Is it Better to Marry in your 20s or 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married my college boyfriend and we know at least 8 other couples from our college who did the same. Some married within a year of graduation (like us), others waited 3-5 years but were still together that whole time, so not sowing any oats so to speak. Regardless, we’ve all been couples 15+ years and we are all still really happy.

Obviously this is anecdotal, as is the entire thread.

+1, male married college girlfriend, no oats, totally happy.

The best ones get locked down fast and taken off the market early IMO

[Anonymous]

Late 20's so you have had time to live alone as an adult and get a career going plus time to then marry and wait a few years before kids.

[Anonymous]

Married college boyfriend at age 25. We waited for 6 years before tying the knot, so we were fairly mature. Had kids in our 30s by choice.

[Anonymous]

There is no correct answer to this, and much of your happiness is really due to your MINDSET and not your situation or partner in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There is no correct answer to this, and much of your happiness is really due to your MINDSET and not your situation or partner in life.

Yeah cause your mindset will fix the ticking baby clock idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's better to marry when you know who you are and you are confident you're picking the right person for the right reasons. Getting married before some particular age is not the right reason.

But I would say that if you want children, late 20s is probably ideal.

I married at 30. I might have liked to get married sooner, but I had not yet met someone I wanted to marry who also wanted to marry me. Marrying someone I didn't really want to marry just to be married in my 20s would have been a terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Marry the right *person* - don't pick an age or you will settle and be stuck with some of these disaster relationships we read about on this forum. Sometimes you find the right person in your 20s; sometimes not until later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 20s. Live by yourself for a bit but marry young enough to grow together & have some energy for the kids.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

There is no correct answer to this, and much of your happiness is really due to your MINDSET and not your situation or partner in life.

Yeah cause your mindset will fix the ticking baby clock idiot.

People who try to conceive later in life surely understand the risks, PP. As I wrote before, it's a mindset thing. Everyone needs to own their lot in life to be content.

And way to go on the insult for nothing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:29. 28 is too early, 30 too late.

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married my college boyfriend and we know at least 8 other couples from our college who did the same. Some married within a year of graduation (like us), others waited 3-5 years but were still together that whole time, so not sowing any oats so to speak. Regardless, we’ve all been couples 15+ years and we are all still really happy.

Obviously this is anecdotal, as is the entire thread.

+1, male married college girlfriend, no oats, totally happy.

The best ones get locked down fast and taken off the market early IMO

It's funny - one of my best male friends told me that in our 20s, when he was about to get married and I was nowhere near doing it. 15 years later he's divorced and miserable, and I am happily married to the guy I met in my mid-30s. I feel for him, being so unhappy now - but, ya know, I've never forgotten him saying that to me either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married my college boyfriend and we know at least 8 other couples from our college who did the same. Some married within a year of graduation (like us), others waited 3-5 years but were still together that whole time, so not sowing any oats so to speak. Regardless, we’ve all been couples 15+ years and we are all still really happy.

Obviously this is anecdotal, as is the entire thread.

+1, male married college girlfriend, no oats, totally happy.

The best ones get locked down fast and taken off the market early IMO

It's funny - one of my best male friends told me that in our 20s, when he was about to get married and I was nowhere near doing it. 15 years later he's divorced and miserable, and I am happily married to the guy I met in my mid-30s. I feel for him, being so unhappy now - but, ya know, I've never forgotten him saying that to me either.

^ sorry, make that 20 years later. I forgot how old we are now. Damn, we are old.

[Anonymous]

It's better to marry when you know who you are and you are confident you're picking the right person for the right reasons.

She was hot and sweet, and she wanted to live with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think men in particular need years to sow their oats, so to speak.
In my observation marriages also tend to fare better in the long run when men marry women who are 10-15 years younger.

I would advise men in their 20s to date women in their 20s respectfully (relationships yes, but be honest that marriage is not in the cards for now). And importantly, work on making a successful career for yourself and saving money. Then marry someone in their mid-to-late 20s when you are 38.

And young women I would advise to date older men, again about 10-15 years, who are already established in their careers -- just NOT married men.

Omg no. Young women...do NOT do this, unless you want to be dealing with an aging grumpy bump on a log who never wants to leave the house or do anything, just when you're feeling like you're in the prime of your life. I have see this happen with WAY too many women...trust me you do not want this life

[Anonymous]

In general women mid to late 20s, men early to mid 30s. 10 years is too much of a gap but I think the guy generally should be older because guys take longer to be ok with settling into family life.

More like 3-7 years older than 10-15! 10-15 you're dealing with an old man when you're still rocking and rolling.