"deeply in love"

[Anonymous]

I see this all the time here and elsewhere: "we are deeply in love."

What does that translate to in your body and mind?

I don't even know. I'm old enough to know (married, children in HS/MS) but I don't feel it, and I certainly never said to anybody that my DH and I were deeply in love.

How, after 20 years, does that translate into you actually FEELING deeply in love?

[Anonymous]

Hate to say it, but it is one of those things that you just know and feel. Kind of magical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it, but it is one of those things that you just know and feel. Kind of magical.

Chemical bonding. Truly.

[Anonymous]

It can happen. I certainly didn't feel this with my ex-husband because we were more like best friends and roommates, but the first time my husband now and I kissed, we both felt something that we could only describe as some kind of soul connection. We've been together for almost 9 years, and still feel that, but the feeling is deeper and stronger now. It's hard to describe unless you've felt it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it, but it is one of those things that you just know and feel. Kind of magical.

Chemical bonding. Truly.

+1 I literally have a physical reaction just thinking about him (increased heart rate, butterflies, etc).

[Anonymous]

Dh and I (married 10 years) just had a discussion last night that together we felt like a whole person. We just truly complete each other and together we're extremely well rounded in our interests and abilities. We are deeply, madly in love but I wouldn't tell others that. It feels a bit too special to brag about as I don't see it in other's marriages. I wake up every day grateful for him and our marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it, but it is one of those things that you just know and feel. Kind of magical.

Chemical bonding. Truly.

+1 I literally have a physical reaction just thinking about him (increased heart rate, butterflies, etc).

This.

I know sometimes people think it has to be fake but DH and I are just lucky that we found "the one" on every level.

Been with him 20+ and I still get butterflies in my heart. When he looks at me, even just casually, I can feel the love radiating from him. We've been "deeply in love" from the moment we met.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the butterflies and physical reaction. Even after many years, I get excited to see him and come home to him and I am proud to call him mine. I can’t imagine life without him—literally cannot imagine it. I’m crazy about everything about him. He’s so sexy to me but also generous, loving, kind, the entire package. I truly feel that he’s irreplaceable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it, but it is one of those things that you just know and feel. Kind of magical.

Chemical bonding. Truly.

+1 I literally have a physical reaction just thinking about him (increased heart rate, butterflies, etc).

This.

I know sometimes people think it has to be fake but DH and I are just lucky that we found "the one" on every level.

Been with him 20+ and I still get butterflies in my heart. When he looks at me, even just casually, I can feel the love radiating from him. We've been "deeply in love" from the moment we met.

Same here. I've never described myself as being deeply in love, because I don't flaunt it. I have had friends and family ask or comment, "You two have something special." "Not everyone finds what you have." "You always seem so in love, what's your secret?"

There isn't a secret. We love each other, enjoy each other's company, and are equally matched in nearly every aspect. In fact, we both now work from home (different jobs), so we spend 95% of our time together each day. He is so much fun, even when doing mundane chores, or working through life's issues. There is no one else I'd rather spend my time with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the butterflies and physical reaction. Even after many years, I get excited to see him and come home to him and I am proud to call him mine. I can’t imagine life without him—literally cannot imagine it. I’m crazy about everything about him. He’s so sexy to me but also generous, loving, kind, the entire package. I truly feel that he’s irreplaceable.

I agree with this. I get a feeling in the pit of my stomach, like an intense physical reaction just thinking about him. We have been together since high school and he is completely my everything. We have an amazing bomd, like nothing I can explain- and I would descripe that as loving deeply.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for the typos above! Haha

[Anonymous]

Wow. I’ve never experienced this. With my husband or any of my boyfriends. I guess I did feel something like this for a guy I dated for 3 weeks in my early twenties who turned out to be a major player and played me.

With my husband it’s more of a best friendship and a sense of calm and security. I’ve never spent all day thinking about him.

[Anonymous]

I've been married 32 years and I've never said I'm deeply in love. I really miss my DH when he's away, sleep poorly and love it when he returns. When I'm at an event and he shows up a big smile is always on my face. We love doing things together and we have a very enjoyable sex life. He's easily my best friend. If something happened to him I'd be heartbroken. Hopefully that means I'm deeply in love, but when people say they are deeply in love I'm not sure what to believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I (married 10 years) just had a discussion last night that together we felt like a whole person. We just truly complete each other and together we're extremely well rounded in our interests and abilities. We are deeply, madly in love but I wouldn't tell others that. It feels a bit too special to brag about as I don't see it in other's marriages. I wake up every day grateful for him and our marriage.

I'm crazy about my DH but in no way does he complete me. Except for fathering my children I've always considered myself to be pretty complete emotionally, financially etc. What he does do is complement (not compliment!) me and I hope I complement him so that 1+1=3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it, but it is one of those things that you just know and feel. Kind of magical.

Chemical bonding. Truly.

+1 I literally have a physical reaction just thinking about him (increased heart rate, butterflies, etc).

This.

I know sometimes people think it has to be fake but DH and I are just lucky that we found "the one" on every level.

Been with him 20+ and I still get butterflies in my heart. When he looks at me, even just casually, I can feel the love radiating from him. We've been "deeply in love" from the moment we met.

Not from the moment we met but this. You just feel it.

I think it is like the feeling of being completely at peace and satisfied in a way. I just can't imagine being without him. When we're apart it feels like something is just not quite right.

It isn't codependency though, we are just happier and complete together. I could survive without him, but I have no desire to try.