A Red Flag or Cute?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met a man in a casual situation. We exchange phone numbers and agreed to go on a first date. He shows up to my house with a compatibility test. About 30 or so questions, which he precedes to ask me. I agree to take the test because I'm uncertain what it means at this point, and I don't want to be rude. I don't really remember the results of the test because it felt more like a joke to me or maybe a.fun ice breaker. We've only been casually dating for a few weeks but I can't past the fact that he asked me to take a compatibility test. I thought the purpose of dating was to get to know each other in an intimate setting. If this happened to you, would you consider it a red flag or just a really cute behavior? We haven't been dating long enough for me to know if this is a red flag and if there are other behaviors that could be just as strange. I can tell you fhat he is 33 and still.lives with his parents.

The compatibility test is your potential red flag!? How about the bit about him living with mommy and daddy at age 33?

+10000

This is the bigger red flag, OP. A guy living with his parents at the age of 33 is Trouble with a capital T.

[Anonymous]

i am laughing my a$$ off.

i never call troll but it has to be one.

who needs to come to dcum to ask if this loser is a red flag?

he is a BRIGHT NEON ORANGE FLAG with the word EXPLOSIVE written in 100 languages -- some of those languages are not even spoken anymore...

STAY AWAY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Nope. This guy is a social idiot. I forbid you to keep seeing him.

+ 1.

other sane person in the room here.

i FORBID you from ever seeing this person again for any reason.

god forbid you get drunk, sleep with him, end up pregs and there is ANOTHER one of him ever made in the future.

darwinism should work here.

[Anonymous]

Enquiring minds want (need!) to know OP!

What were the compatibility tests result??!

Positive or negative??

[Anonymous]

He is half white, half Latin. Don't remember the results, as we didn't really go over them in detail. It was more like, "Okay, that was odd, now let's go to dinner."

[Anonymous]

Dump him quick!! This dude has ISSUES !!! (I am male)

[Anonymous]

It would be cute if there were 3 questions, not 30.

[Anonymous]

Is he perhaps on the spectrum?

[Anonymous]

Is he well endowed OP?

[Anonymous]

This is the kind of guy who will write you a three page breakup letter if you aren't a fit so wait for that (yes it happened after a 2 hr date I cut short because there were controlling/weird red flags). Way too much energy on something when you've just met. Wait til his penis shows you it's rulebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he perhaps on the spectrum?

He mentioned that he believes he could be ADD, but nothing out of the ordinary. It took him 12 years to.complete college. Penis size? Don't know, and won't be finding out. Dinner was our last date and I.will heed all.of your advice.

[Anonymous]

Are you pretty new to dating? Sounds like he has a lot of red flags that you were ignoring. You may want to look at some dating blogs or read some books and familiarize yourself with the landscape a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i am laughing my a$$ off.

i never call troll but it has to be one.

who needs to come to dcum to ask if this loser is a red flag?

he is a BRIGHT NEON ORANGE FLAG with the word EXPLOSIVE written in 100 languages -- some of those languages are not even spoken anymore...

STAY AWAY.

+1000 On what planet is anything OP described cute?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you pretty new to dating? Sounds like he has a lot of red flags that you were ignoring. You may want to look at some dating blogs or read some books and familiarize yourself with the landscape a bit.

I am not new to dating, but I've come to realize that I'm the kind of person who does not want to hurt people. I think the correct label is an "empath." I feel like I need to save people, to dig deep until I fnd the good qualities in a.person, even if they are miniscule compared to.the red flags. I invest too.much time trying to fix people, then.find myself in relationships that make no sense. Then, it is too.late to.turn back because on some level I've invested too.much time and effort. Sadlly, I don't think I would recognize a red flag if you waved it in my face.

[Anonymous]

The biggest red flag in all of this is you inviting him to your house.