Mother's day - nudge the husband or risk disapointment?

[Anonymous]

Love my husband v much but he's a horrible planner. Cannot think beyond a few days in advance. Should I nudge him to remind him of mother's day to make sure he has a plan or risk waking up on Sunday disapointed when he seemingly will just plan spur of moment? Anyone else going through this?

[Anonymous]

I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

[Anonymous]

How long have you been married?

Mother's Day and Birthdays are a big deal to me, not at all big deal to my spouse (meaning, Father's day and his birthday). The most I can hope for is a card. I learned to live with disappointment.

[Anonymous]

Do you really need a parade and balloons for mother’s day?

Sorry, as a mother I don’t understand the “risk disappointment” part. If your life is that challenging, it’s up to you, not your husband, to change it, and not for one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you really need a parade and balloons for mother’s day?

Sorry, as a mother I don’t understand the “risk disappointment” part. If your life is that challenging, it’s up to you, not your husband, to change it, and not for one day.

Wow, you must be a way better mom than OP, since you don't care about Mother's Day!

[Anonymous]

When in doubt, avoid setting yourself up for disappointment!

I just straight up told my husband that I'd like to do a hike with the family on Sunday, knowing it was unlikely that he had a spa day already in the works

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he

could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

You want to celebrate Mother’s Day before you’re actuallly a mother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

You're not a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

You're not a mother.

And you're not a nice person. We all learned something new today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you really need a parade and balloons for mother’s day?

Sorry, as a mother I don’t understand the “risk disappointment” part. If your life is that challenging, it’s up to you, not your husband, to change it, and not for one day.

Wow, you must be a way better mom than OP, since you don't care about Mother's Day!

I’m not a better mother, I just choose not to get bent out of shape over Hallmark Holidays. And by doing so, I don’t “risk disappointment”, and thus have no need to be sad, or disappointed, on a beautiful Sunday in May.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

You're not a mother.

Yeah, huge eyeroll here. Of course it would be fine and cute for your husband to celebrate mother's day with you, but the idea that you decided to push him for recognition when you're just newly pregnant? Come on.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with nudging? I tell my DH my expectations in advance (super low) for holidays or days. This year my favorite indoor plant had died so I sent him a text about how I just knew our DD wanted to get me a new one for mother's day. He also knows by now that I want him to cook breakfast and dinner and plan a small family outing.

My mom never, ever tells my dad what she wants and then whines about it afterwards. "Why didn't he know I wanted those new gold earrings?!" She's pretty much out of control about gifts and makes holidays miserable. Even as her daughter I'm a great gifter and listener and half my gifts fail. Don't be my mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

You're not a mother.

BS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love my husband v much but he's a horrible planner. Cannot think beyond a few days in advance. Should I nudge him to remind him of mother's day to make sure he has a plan or risk waking up on Sunday disapointed when he seemingly will just plan spur of moment? Anyone else going through this?

If you;re going to be disappointed, give him a gentle reminder. Better to ask for what you want if it's really important to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday. What did your DH do last year? Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?

You're not a mother.

Yeah, huge eyeroll here. Of course it would be fine and cute for your husband to celebrate mother's day with you, but the idea that you decided to push him for recognition when you're just newly pregnant? Come on.

Well, congratulations on being a garbage person. We tried for a long time and are very excited to be expecting. He'll get recognition on Father's Day too, and you can continue to be garbage then. Go on.