A Red Flag or Cute?
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Anonymous
| Met a man in a casual situation. We exchange phone numbers and agreed to go on a first date. He shows up to my house with a compatibility test. About 30 or so questions, which he precedes to ask me. I agree to take the test because I'm uncertain what it means at this point, and I don't want to be rude. I don't really remember the results of the test because it felt more like a joke to me or maybe a.fun ice breaker. We've only been casually dating for a few weeks but I can't past the fact that he asked me to take a compatibility test. I thought the purpose of dating was to get to know each other in an intimate setting. If this happened to you, would you consider it a red flag or just a really cute behavior? We haven't been dating long enough for me to know if this is a red flag and if there are other behaviors that could be just as strange. I can tell you fhat he is 33 and still.lives with his parents. |
Anonymous
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Are you serious? This happened?
The being 33 and living with parents is way more concerning but the test thing is weird as hell |
Anonymous
| Did he take it also? That would be a fun ice breaker if you both took together. |
Anonymous
| This is why you never have someone come to your home on a first date! (And also, being murdered) |
Anonymous
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I'm confused- you invited him to your home for a first date and he brought a compatibility test?
Is he a virgin? |
Anonymous
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Not cute. I would have said "We're on a date RIGHT NOW. If you're more interested in getting to know someone through a test like that, try EHarmony."
33 and living at home is a deal breaker for me, though. Once that came out I would have told him that no compatibility test in the world is going to match us, because he is a child. |
Anonymous
| HA HA HA, he thinks a compatibility test is going to tell him something. |
Anonymous
| If he was that interested in compatibility, I would have? just told him to go home and? Google zodiac signs. Then I would have gone out on my own and had fun without some creepy dude hanging around. You should never have invited him to your house. |
Anonymous
| I'm not sure if it's a red flag (probably), but it's definitely not cute. WTF? |
Anonymous
| OP, how desperate are you to continue dating him and actually wonder if this is cute? |
Anonymous
| OP here, yes it was probably a mistake to invie him into my house but that's not really the issue (but I will heed your advice in the future). We both took the test, and then proceeded to go out to dinner. I do see the signs that he's somewhat immature. His last 2 relationships were with women in Australia via online dating. He's not a virgin but I did learn that he had a long-term 7-year relationship with a woman who was the first woman he slept with. She broke up with bim. I don't think this is a relationship worth pursuing, but it's the compatibility test that really threw me. |
Anonymous
Then why are you even giving this a second thought? He sounds like a loser and you sound desperate to make it possibly work. |
Anonymous
I agree that you shouldn't pursue this OP, he sounds too awkward at best. And while I know you think it's not the issue, it really is a bad idea to invite a stranger to your home, please reconsider in the future. |
Anonymous
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Nope. This guy is a social idiot. I forbid you to keep seeing him. |
Anonymous
| Just wondering, what ethnicity is he? |