I want my MIL to stop sending 10 lbs of candy for every minor holiday

[Anonymous]

Title says it all. It’s just frustrating to me. Literally, I weighed it, 10 lbs of candy per child arrive for every Valentine’s Day, St Patrick’s, Easter, Halloween. It gets old. MIL is morbidly obese, can’t walk ect, barely can hold on to a baby because of girth. She also sends outfits for holidays when I already have them, money from tooth fairy when the tooth fairy has already come, presents and stockings from Santa (with more like 20 lbs of candy per child). I want to say “you’ve already had your children. Reign it in!”. I’m sure I will flamed for this by those that have lost grandparents they have loved. I’m tired of being the candy police. It’s gets so old and there is a limit.

[Anonymous]

You clearly have a mouth. Use it. Zero sympathy.

[Anonymous]

just intercept it and toss it. You won't change her.

[Anonymous]

You sound bitter. Also, "rein."

[Anonymous]

Throw it away or take it into work. My mom sends stuff sometimes that I don't want to give to my kids so I either throw it away or donate it. It's easy.

[Anonymous]

I think you start tossing the candy before the kids see it. Money and presents, whatever. You can donate those if you like. She's trying very hard to express her love, so find a way among the many she's offering that works for you and offload the rest.

[Anonymous]

"Hello MIL, from now on we have decided to stop the candy train. Thank you so much for sending candy in the past. Please don't send any more."

"Hello MIL, thank you for the candy we received today. I got rid of it, since I told you we were not accepting candy anymore. I appreciate the thought, however."

"Hmm, what candy? Oh, I don't open your packages anymore now. They go straight in the trash."

And then she'll get it.

[Anonymous]

Oh my OP...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you start tossing the candy before the kids see it. Money and presents, whatever. You can donate those if you like. She's trying very hard to express her love, so find a way among the many she's offering that works for you and offload the rest.

+1

I would say thank you and either throw out or donate or take to the office. If she ever asks you can tell her it's far too much candy and you have to take it to the office or that they still had candy left over from the previous two holidays so that went to the donation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"Hello MIL, from now on we have decided to stop the candy train. Thank you so much for sending candy in the past. Please don't send any more."

"Hello MIL, thank you for the candy we received today. I got rid of it, since I told you we were not accepting candy anymore. I appreciate the thought, however."

"Hmm, what candy? Oh, I don't open your packages anymore now. They go straight in the trash."

And then she'll get it.

OP doesn't need to be cruel. The MIL is trying desperately to shower love on her grandchildren. There's a better way to handles this then "they go straight in the trash."

[Anonymous]

Just give it away.

[Anonymous]

The candy is annoying. The other stuff is fine. Just give the candy away or freeze it and hand it out in tiny portions. I mean, honestly...this is not something to get bent out of shape about.

[Anonymous]

Take it to work. I don’t get why you’re raging out about it so badly.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for the validation. I will ask her to stop. I really didn’t think I was going to get that response.

Unfortunately we work from home so there is no break room to leave it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take it to work. I don’t get why you’re raging out about it so badly.

+1. Your coworkers will love you for this problem.