What is “black on black” wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:RSVP no. People are so rude.

You have no idea. This is also a destination wedding and airfare is $1000+. So we’re expected to schlep a tux through Europe?

Please tell me that this is the wedding of a sibling, or someone who donated a kidney to you, because I can’t underwhy you would bother for anyone else.

OP here, yes sibling. I've already committed to the airfare for my family, so I'm going.

If it's your sibling, then why wouldn't you just ask her/him?

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It means that AC/DC is the fashion theme and to dress and style correspondingly....

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Ridiculous. It means that the bride wants everyone to wear black so that she will stand out in her white dress.

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Unlike "black tie", or "white tie", which are conventions of longstanding that guests are supposed to know, "black on black" means... who the heck knows?

Another example of entitled wedding planning.

I don't think it's entitled planners, it's the entitled bride and groom. I say no to destination weddings and would definitely say no to anything that required a costume.

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but since this was sent to the groom's sister and it talks about being in the photos, maybe the bride is just considering all the guests to be "bridal party?" is it a very small wedding?

to be clear I think the matching clothes for groomsmen and bridesmaids is weird and we did not do that at our wedding. but I know it's a widespread practice. Ask that section of my closet.

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Anonymous wrote:I greatly look forward to all of your future posts on the Family Relationships forum...

Man, she went All. The. Way. with the black on black wedding! I mean, that takes guts. I've seen this done once, but only in the wedding party and immediate family form not all guests. I will admit, the pictures looked amazing. All of the men looked awesome in their solid black look and it made the bridesmaid's color dresses pop even more.

Disagree! I was at one and it looked funereal. It didn’t help that the old limo they rented also looked like an old hearse. We actually drove past the wedding at first because we were a little early and we thought oh, no, they're finishing up a funeral before the wedding. Nope. Wedding.

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Black suit for BOYS??? Wtf??

Kids where dark sports jackets with khakis and oxford shirt tie in my circle. A little boy in a black suit is tacky as hell.

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Can you just go in whatever you want and let them know you're fine to not be in the pictures?

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But it's for the PHOTOS, people. The bride will stand out amidst the sea of black, like a glowing orb of radiant light. Get with 2018! Curating your wedding photos on Instagram is what's really important here.

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I would be sure to put a big yellow flower in my hair.

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You could also go as Batman and Catwoman, or Neo and Trinity from The Matrix.

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Black dress shirts are not a thing. I would not wear one. It is bad enough having to wear black tie. Just let people wear suits and enjoy themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:You could also go as Batman and Catwoman, or Neo and Trinity from The Matrix.

Bahahhahahah

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Anonymous wrote:
Unlike "black tie", or "white tie", which are conventions of longstanding that guests are supposed to know, "black on black" means... who the heck knows?

Another example of entitled wedding planning.

I don't think it's entitled planners, it's the entitled bride and groom. I say no to destination weddings and would definitely say no to anything that required a costume.

+1

And if you don't expect extended (ie: not immediate - siblings and parents) family and friends to incur the expense (both time and money) of your destination wedding, announce your wedding AFTER you return form your honeymoon! So tacky to put this on people, especially if it is your second or third or more marriage!

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Anonymous wrote:You could also go as Batman and Catwoman, or Neo and Trinity from The Matrix.

Please do this. Please do something passable but heinous. Head to toe black sequins, preferably noisy. DH in a SHINY black tux with a black patterned shirt that will read weird on film. Something creative is called for here.