I Made A Fool Of Mysef.

[Anonymous]

I went on a third with a great guy on Sunday. I’ve been single for a long time and I really like him. We met through mutual friends a month before our first date, but haven’t hung out together until last weekend. I drank too much because I was so nervous. I rarely drink ( maybe 1-2 times every 6 months), and I’m a lightweight - two glasses of wine makes me pretty tipsy. We ended up having sex, which again, is out of character for me. Things are a big fwill guy, but I was more freaky than usual in the beginning, and we didn’t use protection, at least I think. I sent him a text yesterday with a quick “Hi”, with no reply back. I don’t know where to go from here or what to do.

[Anonymous]

He is an ass if he didn't reply back. Move on.

[Anonymous]

STD testing ? I mean really, what is there to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went on a third with a great guy on Sunday. I’ve been single for a long time and I really like him. We met through mutual friends a month before our first date, but haven’t hung out together until last weekend. I drank too much because I was so nervous. I rarely drink ( maybe 1-2 times every 6 months), and I’m a lightweight - two glasses of wine makes me pretty tipsy. We ended up having sex, which again, is out of character for me. Things are a big fwill guy, but I was more freaky than usual in the beginning, and we didn’t use protection, at least I think. I sent him a text yesterday with a quick “Hi”, with no reply back. I don’t know where to go from here or what to do.

What is this supposed to say?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn’t like sex ...?
You didn’t do anything wrong. His loss.

[Anonymous]

You seem very young. Go get tested and try online dating instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, getting nervous, and then beating yourself up if it doesn't work out.

[Anonymous]

First date and you all met in a bedroom? First date and had sex? First date and no protection? I wouldn’t text you back either but thanks for the good time. Now your friends will hear all about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went on a third with a great guy on Sunday. I’ve been single for a long time and I really like him. We met through mutual friends a month before our first date, but haven’t hung out together until last weekend. I drank too much because I was so nervous. I rarely drink ( maybe 1-2 times every 6 months), and I’m a lightweight - two glasses of wine makes me pretty tipsy. We ended up having sex, which again, is out of character for me. Things are a big fwill guy, but I was more freaky than usual in the beginning, and we didn’t use protection, at least I think. I sent him a text yesterday with a quick “Hi”, with no reply back. I don’t know where to go from here or what to do.

How did you go on a third date with someone you haven't hung out in person with until the weekend? Did you essentially spend the weekend with him and consider each thing you did a separate date?

[Anonymous]

How are you unsure whether you were safe or not? THAT is pretty dang drunk.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry OP. You live and learn, don’t sweat it. And if he judges for this one thing, he’s not as great of a guy as you think. You knew him before, you’re learning what’s true now. He may feel the same way. You could always say that you enjoyed seeing him, but I don’t think I’d say anything further until/if he responds.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and definitely get Plan B, $50 OTC to be safe - and testing in 30 days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem very young. Go get tested and try online dating instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, getting nervous, and then beating yourself up if it doesn't work out.

“You seem very young” = not helpful
Young people date. What is your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You seem very young. Go get tested and try online dating instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, getting nervous, and then beating yourself up if it doesn't work out.

“You seem very young” = not helpful
Young people date. What is your point?

My point is exactly what I said. Get tested, try online dating, and stop putting all of your eggs in one basket. Also since you want further advice: drink something nonalcoholic between alcoholic drinks so you don't wind up "unsure" of whether you need to get Plan B the next morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and definitely get Plan B, $50 OTC to be safe - and testing in 30 days.

Stat! The quicker you do it, the more likely it is to work.

[Anonymous]

You made a mistake, you are human, you are not a fool, please don't beat yourself up. Just get tested, and live and learn. All of the posters being jerks here have done the same thing at some point.