on.

Yep. Good enough (and really how much money/power position does one need? How much does your HS senior really need you unless you are helicopetering?) Balance can be achieved, just not at the high end of everything.

[Anonymous]

Says a multi millionaire. its as tone deaf as the lean in book.

I work a flexible job that makes enough money. My H and I have an all day date on a weekday once s month when the kids are at school plus we meet for lunch and weekends.

I cook and have tons of time with the kids, volunteer at school and on the community.

I work out, see friends and vacation.

[Anonymous]

19:32 what is your flexible job? I'm trying to find one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Says a multi millionaire. its as tone deaf as the lean in book.

I work a flexible job that makes enough money. My H and I have an all day date on a weekday once s month when the kids are at school plus we meet for lunch and weekends.

I cook and have tons of time with the kids, volunteer at school and on the community.

I work out, see friends and vacation.

All of this.

It's not about "having it all," it's about "balance."

Sometimes the ball rolls one way, sometimes another. Some weeks I travel for work. Some weeks I am home all week.