What is “black on black” wedding?

[Anonymous]

Website says, “Suggested attire for wedding is "black on black" tux/suit for men. Dress/gown (below knee) for women and girls. Black suit for boys. Everyone will be in photos.”

Is this just southern speak for black tie? Or do men not wearing a tux wear a black suit with a black shirt? Are women expected to wear black or just below knee gowns?

[Anonymous]

RSVP no. People are so rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:RSVP no. People are so rude.

You have no idea. This is also a destination wedding and airfare is $1000+. So we’re expected to schlep a tux through Europe?

[Anonymous]

Yikes, I'm what most people would call a "goth" and I think this is crazy! I have worn all black since I was 14 (43 now), except for my wedding gown, which was black/white. I would RSVP no. That is insane! I got married in a cemetery for Fs sake, and still think this "black on black" wedding thing is stupid and crazy.

[Anonymous]

Unlike "black tie", or "white tie", which are conventions of longstanding that guests are supposed to know, "black on black" means... who the heck knows?

Another example of entitled wedding planning.

[Anonymous]

I think they want you to wear black shirts with black suits and black dresses.

Sounds pretty easy, but DH doesn't own a black dress shirt.

[Anonymous]

I thought it meant black tie for men and black dresses for women.

[Anonymous]

Yes they don't want any white in the suit outfit, just black pants, coat, shirt and tie. I'd be most annoyed about them telling me I needed a black on black suit for a young boy, those aren't hanging in my closet. (I guess I could have mine wear his concert band outfit haha.)

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe people are so freakishly controlling and think that's OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RSVP no. People are so rude.

You have no idea. This is also a destination wedding and airfare is $1000+. So we’re expected to schlep a tux through Europe?

Not surprising. All of these things go together.

[Anonymous]

Who the hell owns a black dress shirt? That cannot possibly be what it means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who the hell owns a black dress shirt? That cannot possibly be what it means.

Black dresses for little girls are hard to find too.

[Anonymous]

There's no way my husband would dress like that--it's a horrid look and completely tacky. Black suit or black tie, sure. But this? No way. And no way I'd put my kid in that outfit.

No thanks, I appear to be busy....

[Anonymous]

I've seen black on black used (incorrectly, IMO) to mean formal attire. No men showing up with a navy sportcoat and khaki Dockers. Or black dress pants with just a dress shirt and no jacket.

The one I went to requested all females in black dresses and all males in black suits/tuxes. Color was prohibited for guests, so no fun colorful ties, bowties, or shoes. White dress shirts were fine, but there were several guys who took the black on black to mean black suit & black shirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RSVP no. People are so rude.

You have no idea. This is also a destination wedding and airfare is $1000+. So we’re expected to schlep a tux through Europe?

Please tell me that this is the wedding of a sibling, or someone who donated a kidney to you, because I can’t underwhy you would bother for anyone else.