Is it Better to Marry in your 20s or 30s

[Anonymous]

For longterm happiness is it Better to wait until your 30s to make settling down a priority? That way you can use your 20s to focus on building your career, and enjoy the experience that comes from dating different people?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the person. There's no one right answer.

[Anonymous]

Late 20s. Live by yourself for a bit but marry young enough to grow together & have some energy for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Depends. Right person, right time.

[Anonymous]

It's better to marry when you know who you are and you are confident you're picking the right person for the right reasons. Getting married before some particular age is not the right reason.

But I would say that if you want children, late 20s is probably ideal.

[Anonymous]

I think 30s or late twenties. You should be an adult by then but still fertile.

[Anonymous]

I married two months after my 30th birthday. It worked for me. FWIW, I was the youngest in my immediate family (mom, Dad, sister) to marry.

[Anonymous]

29. 28 is too early, 30 too late.

[Anonymous]

I think men in particular need years to sow their oats, so to speak.
In my observation marriages also tend to fare better in the long run when men marry women who are 10-15 years younger.

I would advise men in their 20s to date women in their 20s respectfully (relationships yes, but be honest that marriage is not in the cards for now). And importantly, work on making a successful career for yourself and saving money. Then marry someone in their mid-to-late 20s when you are 38.

And young women I would advise to date older men, again about 10-15 years, who are already established in their careers -- just NOT married men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think men in particular need years to sow their oats, so to speak.
In my observation marriages also tend to fare better in the long run when men marry women who are 10-15 years younger.

I would advise men in their 20s to date women in their 20s respectfully (relationships yes, but be honest that marriage is not in the cards for now). And importantly, work on making a successful career for yourself and saving money. Then marry someone in their mid-to-late 20s when you are 38.

And young women I would advise to date older men, again about 10-15 years, who are already established in their careers -- just NOT married men.

I used to think the same thing, but now I have friends dealing with their aging husbands. However, when I think of the couples I have ACTUALLY known, "IRL", with an age gap, the relationship seems to have prematurely aged the woman. For reference, I live in an UMC, close in neighborhood, so it isn't like the couples are stuck indoors and don't have money to do things like travel and go to nice dinners.

[Anonymous]

30s. Also men on average die before women so unless you plan to be a caretaker then alone for you 60s and up marrying someone 10-15 years older is not wise. Marry for love. There is no right time. Agree right person right time for some that may be 20 for others 40+

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 20s. Live by yourself for a bit but marry young enough to grow together & have some energy for the kids.

Theoretically, this sounds like a great idea, it implies that going this route gives people the chance to have fun and date around, meet their spouse at, say, 26 and then get married at 28. However, most of the late-20s marriages I'm seeing are between people who have been dating for 4-6 years (or more) and often living together much of that time, and so there's a surprising amount of inertia to stay in a relationship that might not be right.

This group might be less problematic than than the early-30s marriages, where dating resembles frantically trying to secure a lifeboat on the Titanic, but I digress.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/717112.page

[Anonymous]

I married my college boyfriend and we know at least 8 other couples from our college who did the same. Some married within a year of graduation (like us), others waited 3-5 years but were still together that whole time, so not sowing any oats so to speak. Regardless, we’ve all been couples 15+ years and we are all still really happy.

Obviously this is anecdotal, as is the entire thread.

[Anonymous]

Biologically women are to produce children ages 18-28. As close as possible to that