Bad luck with men

[Anonymous]

Aside from a boyfriend in high school, I’ve never been treated well by a man. Ever. I’ve been divorced for 6 years and cannot imagine dating or exposing myself to all that trouble. I’m feeling okay most of the time. The only feel sorry for myself when I see couples that appear happy and remind me of what I thought I’d have ( ie a couple that reminds me of me and my ex-husband). Anyone here never date or marry again- please tell me it’s not that unusual and tolerable long term.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine to not date or marry if you are happy. I suggest you consult a clinical psychologist to see if counseling may help with your feelings.

[Anonymous]

All is not fair in dating. Make sure the man pursues the hell out of you. If that's the case, the relationship will be smoother. In terms of romance, men should take the lead. unfortunately men haven't totally evolved past cave man.

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel the same way. Not sure if men have always sucked or if this is something new. I don't know what to tell ya, I'm in the same boat and have pretty much given up hope.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t dated anyone in 9 years. And I’m totally fine with that. My last relationship was with a ‘double lifer’ and I have no desire to go through that again. I’d rather be happily alone than open myself to that level of hurt again.

[Anonymous]

It’s not bad luck that you repeatedly got involved with shitty men. It’s by choice. Seek therapy for your issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not bad luck that you repeatedly got involved with shitty men. It’s by choice. Seek therapy for your issues.

No, it's due to the pure number of shitty men out there these days. Are you single and dating? If not, then you have no clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not bad luck that you repeatedly got involved with shitty men. It’s by choice. Seek therapy for your issues.

No, it's due to the pure number of shitty men out there these days. Are you single and dating? If not, then you have no clue.

Keep making excuses for your life. I’m sure it will help you out in the long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not bad luck that you repeatedly got involved with shitty men. It’s by choice. Seek therapy for your issues.

No, it's due to the pure number of shitty men out there these days. Are you single and dating? If not, then you have no clue.

Keep making excuses for your life. I’m sure it will help you out in the long term.

It absolutely has. I will not be a doormat. I will not be treated badly. I will not be abused. I will not be lied to or cheated on. I will. To take care of a total bum deadbeat. I've walked away from men who have done all of these things, and yes walking away has helped me out for the long term.

Maybe one day I will meet a nice man who is what he says he is and treats me well. Maybe.

But from a pure numbers perspective, whether you believe it or not, there are many guys out there who are not good to women. They are unkind, not truthful, abusive, only want to be fwb, deadbeats, etc. there are loads of these types, and if you've been dating recently you would know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not bad luck that you repeatedly got involved with shitty men. It’s by choice. Seek therapy for your issues.

No, it's due to the pure number of shitty men out there these days. Are you single and dating? If not, then you have no clue.

Keep making excuses for your life. I’m sure it will help you out in the long term.

It absolutely has. I will not be a doormat. I will not be treated badly. I will not be abused. I will not be lied to or cheated on. I will. To take care of a total bum deadbeat. I've walked away from men who have done all of these things, and yes walking away has helped me out for the long term.

Maybe one day I will meet a nice man who is what he says he is and treats me well. Maybe.

But from a pure numbers perspective, whether you believe it or not, there are many guys out there who are not good to women. They are unkind, not truthful, abusive, only want to be fwb, deadbeats, etc. there are loads of these types, and if you've been dating recently you would know that.

Yeah. And men need to guard against the manipulative gold-digger who claims high career aspirations but secretly covers the Twinkie eating SAHM lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not bad luck that you repeatedly got involved with shitty men. It’s by choice. Seek therapy for your issues.

No, it's due to the pure number of shitty men out there these days. Are you single and dating? If not, then you have no clue.

Keep making excuses for your life. I’m sure it will help you out in the long term.

It absolutely has. I will not be a doormat. I will not be treated badly. I will not be abused. I will not be lied to or cheated on. I will. To take care of a total bum deadbeat. I've walked away from men who have done all of these things, and yes walking away has helped me out for the long term.

Maybe one day I will meet a nice man who is what he says he is and treats me well. Maybe.

But from a pure numbers perspective, whether you believe it or not, there are many guys out there who are not good to women. They are unkind, not truthful, abusive, only want to be fwb, deadbeats, etc. there are loads of these types, and if you've been dating recently you would know that.

+1000 A lot of men out there seem to think that they are some type of "prize" that women are "lucky" to get. They want (& expect sex) if they buy you a damn cup of coffee. They ask you to dinner and then ask you to split the check because they say "I don't want to insult you". Went out with one a-hole this weekend. After 1 cup of coffee & a bagel for the first date, then , a very cheap dinner at TGIF (2 appetizers & WATER that we split!), he asked if I wanted to go to his place or he could come to mine next time...Yeah, NO next time..Rather go out with my girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

The sad truth is, as a woman, the longer you wait, the less available are the good men...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Yeah. And men need to guard against the manipulative gold-digger who claims high career aspirations but secretly covers the Twinkie eating SAHM lifestyle.

If I have to split the housework, take care of the kids 90% of the time, and work 100% of the time..why would I want to be married to someone like you? I'll marry you, have my 2 kids, divorce you. You will pay child support. And then I will do all my housework, work 100% of the time, but only have to do 50% of the child care (& childcare costs). And not have to put up with your lazy, selfish, depressed ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Yeah. And men need to guard against the manipulative gold-digger who claims high career aspirations but secretly covers the Twinkie eating SAHM lifestyle.

If I have to split the housework, take care of the kids 90% of the time, and work 100% of the time..why would I want to be married to someone like you? I'll marry you, have my 2 kids, divorce you. You will pay child support. And then I will do all my housework, work 100% of the time, but only have to do 50% of the child care (& childcare costs). And not have to put up with your lazy, selfish, depressed ass.

Oh no- correction, if I am married to you I also get to do 90% of the housework too. Divorced I do NONE of your shit