I’ve become so bitter

[Anonymous]

I just don’t know if any woman truly loves a man for himself. Everywhere I look around me I see women settling down with men based very obviously on external factors.

“ oh his family is blue blood”
“ he is a McKinsey consultant”
“He is so logical and smart”
“ I know he will never have trouble getting hired”
“ he got me a bracelet from Tiffany’s”

I never hear anything about the mans personal attributes. It’s so obvious that if their boyfriend in question did not come with all his trappings of wealth or a good job or family status...the woman would never date him.

I’ve also seen perfectly wonderful guys in the retail industry being turned down by these same women because the guy didn’t have all of the above.

Is true love dead? Did it ever exist?

Would Meghan Markle love harry if he wasn’t the prince Harry?

[Anonymous]

God you guys are out in force this week.

[Anonymous]

No. She would love me. And I am right here waiting for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God you guys are out in force this week.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God you guys are out in force this week.

It's insane, really.



OP - You can't possibly think you know all that goes into why someone loves another person based on some superficial CONVERSATION. God, most people don't jump into all the intimate and emotional details of their relationship while making social conversation.

[Anonymous]

Are you married or single? Man or woman? Why do you care about other people's relationships and why are you venting on DCUM about it? MYOB.

[Anonymous]

You need to hang out with a better class of women!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don’t know if any woman truly loves a man for himself. Everywhere I look around me I see women settling down with men based very obviously on external factors.

“ oh his family is blue blood”
“ he is a McKinsey consultant”
“He is so logical and smart”
“ I know he will never have trouble getting hired”
“ he got me a bracelet from Tiffany’s”

I never hear anything about the mans personal attributes. It’s so obvious that if their boyfriend in question did not come with all his trappings of wealth or a good job or family status...the woman would never date him.

I’ve also seen perfectly wonderful guys in the retail industry being turned down by these same women because the guy didn’t have all of the above.

Is true love dead? Did it ever exist?

Would Meghan Markle love harry if he wasn’t the prince Harry?

Maybe you need a new circle of friends. I don’t know anyone like that.

[Anonymous]

Get a life and a boyfriend - you can pick someone all those other women rejected. Feel better.

[Anonymous]

My DH has many "visible and tangible" qualities that make him a catch but that's not why I married him. I won't bore you with why.

[Anonymous]

How wrong you are, OP. True bitterness only comes when you realize that the person you're with has deep flaws they are unwilling to correct, or can't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don’t know if any woman truly loves a man for himself. Everywhere I look around me I see women settling down with men based very obviously on external factors.

“ oh his family is blue blood”
“ he is a McKinsey consultant”
“He is so logical and smart”
“ I know he will never have trouble getting hired”
“ he got me a bracelet from Tiffany’s”

I never hear anything about the mans personal attributes. It’s so obvious that if their boyfriend in question did not come with all his trappings of wealth or a good job or family status...the woman would never date him.

I’ve also seen perfectly wonderful guys in the retail industry being turned down by these same women because the guy didn’t have all of the above.

Is true love dead? Did it ever exist?

Would Meghan Markle love harry if he wasn’t the prince Harry?

This is a personal attribute. Not too smart yourself, eh, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God you guys are out in force this week.

It's insane, really.



OP - You can't possibly think you know all that goes into why someone loves another person based on some superficial CONVERSATION. God, most people don't jump into all the intimate and emotional details of their relationship while making social conversation.

This. You'd be well served not to take to heart the things people say when making conversation, it's never the full story (not should it be).

[Anonymous]

I think it’s DC culture. I’m not actually from the DC area, just found these boards and like the wide range of topics. I’m from a small town in coal country. My DH is a blue collar worker. He’s not perfect, he had a DUI years ago, but learned his lesson. We aren’t rolling in money. But he’s a wonderful, caring, thoughtful, and downright sexy guy. I love him like crazy. People where I live don’t really seem to care too much about someone’s pedigree or salary as long as they can pay the bills. That’s how I feel, and our relationship is fantastic. Move somewhere else where wealth and material things don’t run so many people’s lives. It’s not all women and you don’t have to live life being bitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don’t know if any woman truly loves a man for himself. Everywhere I look around me I see women settling down with men based very obviously on external factors.

“ oh his family is blue blood”
“ he is a McKinsey consultant”
“He is so logical and smart”
“ I know he will never have trouble getting hired”
“ he got me a bracelet from Tiffany’s”

I never hear anything about the mans personal attributes. It’s so obvious that if their boyfriend in question did not come with all his trappings of wealth or a good job or family status...the woman would never date him.

I’ve also seen perfectly wonderful guys in the retail industry being turned down by these same women because the guy didn’t have all of the above.

Is true love dead? Did it ever exist?

Would Meghan Markle love harry if he wasn’t the prince Harry?

It's not because they didn't have those ridiculous requirements, it's because there is something seriously wrong with an adult who works in retail past their early, maybe mid 20s. I say this as someone who wasted years dating a guy like that, and sure, he was "nice", but he was also content with being lazy and letting me do all the actual adult work while he got to be a perpetual teenager. That gets old, and it's impossible to have kids with someone like that.

Most women expect a guy to be a functioning, healthy adult.