School lockdown... every man for themselves plan

[Anonymous]

DH is a high school teacher. I have told him after all these recent shootings, that in the case of a shooting at his school, I want him to leave out of the nearest exit, get in his car and come home. Of course everyone thinks this is terrible of me but I honestly feel like because his job has pretty relaxed rules in place about a school shooting situation I don’t trust that he would be safe. Does anyone else have a similar idea in these active shooter situations

[Anonymous]

That’s why your DH is a teacher and you are not.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/705904.page

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, your plan is for 30 kids to be alone in a classroom, without direction? Feeling abandoned by the person who is supposed to be their leader and decision maker? In an actual emergency, that's abhorrent.

Now imagine it was an unannounced drill and your DH is in the news for bailing out the window and losing his job. And the kids still feel abandoned.

Look, the current situation is terrifying and unacceptable. Join an organization like Moms Demand, meet with your representatives, give money and vote in a way that fixes this for everybody not just you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is a high school teacher. I have told him after all these recent shootings, that in the case of a shooting at his school, I want him to leave out of the nearest exit, get in his car and come home. Of course everyone thinks this is terrible of me but I honestly feel like because his job has pretty relaxed rules in place about a school shooting situation I don’t trust that he would be safe. Does anyone else have a similar idea in these active shooter situations

So do something to make it safer for him -- and every other teacher and student -- at school.

And, from a purely selfish point of view, the most likely outcome for your husband, if he does what you want, is that he gets fired. School shootings are rare. False alarms are more common.

[Anonymous]

Oh no. I can't imagine any true teacher doing that. What did your DH say?

[Anonymous]

My husband is the hero. He would be the one charging the gun man.

We have had some scary incidents because he went to help people—-wrestled a guy with a knife who was trying to attack/rob a woman, etc.

I have feelings like you—-but later I am proud of him.

[Anonymous]

Prepare for him to be fired.

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm sure you are a troll.

If not, he should ask the principal for better protocols in place for shootings (it's called a lockdown), and failing that, go teach elsewhere or stop teaching.

But no. A teacher does not up and leave his students.

[Anonymous]

In the workplace we're advised to run--hide--fight. I imagine things are different at a school where there children, OP. Do you have kids? How would you feel if an adult deserted your preschooler in an active shooter situation?

If DH is not up to the task, he should leave. There are plenty of other careers he can pursue. (Sadly, there is no guarantee he won't be gunned down by a disgruntled co-worker anywhere else.)

[Anonymous]

My dad was an assistant principal. I at one point begged him not to take on some nut with a gun. He told me “I have to protect those kids”

School personnel are heroes. We shouldn’t have to ask them to protect our kids from death, but they will.

[Anonymous]

There was another thread after the FL shooting where a bunch of teachers admitted they’d not take a bullet for their students. I’ll see if I can find it here.

I get it. Teaching is a job. Teachers are people not martyrs. We don’t expect people in other professions to jump in front of bullets. There’s like 1 job that has that requirement: secret service agent.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get the point you are making. Nobody is doing anything to protect our kids and teachers, still! THAT is abhorrent. Though teachers would not do this, it is actually a good way to press the point home with those who think teachers should be armed. What if it were the opposite? What if it were "save yourself"?

[Anonymous]

What makes you think your DH wants to rave home to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was another thread after the FL shooting where a bunch of teachers admitted they’d not take a bullet for their students. I’ll see if I can find it here.

I get it. Teaching is a job. Teachers are people not martyrs. We don’t expect people in other professions to jump in front of bullets. There’s like 1 job that has that requirement: secret service agent.

Yes, one of the students claimed that a teacher closed the door to the classroom before he could get inside. He banged on the door but the teacher wouldn’t open.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is a teacher. She would stand in front her her kids to protect them. I was a teacher for years. I would die trying to keep my kids safe. All teachers I know feel the same.

I never say this, but OP, you are a horrible, horrible person. I would see a psychiatrist. You are a sociopath.